Mississippi Roll Call? How is everyone?
Dx,
I don't have a date yet. I am waiting on an appointment to meet with the nutritionist and all but that is the last step that I have to do. Also I was one of Dr. Blakes patients that is being moved to Dr. Salameah now. I called the medical mall and they said I should get my appointment in Jan. Thanks for asking.
Joyce
Good morning...
Sounds like everyone else is on the ball now, getting tests done, losing weight. Wonderful ! I'm on a plateau so I don't have much to talk about. Been playing with the same 4 lbs all month and not stressing about it, on good days I'm down to 228 and on bad mornings back to 231 1/2. Girls really do have it harder than guys, with retaining water and all during the month, it can turn into a real roller coaster if you don'****ch it. I've passed up that six month mark and figured, it is now time to check 3 x a week what I'm doing, because if I need to change something, I don't want to wait till I add 10 lbs and then fall off the handle when I get on the scale the next week. Ugh! I'm 48 lbs away from my surgeon's goal for me. Personally I want to lose another 70 or even 80 if possible. I'm confident I will make it to goal, just a little irked that there are others who drop the weight so much faster. It's a good thing my doctor keeps stressing how well I am doing and that I'm on track and have nothing to worry about. I'm just so much more active, I 'm on the go most of the time and I walk a lot. I mean.. A LOT. Hubby says he can feel bones and muscles now, and there's no way I'm EVER going to get below 150 and look good. I'd be anorexic looking and he thinks thats ugly. Hmmm.
Ain't it strange how those who loved us as fatties STILL don't want us to be skinny as a rail?? A while back someone had posted about "how did you chose your mate" and asked, if we prefer skinny vs padded, and a lot of us answered, someone with padding is what we felt more comfortable with because they understood our battles with weight?????? Now, my husband is by all means not fat, even though he does go into the obese category for his height, but he's one of those broad shouldered people who carry a lot of muscle and the Navy thinks he's just fine. He does have a little bit of a belly thing going on though and is always saying he needs to lose 20 lbs. I'm taking a stab in the dark but I think many of us < and those who love us > just felt comfortable with the "extra padding", it's that security blanket we look for in a person, and we love them so much, we may be scared that they may change if they lose the security blanket??? I don't know about you guys, but I am exactly the same person I was 106 lbs ago, only my outside has changed. I'm beginning to see how this could be a serious issue on a spouse, where they didn't need to worry about the "safety" of their relationship when the other was heavy, the sudden weight loss making the spouse more attractive to the rest of the world, scares them ?
Well, I'm babbling on this morning, just wanted to share some of my thoughts and maybe some of the others can give me some feedback here? This WLS journey doesn't just affect our health, it surely has other aspects, personal aspects that could affect many other people in our family. I 'm very happy that my husband and I have a wonderful relationship and he's open about things like the fact that the weight loss has really made a difference in our lovelife , and he's also admitted that he's getting kinda jealous these days as I'm getting thinner, that I might attract the attention of others. I have assured him that nothing in our relationship has changed, there's no one else but him for me. He told me that there are several guys on his ship that would come home to wives cheating, and he was a bit worried about going back out for six months. We had a good laugh about this, because I reminded him that I work 12 hours a day , and the remainder of my day is spent either getting my kids ready for school or picking her up from her babysitter, not to forget the 30 minute commute twice a day. By the time I get home and the little one to bed, I'm exhausted and falling into , he's really got NOTHING to worry about I'm happy though that he's discussing this with me, and doesn't just write it off and bottles it up, if it's one thing I've learned from my previous marriage, it's "NEVER EVER" think it'll be okay and keep things to yourself that eventually kill you with suspicion and jealousy.
ahhhhh.. ok this should give a nice topic now.
hope you all have a great day!!!
~~Andie~~
334-228-140
-106 and stuck on a plateau
Hi Andie, it is really great to hear that you are doing SOOOOO well. I have talked to many people that have leveled out for a while around 6 months, just hang in there - "the plan works if you work the plan". As far as the other, again you are right on track. There are many people to use weight, or some other physical tool, as a social security blanket. This goes for both the individual or a significant other, like a spouse. Sometimes, as YOU start getting your life going in the direction you want it to go, a less self-assured spouse can feel threatened. It may not be you, it may be about them not being where they want to be in their self-image. I am glad that you have a strong relationship and may not have to worry about this. Remember, it is important to assure him that not only are You the same person you were before, so it (s)he.
Sorry, sometimes I forget myself and do some psycho-stuff. james.
Andie,
I hit plateaus several times in the last 16 months.
Just up your water intake, protein,
And add a little bit of walking.
That usually did it for me.
A couple of times I went back
To the beginning of my diet advancement,
And started with liquids for a week,
Then Pureed for a week,
Then added only one new food each day
To my list of things I would eat.
This knocked the plateau in the head and
I would start loosing like I did back when
I was still in that first 8 months or so.
Now at 17 months, I'm still loosing
Just really slow. I'm 2 pounds from goal,
And If it takes a couple of months, that's OK.
You're right about Gals having it harder
Than the guys though.
Your bodies are designed to hold on to
That extra energy in case you need to
Breast feed babies, or go without so the
Children can survive. Durn Cavemen!
If they would have just let the gals
Always eat their fill first, you ladies would be
Genetically prone to burn up all of that excess.
Here's hoping the best for you
And your Husband for the coming year!
Best Wishes-
Dx
Hey Dx!
Well, to be totally honest, I blew it over the holidays. I went carb crazy! Literally! Right before the holidays I weighed and had lost 90lbs since July 20th! I am so excited about that. Now, after eating pretty much everything in sight, I'm staying away from the scale for a few weeks. I'm getting started back on heavy, heavy protein and 0 carbs to jump start the weight loss again. Good to see you on here, you're such an inspiration! Happy New You!
Keri
WOW I feel so honored. My name mentioned I am so greatful. What do you do keep cheat notes? Yes still bogged down and feeling a little scared. I know every body gets doubts but this thing with the donnas has really hit home. Don't get me wrong I am tired of feeling like I do. I have come to the conclusion that food is my life, my idol, I guess my god. WOW I think I just figured out this thing. Food really is my god.
I need to pray that GOD will take this god away from me. Boy I guess that's whats so great about this board is that while talking to others you answer some of your own questions??
I hope that you have a great NEW YEAR.
I will be very busy over the next day or so. I am helping my husband get ready for a gospel concert. He sings with the Next Generation out of Magee ms. We are having a watch night service. It's really gonna be fun. So I will not be on here much in the next 24 to 36 hours.
Later Barb
im hoping my thing will get fixed soon, they r trying to say my date has changed and its not goin over too good wit me right now. thanks for including me. i feel sooooo loved!!!..lol--- congrats to everyone who has things settled and keep on with if for the ones who are in the "process". all of u r in my prayers.