How Kids Can be so Honest !! I'm New to boards B Gental please :)

Hello everyone !! My name is Jennifer and I have getting most of my answers about Rny here from the Pro's.
This is my first post and just looking for a support group to lean upon Now and in the future.
I am married with 2 beautiful boys ages  3 and 4.
I have all my paperwork in to the insurance company and just waiting approval.
My Doc is Roger De La Torre of St louis/Bridgton Missouri so anyone who has had him as a Doc, please feel free to let me know your experience.
I am tired of missing out on life with my kids. My son asked me the other day if I had another baby in my tummy :)
I laughed, smiled  and told him that the only thing swimming around in there was empty calories. Today I was at the park with the kids getting a nice walk in and stopped in at the restroom . As I was coming out of the bathroom, there were 2 girls about 14 years old waiting with there mother next in line. I held the door open for them and smiled. The Park bathroom echoed very loudly and I could here the  girls saying after the door was closed how "Fat and nasty I was" Of course the mother chimes in and says that's what happens to lazy people and that I was probably on Social security and Food Stamps and didn't have a job.
I have never been so hurt and it took every bit of me not go in there and tell them that I may be fat, but there ugly and I can loose the weight !! Of course that would bring me to there level of maturity and I am a very positive person !!
It made me think maybe God put that kind of ignorance on this earth to make me stronger and to take a step back and think about how abusive I have been to my body & soul he gave me and to help educate others about Obesity.

I am ready to write my break up letter to my fat rolls,cellulitis,back pain,chest pain,feet pain,arm and wrist pain,headaches forever !!
Thanks for letting me vent :) I feel a ton better
Looking for friends and Angels

Jennifer P.

Hi Jennifer, and welcome...we are so glad to have you here.  and there will be many many friends and angels here that will help guide you on your trip....we will polish up the losers bench for you. but feel free to ask any thing you can think of and if we dont know we will say (HEY i dont know  lol ...) but we will give them a try.

some people are really mean and abusive arent they...but just know that you will soon start changing.   My sister had your doctor. anyway....post as often as you want about what ever is of intreast to you at the moment....it helps....

Hi Jennifer!

I am in St Peters and am working on my packet for Roger De La Torre!

I am SO sorry you heard that said about you. That must have hurt. :( Awful that the mother didn't use that moment to teach them compassion and acceptance. Ugh! It sounds as if they had learned the opposite from her.

Anyway, I wish you the best on your journey. I am excited to see another person close by doing this! :)

Take care,

Jo F

Welcome Jo,

Hang in there and keep being positive..  Kids are honest.  I am nearly 4 years out so my young 6 year old grandson does not remember me 95 pounds heavier.  One day he was looking at pictures with his mom and he said"' Mommy who is that lady"  She replied, its your nanna.  He said "no its not"  that lady is fat and Nanny isnt."  Out of the mouths of babes!!!!!!!!!!!!!  your day will come when you are thin too, and its a wonderful feeling.  I wish I could have had this surgery at your age instead of  at 68 but the time is always right when its Gods time.   He is probably preparing you to be an inspirational speaker to other people.  God Bless,  Colette

Hi Jennifer, this post made me cry.  I think because it reminds me alot of how I felt before I had my surgery.  I was HUGE, no lie I was 330 lbs and I'm 5'7.  I had tricked my mind into thinking I wasn't that big.  I remember thinking if I could only loose 80 lbs I would be happy.  Total denial here.  This is when the Dr. explained to me that I needed to loose more like 160. OMG!  I would be glad to answer any questions you have.  I have a blog on my profile.  I have written every month since I started the process.  Dr. De La Torre did a great job for me.  I haven't had any problems period. ( I'm knocking on wood right now).  I was refered to him by a surgeon that did RNY but quit doing them.  He's a friend and told me to go to DLT.  I'm very happy with my decision to have RNY.  I have lost 130 lbs today is actually my 10 month post op.  I can breath, I don't take any meds, I can run, I have tons of energy.  I rode roller coasters for the first time in 15 years.  My kids are thrilled, my husband is happy to have me back. My parents are so proud of the hard work I've put into this.   I feel like life is just a little sweeter now that I don't have to worry myself about being big anymore.  I used to freak out in my mind at a restaurant thinking are they going to sit us in a booth and I won't fit.  This surgery is life changing in so many ways.  The only regret is not doing it sooner.  Please let me know if I can help you out at all.  I will be glad to answer ANY questions or I will give you my number and we can talk on the phone.  The same goes for anyone else.  Let me know how I can help out I would be glad to.  Lou ;)

