x post..upcoming surgery worries and feelings

My surgery is Dec 30th and I have a feeling in the pit of my stomach about it. My dh says it is just my fears and worrywart tendencies coming out.

I know I need a serious intervention for my weight problem. I get that. I just have a bad feeling about it. One time I ignored this kind of feeling I regretted it, and still do.

Having said that I am a worrier by nature and sometimes worry like this about things that are fine in the end!

I know no one can tell me what to do. I just feel so alone in this decision. Our insurance changes at the New Year and they may not even cover bariatric surgery after then. :( So my dh is pushing for me to do it as he knows I have wanted it for a long time! 

Anyone else feel like this before surgery and what did you do? Just wanting to hear some experiences I suppose!

Thanks for listening!

yES Jo i felt that way and thought why am i doing this i can lose it if i try...but i knew i would gain it back.i knew that as i had done it several times. ...for me i got with God and prayed and listened and i was assured and calm from then on. im sure it will be ok for you but if you are a Christian , pray and then listen. if you continue to have this serious fears maybe you shouldnt have surgery but the surgery itself isnt a hard surgery on your body. very little recovery...the hard part is that you HAVE to follow the laws afterwards.....food and vits and protein... hopefully i have helped you some .....

Jo,
Your feeling are normal.I dont think there is one person on here that didnt have any fears before surgery.  But you are the one who has to make the decision.  I can remember the morning of surgery, on the way to the hospital, my daughter was driving and my husband and I were there and she said"you can still change your mind mom".  I said no way!  You hav e to understand, she works as a pharmacist at hospital in St. Louis  and had only heard negative things about the surgery.  She is very happy for me now.  I am also happy that II had it done.  The fears are normal.  Dont know if this helps, but  take it to the Lord in prayer.  God Bless! Colette

I have prayed a lot and I still have my fears!!! Oh dear. This is not good is it? :(

what are you really afraid of ? the surgery? look how many people that have had this, and soifmeone told me before surgery that if it is your turn to die and you dont do the surgery you might die as you go out to get the mail and fall over dead. ...is that what you are afraid of or something else.
i thougt of it this way it was really a win win situation.   that if i died on the operation table then i would have a new body in heaven and if i woke up i was on my way to a new body so win -win...

I am not actually afraid of the surgery itself so I am not sure where this feeling is coming from??? Maybe the changes after, maybe the threat of complications later on. Maybe leaving my children for 2 -3 days? I don't know! All I know is it is there in the pit of my stomach and am just hoping it will go away soon!!
Thanks for the advice and suggestions! It means a lot to me right now.

 Most of us have second and third thoughts. I wonder if its because we are having to give in to the idea we have to have help to lose the weight. Its kinda like we have to admit we cannot do it on our own and we have failed.
So we failed at trying to diet . It doesn't mean we are not smart or are weak. It just means we have enough gumption to find something that will work. It means we are not giving up.
You will be so happy when its over. I just went thru second thoughts on the plastic surgery but I am so glad I did it. I am even planning more. Its natural to wonder if we are making the right choice. Are you sure you are not trying to hide behind the weight and scared how you will be when you lose it? Complications are very rare. If its your time  nothing will change that but there is no reason to think anything will go wrong.  I had minor complications but would still do it again in a hearbeat even if I knew I would have problems. Think about all the extra years you will live and all the things you can do with and for your family without all the extra pounds. It a happy good thing. Try not to worry.

I'm so sorry your having these feelings, and I understand that when you have those life altering decisions you should feel like you are going to be living a new life that you will be comfortable in and live a long and healthy life.  I felt the same way, till I found Dr. Anthone and when he told me that he would do the DS on me and I had a 99% chance to cure my diabetes, I wanted to have the surgery the next day.  It took me 6 months to get all I needed done and on the books.  When I left his office I knew it was the right decision for me and that I was going to be fine.  I felt like I was on cloud nine and was as high as a kite.  So, I know your ins. has a lot to do with your decision, but maybe the ins. will cover and if it won't you can always fight them on it.  There are lots that do and win so don't just make your decision on that alone.  I wish you well and I hope that you find the answers your looking for, I know how hard it is, just don't let someone else make your decision for you. 
Keep us posted with what's happening with you and good luck.
Marylin