Men's "Private" Board

heheheheheheheheheheh c'mon now, Dawn. We seen your hubby and we KNOW u gots young'uns. The innocent trip don't work on us LOL

It's true Andie I'm innocent, we adopted all of them!LOL

Tammy, I think you just didn't get the whole picture Concerning the Men's Issues Forum. As you put it- "Some seem to be "upset" because of a few women peeking & posting over there. " All of the "uproar" was over the several posts That got pulled by the moderators. That "peeking" was in fact Some dear sweet ladies filling up the site with multiple posts Mocking the existence of such a Forum. The Forum was never set up as a "Men's Only" But the Women who thought it was a Silly idea to begin with Began referring to it as-- "Boys Only Club House", "The LITTLE Men's Club" Sort insensitive remarks, like calling it "Hen Pecked Hall." You can understand. One of the Men put out a post ASKING if the Women Could refrain from filling up the forum with Posts that Were basically Ridiculing the idea of Men's Topics. Welcome to come and read, but please stop with the postings About how stupid it was to have a place for Men's concerns. If they had been posting support or anything other than mocking Their posts would not have been pulled by the Moderators. But It was clear that there comments were typical Male-Bashing And therefore broke some of the rules for posting. You know, Common, Low-Brow Male-Bashing like- "There's NOTHING worse than a man." There are several women's posts there That weren't solely aimed at poking fun of the Men And those posts are still there. Many women said that the guys should just let Those women who were there to poke fun, Just have their fun, and when the "newness wore off" they would Move on to other things. Sort of like that- "Don't get upset by those kids making fun of how enormously fat you are, Just let them have their fun, and when the "newness wears off" they'll move on." How could those "Fussy Cuss'es" not be happy with that. Even some Women were offended that there was a Men's Forum But No Women's Forum! Sort of like those folks who get upset that there's a Black American Forum, But No White American Forum. Or those people who are upset that there is a DS Forum And a Lap-Band Forum But No RNY Forum. Clearly these types are new and don't understand that 95% of the Main Message Board is White, RNY, Women. But how can you hold a thing like that against those who just Don't know any better. The Moderators Pull the Posts by those women because they Could see that they were Not supporting, Not informing, Not asking for advice, Just "Stirring the Post" and putting links out there Asking others to "get upset too." So Glad we don't have people like that here. Thanks for your continued and constant Support, Compassion, Advice, and information. That is after all why this site exists. I hope a bunch don't show up And start making fun of those ideas. Best Wishes- Dx

I wholeheartedly agree with you there, Dex. The main board and even in our MS board, we're mainly women and there are so many things we discuss that we don't even think about "what if a guy reads this" because we're out-numbering you guys what, one in 20 or more? LOL It's sad that some folks can't agree to disagree, if their opinion isn't what goes, they bash. I, for my part, like my men *grins* and wouldn't bash them.They come in handy and are very sweet. Plus they mow lawns I believe you guys deserve a separate board, just like I would think women should have a board that THEY can discuss the "sensitive" issues on, instead of having to post " WOMEN ONLY PLEASE" on the main. Anytime we see something that we're not supposed to look at, we are magically drawn to it. Blame Eve for this, I say! Ever since Eden we can't keep to ourselves and always got our nose in the forbidden fruit Just my nickel's worth. Y'all have a great weekend. ~Andie~

My new excuse: Blame Eve for this, I say! Ever since Eden we can't keep to ourselves and always got our nose in the forbidden fruit . Loved that...

I agree with you !!! Eve Did It !!! It's Eve's Fault !!! But wait..... Adam took a bite too. I'm pretty sure Eve didn't "twist his arm" to take that bite. I can just hear Eve now.... "Wait just a minute, Adam took a bite on his own free will. He needs to admit his guilt & stop trying to blame me for all his problems. He could have just walked away, but instead he was right up in the middle of it all. Wearing nothing at all but a smile". Tammy

