I lost my only support person......

Does your husband have a weight problem? I went to your web page and saw the pix and it looks like he does. Perhaps he thinks you won't stay with him for the long haul when you lose weight? But whatever, it will be his loss. Do not worry about not having support. Ultimately, you have to do this alone. You are the one who has to go through the surgery. You are the one who has to monitor what you eat. You are the one who has to take the supplements. I know it is good to have support but all the well-meaning support in the world doesn't help if the individual knows nothing about weight loss surgery. My husband (who is tall and thin) will do whatever I ask. But I have to ask. I have to tell him what I need him to do. Like the first week, I told him, "I'm not cooking so you and the kids will have to get your own meals." I really didn't cook for the first month. After that, I got back into cooking. But in reality, cooking doesn't have the appeal it once did for me, just like eating has not become my priority. My best support has come from this web site. When I have questions, I come here and find answers. Sure, you have to weigh the advice and check it out with your doctor, etc., but this is the place to come when you need support. Hopefully you will have someone to help you with your son during your surgery and for a week or so afterwards. Bending, fixing meals, etc., for a 3 1/2 year old may be difficult for the first week you are home. But after that, you should be all right. BTW, I didn't do this surgery for anyone but me. I wanted to feel better. I wanted to be able to go shopping and not be out of breath. I wanted to go on vacation with my family and not sit in the car and read while they walked on trails, went through museums and walked along the beach. My family didn't ask me to do this, my doctor did and I listened. Since losing 140 lbs, I no longer have high blood pressure, congestiveheart failure or diabetes. I'm off all meds except I still take my wellbutrin (so I don't yell at everyone so much). It is good to not have to list a page full of meds when I go to the doctor. Plus it saves me about $200 a month just in the medication co pay. Even the psoraisis on my hands and feet has gotten better. My dermatologist doesn't even understand that one. So, do this for yourself so you'll be around to see your little boy grow up with a healthy mom. Don't hesitate to email if you have any questions or just want to vent. Later. Teresa 381/241/150

I read your post tonite and want you to know that You are not alone, you have all of the support of the members here who have went through or are going through many of the same things that you are, I had gastric bypass surgery about ten years ago, diagnosed with lupus last year and have been having alot of health problems, my husband and I have been living in two seperate houses for a few years, and he has had a hard time cause I have gained some weight this past year with health problems, I know what you mean when you feel like you dont have your spouses support and your families, but know that we are your family here too and things seem really tough right now but you will make it. You really will, you will have your surgery and things will start to improve and you will feel better about yourself and if it is meant to be your relationship will work out with your husband but if not stay focused on your health and your son who I must say is a little doll he is so cute! Stick with your college that is super that your doing that I am so proud of you. Remember that when God closes a door he opens a window. Hugs to you and know that I am here if you need to talk here is my email [email protected] Take Care Beth