My Loser List (what's yours?)

I am 16 days out from surgery, on a pre-op diet and looking at FOOD and my BODY. I thought I'd start out a list of things I want or don't want from the losing side of life.....(I know - dangerously participatory for a LURKER like me)....please add any you may have or care to share 1. I want to be able to buy glasses without looking for the largest frames in the store 2. I want to not have to wait for the handicap bathroom and hope it's wide enough 3. I want to ride with my friends in their cars - with a seatbelt that fits. (someone I work with has a new corvette!) 4. Just once, I want a wife to be jealous because I'm with her husband at work (ok, maybe not but doesn't it smack of desperate housewives?) 5. I want to have tha****er behind the butt in the bathtub to flow before I stand up. 6. I want to look at the restaurant's menu and select a flavorful option without wondering if it's going to leave me hungry (like how about an appetizer or small salad). 7. I want to wear those thigh high pantyhose with the lace at the top. 8. I want to sit with the other moms in the little folding chairs. 9. I want knee high boots. 10. I want to be on top in bed with my husband without worrying he'll need oxygen. 11. I want a pair of rollerblades and learn to use them. 12. I want to get a hairstyle without worrying about whether or not my face will look enormous. 13. Need I say it? Driver's License Photo! Guys? What are those simple pleasures that you loose when trapped in the super-obese body?

I want to be able to go through those circle things at the state fair, without having to pretend that I can't go through there because I have my son in a stroller. I am post op but when I was real heavy I wanted to go to the bathroom and wipe my butt like a normal person without my arm being stretched like one of those stretch dolls. (this has gotten better). You were so funny because each one of those things you mentioned I wanted to before surgery. Have a great day, Penni

Those are great wants. I want to be able to walk more than 50 yards w/o being winded I want to tie my shoes AFTER I put them on I want to roll around with my kids I want to sit on a couch w/o wondering if it will support me I want to fit in a booth at a resturant I want to walk around Disney Wayne

1. I want to be able to fit comfortably in a restaurant booth. 2. I want to be able to walk my dog without having to stop and take a break. 3. I want to be free of back pain. 4. I want to take my son on rides at the fair or amusement park. 5. I want to go shopping at Victoria's Secret. 6. I want a "little black dress". 7. I want sexy underwear instead of granny panties. 8. I want my son and husband to be proud I am theirs. 9. I want to replace food with exercise. 10. I want to be on top in the bedroom. 11. I want to wear a seat belt. 12. I want to wear a regular belt. 13. I want to be able to stand more than 2 minutes without having to find a chair. 14. I want to go to sporting events, concerts etc. without having to worry about how far I may have to walk. 15. I want to be able to cross my legs (I have never been able to) I could go on and on but I will stop here

Thanks everyone. I read an article in the Parade magazine that said you should write down the reasons you want to get healthy. Apparently, some brainiac figured out it's more important WHY than HOW.....I got a million of these: Angela, I'm with you on yours too. How about these? I want to be so skinny, I have to run around in the shower to get wet. I want to buy real LEVIs jeans I want to be able to tuck in a shirt I want my daughters (when they are teenagers) to steal my clothes I want to walk by a group of teenage boys in the mall and not worry they will make mean comments I want my doctor's scale to be able to weigh me.

I have read everyones lists and I have all of those on my list, and then some. I wrote my list of 183 things and sent it to the insurance co with my appeal letter, I am obviously not going to list all of them, but in addition to every single one of yours, I have: I. I want to go horseback riding with my daughters, without the horse fainting when I approach, for fear I may be trying to get in the saddle~ 2. I want to sit in a chair that has sides, never worrying if I fit~ 3. I want to get in a boat, without worrying if it will sink~ 4. I want to ride on a plane w/out my fat in my husbands seat as well~ 5. I want to wear a swimming suit w/out worrying about what hanging out, and if I will be arrested for indecent exposure~ 6. I look forward to being more spontaneous, if ya know what I mean~ 7. I would love to do the go-karts with my sons. 8. I would love to fit behind the wheel of a little sportscar, and USE the seatbelt too~ 9. I want to go to any store in the mall and shop~ 10. I want to go to the large womans store and not head for the biggest size they have~(and sometimes they still dont fit right or look good!) 11. I want to order food and not have everyone staring at me~ 12. I never want to hear someone MOO at me again~ 13. I want to go camping w/my family and fit in a sleeping bag, or be able to get off the floor of the tent w/out help 14. Most important, I want to live life, not be a stunning person stuck in this body that has held me a prisoner all my life and enjoy things that a lot of people take for granted. I am most looking forward to crossing my legs and wearing Levis and riding a bike if I want, or riding behind my husband on a 4 wheeler or motorcycle. Thanks for sharing yours, I dont feel so alone!!!!

Some of these are funny, some of them make me nod my head in agreement and a few of them make me cry (I've heard a few MOOS myself)...... 14 days till my surgery. I am thankful for everyone on this board. I am thankful for a shot at a new life.........