new kid on the block.....but i gotta a date!

hi, everyone! this is my first time posting, but i have to tell some positive listeners that i have a date for my surgery! it will be on 2/24. now i'm just scared. it was such an uphill battle to get this far now i'm wondering if i'm doing the right thing. has anyone else out there felt like this? my mother and sister (both "normal" size) think i'm crazy for doing this, but i'm just afraid i may not live to see my little boy grow up. however, am i being selfish to risk having the surgery and my little baby boy not really ever knowing me? any encourging words out there? thanks.

Glad you have your surgery date. It is normal to be scared but go ahead with your surgery. The road to surgery can be rough but the rewards are worth all the trouble and difficulty you have to go through. I had a hard time too no one in my family supported my surgery decision but i had surgery anyway and it was the best decision I ever made. Surgery is risky but it is a lot riskier staying morbidly obese, which really is a slow painful death sentence. Having surgery gives you hope and the way to have a happy and healthy future. You will be able to play with your son.

Christina; What you are feeling is quite normal. I was O****il the morning of surgery. All the way to Sedalia, I kept saying, "I can't believe I'm doing this!" As far as being selfish, you're doing this so you will be healthier and be around to enjoy your boy. That's not being selfish. Good luck with your surgery. We'll see you on the losing side! Patty 258/166/140

Christina, I am not going to lie there is always a risk of that happening but if you have done your research you know that is a risk. It is a very low percentage of that happening. Let me tell you, I had all of thoughs fears you are having right now and I know that everyone that has had this surgery has felt that way too. I have two kids one 5 and one 2. I just kept feeling that I was not going to live through this and my hubby was going to have to raise them on his own. I knew how it was to grow up without a mom because she died when I was 12, this made it hard. I knew that I hadn't faught as long as I did to get the surgery if God hadn't wanted me to go ahead with it. Think of it this way. You probably have a hard time playing with your kids anyway and what quality of life are you going to have with your kids if you don't lose the weight? If your mom and sister aren't going to be supportive than don't talk to them about it. You need to have positive reinforcment. They will eventually be o.k. with it and see how your health will change after your surgery. Think positive and welcome to the board. God bless you, Penni

Hey Christina. First, let me welcome you to the board, it is always nice to have a new person posting. Next, try to remember why you are having this surgery. To be more healthy which will allow you to do all the things that make life worth living. How much happier will your son be having a mother that can actually be a part of his life not just a spectator. As for your family, give them time. Once they see the positive effects it is having on your life they will come around. Remember we are always here to talk to. I look forward to seeing you around the board. Wayne

Welcome to OH,...I had the same feeling your having last summer when I was scheduled for the RNY here in Sedalia,... you can read my profile and it will tell you of my journey. I am leaving tomorrow morning for Omaha,..my angel is driving me up she is from St. Louis, her check up is on my surgery date. She is going to stay with me the entire time,...I am truly blessed to have such an angel. Since Christmas I thought I was going to have to cancel my surgery because the transmission went out of my car. My friend that owns a car lot has let me use a heap to get around town with. The trany is well over a $1000 to get fixed. So if it weren't for her I wouldn't even be able to go. I hope you read my profile,..it tells how the weight off my shoulders was lifted when I found Dr. Anthone and the Duodenal Switch. There are choices to be made and I think it is important that everyone is informed about all the choices there is before they make life altering choices. So research all your options and then know your making the right decision for YOU!!! Good luck in your journey and I hope that you find the peace that you are looking for. God Bless and protect you. Marylin