have i streached it already?!!!!!!!

Christine I think that you are doing a great job for 9 months out. Nobody is going to be perfect in everything they eat. I'm not. I already know this & I haven't even had surgery yet. We are all in this together. There isn't a person on this board who doesn't need support. If they didn't need support, they would not have came here to this board in the first place. I just don't understand how a person can eat anything that is not the best choice, if they still remember how they felt pre-op. It is like you said, you remember thinking "If only I was given the chance". Does that way of thinking leave that quick after WLS ? I'm honestly not trying to bash anyone, I just really need some answers to this question so I will be ready to handle it when the time comes. Do I need a bracelet like the one Lance has out ? Of course mine would say "What The Hell RU Doing" or "Is This A Good Choice". I know this sounds funny, but I'm not playing. Do I need some type of daily reminder stuck on me ??? I do not like being fat. I do not want to have surgery & fail at this.

Thank you Tammy and I know you are not bashing anyone (NEVER would YOU do that..haha).... My problem is moderation. I buy the SF candies or the baked cheetos or even my protein shakes.. I find something I like and for some reason my head thinks it has to keep eating it or there wont be any left later. I do not know why I am like that. They sell this stuff everyday and every store... Its making myself know that i have had enough and can have more of that later without trying to cram it all in just because its there and tastes good. One day my daughter had some reeses peices and I said I will just have 5..I had those 5 and something happened to me. I poured them all into my hand and crammed them in my mouth as fast as i could. I was binging and I was like a mad woma.. I couldnt eat them fast enough. It was my 1st binge since surgery and it opened the door.. I binge alot now since then. I do sometiems make good choices for myself. Mostly those days are the days Melissa really makes the choices for me. Haha... If the temptation is not there I do good.. If its there--I do poorly. I bought 2 packs of SF Peppermint Patties and a pack of SF chocolate bars at Walmart last night. I have them buried in my china cabinet and will only take 1 a day to work. Thats not even a full serving and I will chew it slowly and make myself be satisfied with it. Making myself pack a lunch is going to be a lifesaver on me and my wallet. I cant afford to eat out everyday plus it gives me lots of opprotunity to pick bad choices. I need to go back to my original vow to only eat out once a week and that needs to be Amberjack and steamed veggies. I could eat that for Breakfast, lunch, and dinner if I could afford it. I wonder if my husband could go work on a fishing boat?! I have eaten some really good foods that I normally wouldnt if I were preop... I enjoy salads more than I did before but its the dressing that I have a hard time with. Its very high in cals and I cant make myself eat the low fat/carb/calorie kind. McDonalds Chicken Bacon Salad is awesome but once you add that salad dressing its not that good anymore. Gratned I dont pour it on like soup anymore but even a little has a lot of cals. I did choose fat free milk last night instead of the regular milk. Calorie difference is 60 cals... I will grin and bear it. It wasnt so bad. I had it last night with my blueberries/Strawberries. Just had to add a little extra splenda.. Haha.. I do not like being fat either and I dont want to be there again. I DO need a daily reminder. As I was getting out of the car yesterday at Walmart my fat picture fell out of my door pocket onto the ground. That picture kept me out of the chip isle at walmart. Soometimes I just allow myself to think I am normal and all is okay since I have had surgery. Its not and I still need to watch it. I can gain just like everyone else. Surgery or not... This is my choice. The easy stage is gone for me. Now its getting hard. I am not losing anymore and I DONT want to start gaining. Right now some are still malabsorbing... I think I have quit malabsorbing and I need to make all my cals count. I will give myself certain days of the week to be weak. Maybe Sundays... haha.. just kidding... 1200 cals are my goal for a day. That is optimal for me. 1600 is to maintain. I want to lose a little more so 1200 or less a day is my goal. 1 grab bag of cheetos and thats blown--haha...well almost. My craving this morning seems to be boiled peanuts. I havnet had breakfast yet so I am going to make my eggs and sausage and maybe that craving will be gone. Also, keeping my fitday journal is good but when I eat foods that I dont know the calorie count for is difficult. So, sticking to what I can tell is gonna have to work. Another thing I worry about it is how much is really what.. If I eat a cup of veggies is that really 8 ounces of food I just ate or is it really more like 4 ounces chewed up? Cause I can eat 3-4-5 ounces of meat and still eat some veggies. Fish mostly but if its chicken I can not eat near as much. Gots to go.... Kid is screaming for food. Chow...

I wish I had a Melissa to help me. The only bad thing I'm doing is eating that darn sf candy (peppermint patties) and cookies. But as of day before yesterday I got a handle on it. I entered alot of the things I eat on fitday so I can start keeping up with my calories and protein and stuff again. I really don't eat nothing I'm not suppose to eat. I still can't have no meat but poultry and seafood. I do good with that I just don't eat like I should. But thanks to you and Melissa and reading ya'lls post I am starting to do better. I bought me some unjury and I am mixing it with my shake to get more protein. So I hope that helps also. And like I told the others anytime I need it let me have it. Becky

Girl, I love ya, but your pouch was prolly 3 ounces to begin with and it hurt when you ate 4 ounces and you almost got sick, so I'd say you are okay. But I have the bariatric nutrition guide from KEESLER! If you want a copy, I will email it to you! Smoochies Arlies

I want it.. Will you mail it to me? Pecan pie? I cant figure out how to make karo SF? Was it SF Pecan Pie? Am I missing something?

Girl, you don't need the Karo for a pecan pie. I have a recipe for sf pecan pie. If I had known you were a pecan pie girl I would have made you one already. Crap, I am slapping your hand one minute and enabling you the next. No pecan pie for you unless you plan it in your day appropriately and it fits in with your intake for the day. Now is that better. Melissa

The one and only thing I worried about at Thanksgiving dinner was the pecan pie. I love pecan pie but luckily nobody made it. Devine intervention as you would say...

Thank Arlies , I've got one they gave me it's just real vague. I need to be told what to eat and not to eat every second of the day! I'm gonna get it back out and see if i can understand it a little better, if i read it for the 1000th time maybe it will sink in. I realy dont think i streached my pouch i just have to have something to worry about or i'm not happy! I'm going to do better today and form now on, i promise, i dont want to gain what little bit i have lost back. I just will not go out with my family to eat anymore, cause i cant make a sinceable choice when faced with so may opptions. I will stay home and eat my chicken, and fish and be happy with it. I'm not going to buy anymore s/f candy well except for one small bag a month, and we all know when that will be,as this will keep me form hurtting someone!hehe Well enough of all this , im a new Dawn today no more bad stuff for me! DAWN

please email it to me I am sure I am eating no no foods and I want help thanks hun. Barry

NEED YOUR EMAIL, SWEET PEA! sMOOCHIES aRLIES