Pity Me, Please

I have not lost 1 pound in almost 3 weeks. I am so frustrated with not losing. It is taking a huge toll on me-Emotionally. I want to strangle my husband. This is so personal but I dont understand why men hate condoms. I just think he is being selfish. I am having to have BC which is hendering my weight loss because he doesnt like to wear condoms. It kinda is under my skin. It kills me to get up every morning and see the scales sitting still at 203. I did the weight loss calculator and I have lost 59% of the weight I need to lose. But I still have 41% to lose. I cant help but wonder if I am just going to lose 59% and thats all. I visited my OB last week and he changed me from the NUVA ring to the patch but that it too will make me retain fluid. I put the patch on yesterday and maybe its just the hormones making me upset but grrr.... I hate this. Any suggestions? Christine 275/266/203/160 -63 and stalling painfully

Hey Christine! I just wanted to send you a word of warning about the patch. I personally know FIVE women that got pregnant while using the patch. It's intended for women 175 lbs and under. If you are over 175 lbs your body can't absorb it as well. Im sure your doc knows best, but I have to wonder if some docs know that is supposed to be used on women less than 175 lbs for maximum benefits. Kristi

Hey Moo Moo Girl... Where have you been? I have missed you. How are you doing? How is the weight loss? You have me freaking now about this patch. The doc told me that they had new research on heavier women and it was supposed to be ok...My last visit to him I asked him about it and he told me I had to wait until I was under 175. This time he said they had new research. FIVE people you know have gotten pregnant. Ugh, I cant win for losing. I think I am just going back to the pill and dealing with it. I just hate to go see him again. I have been 3 times in the past 3 mos. Maybe a phone call will do and he can call me in some pills. My hormones are gonna really be screwed up. They arent going to know whats going on! haha.. Thanks for the info....

Oh yeah, in regards to your stall in weight loss....DON'T SWEAT IT GIRL! You body just gets funky on ya from time to time. I went through a 4 week plateau back in November when I didn't lose a pound. And you know how I dealt with it? I HAVEN'T WEIGHED ONE TIME SINCE NOVEMBER 29TH!!! I know that sounds a bit strange, but I just couldn't risk the dissapointment. I have been going to the gym and just going by how my clothes feel on me. I know I am down 3 pants sizes but I have no idea how much weight I have lost. Im going to get up the nerve and weigh sometime in February! Wish me luck, lol! Kristi

I am sorry about the plateau, but I betcha things are shifting around (in a good way) and you are losing inches! Don't despair. Try to look at it from the other point of view - at least your weight is steady and you are not gaining. It will catch up and one day you will weigh and be down a bunch of pounds overnight! As for the condom thing, you can always do what I did when I found out that I couldn't take the pill. I came home from the doc, flushed my packet of pills and told Jim, if you don't want a baby, YOU need to do something about it. Of course, 15 months, later, there was Jon!! You need tho to let your body heal from the WLS for AT LEAST a year. You may have to sweat it out, or bop him in the head.....NOT THAT I HAVE EVER DONE ANYTHING LIKE THIS, maybe he would like them better if you put them on him ! It might rev him up!!!!! (Now, if you ever tell anybody that I EVER EVEN alluded to such a thing, I will deny it FOREVER!!!!! As you may know, Jon is a Sear's Best - he cost $42. Em is a K-mart Blue Light Special at $21. AND I AM STICKING TO THAT STORY!!!!) Smooch Arlies

Christine wanna have someone to choke, dont make poor hubby pay the price here.. go ahead , come on down here and choke me instead.. I'm caught on plateaus right now and I could use a choke/wrestling partner I was stuck for a month, then lost 8 lbs and again stuck now all week. Not stressing as much as you are though, girl..if you retain fluids, how about asking for a diuretic? I 'm still on mine I had over 110 lbs ago and refuse to give it up. One time over the holidays when we were out of town and I forgot them, I had to go without taking them for 6 days and omg I GAINED 7 lbs.. right as I took them again those pounds fell right back off. It was horrible! goes along with the terror of gaining it all back, I guess SO hang in there, throw out the scale and only weigh once a month. I stepped on it this morning and am still on the same I was last saturday, so I put the durn scale in the closet and vowed not to look at it again till next month. I can't handle all this As for the birth control thing.. girl, I got pregnant on the pill with my last one, so don't take ANY chances. If you have to, "Wrap It" like Arlies said. This ain't the time to get pregnant, till you can at least get most of the foods in you would need to carry a baby for 9 months. If "he" doesn't like that idea, tell him, it's either that or NOTHING Even though I should not have to worry about anything, I make sure I don't do it in the middle of the month. We never had the follow up to the vasectomy back in 2002 but my luck, murphy's law applies, that ONE little spermy rascal that would make its way through against all odds would find me!! If it comes up during that time, its wrapped Not taking chances here. If I wasnt such a wimp, I'd probably think about getting my tubes tied but I've had enough of surgical procedures for a while

Hey Christine,I am sorry you are on a plateau. I am not post-op , so I don't imagine any words of wisdom I may have would be worth a crap to you right now,but, I know you will get there with the drive and determination you have shown so far just think back to when you didn't even think you were going to be able to get your surgery and look how that turned out . Those hormones will make you think you are going and the hubby not wanting to use a condom well ,I can identify with ya there .I had a tubiligation after my son was born,I was unable to use birth control because ,it shoots my blood pressure through the roof but, it was not a hard decision for me though,I knew that my little family was complete.I pray that a tolerable solution becomes available fast for you girl..... ya bunches and bunches...Sherry.....

Hey Girlie !!! As far as the weight loss goes. Throw away the scales away. They lie anyways !!! Scales are nothing but bad news. As far as the BC. You need to flat out tell him. NO! & Give him 4 choices. #1. "Nothing" at All #2. Condoms #3. Zip-Lock Sandwich Bags with Duck Tape #4. Him get "Fixed" Tell him it is his choice !!! And if he picks the right one, he can lay back and afterwards. Tammy

Christine, Don't worry yourself too bad. You know just a few weeks ago I didn't loose any and now it seems to be falling off. You know women and their bodies CRAZY. I just had to tell my hubby about the condoms. If he didn't want to risk me getting pregnant and risking mine and the babies life he will wear one so he does and we haven't had any problems since then. Men are crazy too what are we gonna do. Try not to get to discouraged it will pick up soon. Becky

Hi Girl, I'm sorry about the plateau. They happen and there is very little you can do about them. It helped me to think of them as my body trying to make sense of what's happening. If you thinks something is wrong with you, you stop, take stock in what's going on around you and try to figure out what's wrong. Once you are satisified you aren't in danger, you continue on your merry way. That's what will happen with your body. Blast the water honey! I know you hate it as much as I do but it WORKS. Oh, I started taking an anti-depressant at about 4 months post. The psychologist that did my pre-op eval told me that if I was suseptible to PMS I most likely would be sensitive to the hormonal changes that WLS would bring. She was right. I hesitated to start meds but when I did I felt so much better. I regretted not trying them sooner. Don't hesitate to try it if you feel PMS-y all the time lately. Hang in there, Elesha LapRNY 2/26/02 288/165