Dx, I haven't seen all the post on the men's forum. So, I don't what has been pulled or hasn't been pulled. As a matter of fact the only time I even thought about going to checking it out (& the only time I have ever went over there) was when it was brought to my attention by another post having to do something about "getting to know each other". It's very possible that some people are trying to read different meanings into things that I have said. I know that there is no way that you could be in that group. But just so you will know & you can put other worried minds at ease, let me tell you my thoughts on it. First & foremost, I think that men should have their own forum. This way they have a place to discuss their "man" problems without a woman being there & seeing everything that is being said. Plus the fact that most women like myself, are just not comfortable with males talking about all of their private issues around them. Which I'm sure that you understand because I think that you would feel out of place if majority of the talk here was about vaginal dryness, yeast infections, etc. ? Most men that are what I would refer to as "hen pecked" are those who have been around women in what they see as a "female space" so much that once they finally get their own "male space", they lash out at the females in an attempt to try & keep them out of their space. Which that type of thing goes on in all sorts of places, not just here. And you have to admit "hen pecked" is a lot better than "hen peckers". I don't know how other females feel. But as for myself, I'd rather hit my finger with a hammer than hear a man cry (fuss, beg, plead, etc.). Simply because if a man is to the point of "crying" over something, he is at the end of his rope & he is really wanting what ever it is he is "crying" about. And the "crying" term that I'm using doesn't mean that he is actually crying tears. The women who are saying "let the newness wear off" actually have a point, in my opinion. Because the more fussing that the men do towards women that are there or not & sending them emails "putting them in their place", is just like asking them to come back. You know, it's kinda like reverse psychology. Only most of the men don't see it as though they are asking them to come back. And that makes the men fussy & I'm sure that some are ready to curse, if they haven't been cussy already. Even if the main board is 95% White, RNY, & Women, the fact remains that it is still open to everyone. Even the other 5%, other races, & men. And probably to some who may have had a sex change in their life. And that is OK too. Because everyone is welcome there. I would love to see the women have their own board also. You know, for our private & intimate questions that only another woman could answer & to avoid asking those questions in front of the men. I think that the men would understand that because it's the same reason they wanted to have their own space. It is just down right embarrassing to ask certain questions in front of the other sex at times. I honestly don't know what would be worse, a woman asking a man about "vaginal problems" or a man asking a woman about "penis problems". That is why I think that the women & the men should have their own forums. There could be just way too much information on the Male Forum for me. Now I'm the type person that if I see a problem somewhere, I will try & warn others about it. Plus, to keep others from asking over & over "Are you sure" & "Really, Where ?" I just go ahead & tell them. Also, when you show people what is going on (others being fussed at, etc.), they usually tend to stay away from such place once they see it for themselves. Therefore, they are not mixed up in fussing & it prevents other arguments from starting. Basically it is a way of preventing "a pot being stirred". I hope that the men can start having all the support, compassion, advice, & information that they need over at the "Men's Forum". I am sure that the men will have all of those things once everyone stops taking everything that is being said personally, to heart & reading bad things into everything that is said. I understand that emotions are running high on the Men's Forum. But I am so very thankful that you are level headed & above assuming that anyone would make fun of or poke fun at men. I know some people just assume they know for a fact what someone is thinking or saying. Then things get out of hand, turn ugly & people get their feelings hurt. We all should remember to just ask what someone is saying. You know what I mean. I hope that you have fun at the Men's Forum & that you learn a lot. But most of all that your able to help your fellow man with plenty of helpful info. And who knows maybe one day you will be able to tell us women, "To have fun over at our Cackling Hen House". Since most men refer to laughing women as "A Bunch of Cackling Hen's". Tammy

Thanks for the reply Tammy, One of the big things that got the "Boys" upset, Was that woman who in a later post said she had "...got an email "putting her in her place" ? She had been "hitting on" the men, married and otherwise. She took the notion of "Men's Forum" As a new place to go shopping for them. She got e-mails cause she had started e-mailing the men with All sorts of "forward" messages. One guy said it best as feeling- "...like being the last piece of chicken at a picnic." Even Openly Gay David Barr got a "proposal." She must have seen the main-board post from Amy entitled- "Looking for the Men..." And mistook it as an invitation. Once she got turned down publicly on the board a few times, She started just filling up post after post With new and different ways to make fun of men. The Moderators moved in and pulled her posts as well As those from a few other Gals who had no idea why the men were asking to be- "Left Alone." Even old "Poppa Hotrolls" was ready to just leave AMOS Rather than be stalked by some loony of a desperate and lonely Gal. So, that's what got it all started, I'm sorry it just seemed to those who didn't know the whole story As "the little Boys Club" wanting to pull up the ladder to their Clubhouse. Best Wishes- Dx

Sweetie I hope that you know I love you. As a friend. Only. Period. Now I like to "flirt" with the boys from time to time, but you better believe that it is just playing around with them. Or an attempt to make a "new guy" here feel welcome. Now as for myself, I have more at home than I can handle Why some women feel the need to "chase" a man is beyond me. The only type of "forward" messages that someone will get from me, is an actual forwarded email message. You know what I mean. Jokes, Prayer Request, etc. I hate the fact that some female's feel the need to go to the Men's Forum looking for men & assuming that everyone is up for grabs. I have some advise for everyone at the Men's Forum. PULL UP THAT LADDER. NAIL THE DOOR SHUT. PUT UP GIRLIE POSTERS OVER THE WINDOWS & DUCK !!! Have you thought about trying to see if the forum could be password protected ? I don't know if it would work. But it's sure worth checking in to. I'll be honest with you. If the girls ever get our own "Private Hen House" & some males come up in there while I'm on my nest, I'm not saying a word. If you tell them leave, it only makes them want to stay more. If you talk to them, it encourages them to keep on posting. I mean those type tactics should work to get them to leave. Without hurting their feeling or starting arguments. Plus I am sure that you know, the worst mistakes a man can ever make is to tell any females: they better not, don't, you can't, etc. It just makes them want to that much more. Things will die down soon over there I'm sure. And I do hope that you know I am in no way making fun of the men. I think the men should have their own place. Simply for the reason's that I posted earlier. The way I talk, is just the way I am. Heck on laundry day around my house, it is nothing for me to ask "has anyone seen my over the shoulder boulder holder". I'd rather have fun while talking than be serious all the time. It sure makes life a lot more fun. Plus you have to remember, I haven't had surgery & I'm unable to get out & enjoy all the things that life has to offer. I have to make what ever I can do into a way to have fun. So... Now off with you Man. Go to Your Man Board & Post Away. And remember to do the Tim Taylor Home Improvement grunt as you go. Tammy

LEAVE THEM BOYS ALONE!!! They are all MINE anyway!!! I bet I was the first peeper when Dex posted about it....but post, NOPE!!! I likes my men to like me!!!! And as for the sex board......you know of course, that unlike Christine, I have NEVER done that.....We paid about $42 for Jon - He was a Sear's best....and $19 for Em - she was a Kmart blue light special......that's my story and i am sticking to it!!! Smoochies Arlies