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Hey everyone! I joined along time ago and I just havent posted since then. I've been going through and going through this site and others just reading up on as much stuff as I can on the surgery. I weigh about 350 or so now, with is a bit more than I was before (i hate scales =(). My husband is going into the Air Force soon, not exactly sure when seeing as tho they havent released the job he wants yet. I was talking to him the other day about once we have insurance how I'd like to have this surgery done, and well.. he didnt take it well. He doesnt want me to have this done. We talked about it, and he's scared something will happen. Its not a problem of him not wanting me to lose weight, its just, he thinks I can do it without surgery. I had a lot of problems after having my son through C-Section. My incision wouldnt heal and I had 3 infections and my doctor told me it was more than likely caused from me being overweight. He brought that up and was scared something like that would happen again after having the WLS. I told him I think this might be the only thing that could help me lose the weight. Ive dieted before, lost weight then gained it right back. I just dont have the time or energy to yo-yo anymore. Have any of you had problems with your SI or anyone not wanting you to have the surgery? Also, if anyone wants to talk to me, please email or IM me! [email protected]. Thank you so much for listening and helping out. =^.^= Celeste

Hey, I remember you name!!!! But I didn't recognize the picture! I LOVE your hair! My DH is retired USAF and so far Tricare has picked up everything but my psycho testing ($100) . Please download the yahoo messenger (freebee) and add [email protected] to your contacts because on Saturday night at 8 pm we all get together and chat. IM me when we are ready to chat on Saturday and I will bring you into the conference room. I too had the same problems you had after my c-section - 20 years ago!!! I was heavy, but nothing like I am now, and my docs (at Keesler) said they didn't put in enough stitches in my incision for it to close properly...We packed that incision for 3 months!! Most spouses are afraid when it comes to this, but my dh and I have decided that this is my only hope at this point. Be patient with your dh. Keep showing and explaining to him how hard it is to do some of the simple things, I betcha he will realize it would be for the best. Please post again and often!!! We need you in our group! We will provide lots of encouragement for you and plenty of laughter! Many smoochers, Arlies

Hello Celeste, So glad you are back with us. I also, am still pre-op but know if I don't have the surgery I will die. I know it is hard for your husband because he loves you and doesn't want to lose you. But, tell him your weight will only go up without the surgey. Don't do like me and put it off until it is life threating. I realize this has to be both you and your husbands decision, but I really wish I had done this 3 years ago, when I first started listening and learning about it. I have about an extra 50 pounds to lose now that I didn't have 3 years ago. Take care and please join us for the laughter and fun we have as a wls family. Smiles, Jan

Hey Mary Celeste , Good to see your smiling face again!!!! I too am like Jan I feel as if I don't have this surgery that I won't be around much longer and thankfully my husband has agreed to co-operate if nothing else lol...I have had the same discussion about the dangers of the surgery with my husband and the thing is, just as I have told him I could drop dead of a heartattack while crossing the street tommorow if I died trying to become healthier through this surgery then so be it ,it would be God's will.It is a risk that we take to try and get healthy.No one after all is promised tommorow. I have high blood pressure, diabetes,thyroid problems (I take 8 prescription meds),I have swelling in my legs that cause painful sores , I am miserable most of the time so I figure since my biological father dropped dead of a heartattack when he was 40 ,I only have about 8 years to go lol , I know sounds kind of morbid but , that is really the only way I can look at it right now I have a son as well ,and in 8 years he will only be 17,I want to be around to see him grow to be a man. I have chosen not to tell many people that I am having the surgery I have gotten way too many unsolicited opinions if you know what I mean , and since I have a tendency to tell people what I think I just don't tell them about me planning to have my surgery......coming here to the board is the only place I feel as if I will not be judged because ,every person here knows what I am going through.There are a great group of people here on this board,and they are a wonderful support system so I do hope you will stay around here with us you can learn so much just by being here.............Sherry...

I am not married but I have great family support they just want what is best for me. The frist time I saw "morib obesity" actually written on paper was a life changing expirence for me. I knew then that no matter what I had to change my life. I am having all my preop stuff done now. Hang in there this is a wonderful family that I found on here, I have met MANY WONDERFUL people. Joyce

I totally understand. I never thought of myself as "morbidly obese" till I went in for a post-natal checkup with my OB-GYN and when he left the room, I sneaked a peek at my folder and he had me written down as so. I started crying right there. I had gained about 120 lbs just from being pregnant. I'm trying to let him know that this is what I really want, its just really hard. I know he's scared, Im scared....but Im scared I'll die if I DONT do it too. Thank you for replying. XD Celeste

Celeste, have your hubby join in and read some of the profiles on this website.. he'll understand that there is also a good chance you can get through surgery without ANY problems. I keep telling everyone, start drinking protein shakes several weeks before surgery to stockpile the protein your body needs to heal fast, and I can't mention enough how I had three staples pop on my incision the third day after surgery and the "hole" closed up all by itself over night. I strongly believe it was due to the protein. Our bariatric coordinator told us to start getting lots of protein and none of the patients he has have had any problems so far. It's worth a shot. Even if I had an open hole for months, there is no way I wanted to keep living the life I had at 334 lbs. I wish you all the best in your future, and with the military, you'll get your surgery taken care of. I had to travel two hours to New Orleans but I got everything paid for by tricare, including the nutritionist and the psych evaluation. Can't ask for more than that. Hope to see you in our saturday chat !! Andrea

I heard that the Tricare took care of all of that and it was easy to get approved, thats why I was really excited when he decided to join the Air Force lol. I just need to get him to come here I suppose, and just really have him look at everything. He thinks its a "quick fix" for my problems, and I tried to explain it to him that its not. I know Ive always failed my other diets, but, I know I'd make it with this. Celeste

Good Morning! You know, my hubby said the same thing the first time I mentioned the surgery. He had known me for so long and knew that I had lost a lot of weight already once and then gained it all back and since he is one of those people that can starve themselves for two weeks and drop ten pounds, he told me I should just try it again myself, exercise and use " self control" when I'm getting hungry. It wasn't until I dragged him with me to the doctors office, that he understood that this is not just an easy way out, the whole surgery itself could kill you and it means your lifestyle WILL change, you have no choice in that matter. He also got it from the doctor's mouth that it is not just a matter of discipline but to the point to where your metabolism has just about totally shut down because of the yo-yo'ing you've done all your life. That's when he got worried about the dangers of the surgery. To this day I remember the morning of surgery, when he told me, if I wanted to back out, he wouldn't blame me if I just would give it another shot "the normal way", but he knew that this was my only chance. I had gotten so big , I couldnt exercise. I started to have serious health issues, diabetes kicked in within the time I was waiting for surgery and the day of surgery I had a sugar level of 318, normally they don't operate, but they knew that it would drop my levels within weeks and I just got insulin shots the few days in the hospital. My bloodpressure since has been totally normal, sugar's normal, my stats are ok. I was fully aware and ready to die if I had to, but wanted to take the chance because I just couldnt live life that way any more. If you're ready for this surgery, bring your hubby to support group meetings , to the doctors, etc... he loves you, he will understand. Take care, Andrea