P.S.  You are beautiful! I love your pics ;)

Lou, you look fantastic !! All of you do !! I just got released from Barnes St Peters for Cellulitis on my right leg. Ohhh the pain, Ohhh the agony !! I am taking 2 different antibiotics and darvacet to kill the pain. Ran 101 temp last night and started to feel really sick, couldn't keep water down and got a little worried. Had my husband drop me off and told him I would call him when I was done. Kids and Emergency room cells don't mix!! I love them but they would have been into everything!!
So I am home now and need to get some rest.
I was wanting to get a support group of people that live in the St. Charles area or surrounding to meet local to discuss there pre-op jitters or post- op menu ideas or experiences.
Let me know !!
Jenny P.
Thanks again for all your replies and support.

Hi,my name is Randy.I just had bypass surgery July 28th in Columbia Mo. and let me tell you,if you have Dr.De La Torre you couldn't be in better hands.He did mine and everything went great, after a few days I felt great.Been losing about a pound a day since,Life is great.Hang in there, you've got nothing to worry about,he's a great doctor.You'll be fine,and git ready for a new start on life.                                 Randy

Hi Jennifer,
First, let me say WELCOME! Second-let me send a hug! Jennifer-I was FAT...Super fat-all of my life. Weighing up to 500# Im sure-when I was pregnant with my now 6 1/2 yr old. I have had college guys MOOOOO at me in a parking lot-right in front of my now husband-who is very protective and MANLY and wanted to kick butt-and knew I was ready to die of embaressment. Oh my-and I almost didnt marry him, because he was a whole 150# soak and wet (at the time-lol)...that was almost 14 yrs ago now. Anyway-Ive heard it all-and had my heart ripped out by IGNORANT people who dont have the Lord LIVING in their heart! Who havent walked in our shoes, because IF they had-they would NEVER ever speak ill of anyone-ever again-for ANY reason-ever! 

I have to say-one of my favorite parts of the weight loss-is walking into a store-and being invisible. I dont stick out like a sore thumb anymore-and I love it. I love blending in. Its wonderful to me. I am now holding steady at 160# and its been almost 3 yrs. I had the RNY in Columbia and the ONLY regret I have-is that I didnt do it when I was much much younger. I was 38, so I had spent a large part of the fun more active yrs, too fat to enjoy it. I am enjoying my life now, tho-or trying to-lol....I have other health issues, but they have nothing to do with the weight at all-lol.

I just want you to know that this board is AWESOME for support! Its full of angels-full of wonderful people-and I can tell you from experience that I have met several people-if you can make any of the support meetings-you wont regret it! The right support group-its awesome!! The COF group in Springfield-its full of some of the most wonderful people you could ever want to know-and I mean that! You put that many wonderful people in one room-and you never want to leave-lol.....anyway-any questions, concerns, feelings-anything-venting-thats what the board is here for. I am not on here as much as I used to be-but I am hoping that next week when my boys go back to school I can get into a routine again.....

I will keep you in my prayers, Jennifer-Good Luck and I hope that you will make this your home board and get to know us and let us get to know you-and theres a whats happening post thats done dailing that a lot of people will post to-so just an fyi.  Take care!  Janet

Hi Again Jennifer,

I forgot to tell you just how beautiful you are! I just wanted to add that! LOL.....