probably not the right place to put this but

I just got a card in the mail from my sister,same sister i had my phone number changed so i wouldn't have to deal with her.
here is what the card says ,you'll say that it was no big deal.but kindness is always a big deal, but your kind of kindness the whole world can do without out.because it is all about you *****my therapist told me having a sister like you i am ****** for life. Debbie you are lower than dirt.
 i have no clue what i have ever done to her to be talked to that way. i raised all5 of my brother and sisters because my parents were always drunk. i had no child hood because of it. and for her to talk to me that way just broke my heart into a million peices.. maybe she is right and i am not a good friend. Right now i just wanna cry but cant cuz gail would get upset with me.I.m sorry i know this ws not the place to put this but i had noone else to listen to me.
Deb

Oh Pooh i can tell that you are really upset and dont know how to handle this, so dont , hand it to the Lord and let him deal with it for you....im really sorry that things like that happened. and wish i could give you a big hug...sometimes people that have a lot of mental problems have not a lot of recolections of what went on in their childhood so they make up stuff that they think happened. and could be that becasue you were ther authority figure she really thinks that what your mom did it was you...who knows. but i do know that you have to leave it and go on with your life tear the cardup so you cant read it over and over and hand it all over to God then dust your hands of it and  let it go , otherwise it will eat you alive. ....we all have had things that have really hurt us but  you really have to let go and let God......love you sweetie so hang on and let the love of your sisters on this board be your family...

Jan
I just feel so hurt . and dont know how to handle it .The pain is so intense that i just bit my sons head off for no reason and poor gail is out splitting wood so he dosent have to deal with me. Everything just seems to just keep pilling on. My weight wont go back down even though i cant eat, but am at least getting in my protein. But at this point in time i could careless about the surgery anything to do with the surgery  and anything in life in general.Sorry but thats just where i am right now.

((((((Deb))))))

This is the right place to put this.  Supporting each other isn't just about surgery issues.  I am so sorry that your sister did such a horrible thing to you.  She definitely has some issues to deal with, and she's taking it out on you.

Her therapist is getting one side of the story.  Anyone who would raise her siblings should be honored, not ripped to shreds.

We're here 24/7 for you.

Patty

Thanks Patty.
I just hurt so bad right now.I dont even know what to do,

OH gosh pooh i am so so sorry!!! nobody can hurt you like the ones you love, it is true. I know that some people are so miserable with themselves that they become just toxic and you have to leave them alone, no amount of reaching out trying to mend fences, asking what you did wrong will help, they just can't see beyond their own pain to see how much pain they cause others. I think I would send her a brief note telling her that you love her, but you can't be her punching bag either, tell her she really does need a therapist, and when she gets the help she needs you will be happy to re-establish a relationship with her, but until she gets help, not to contact you . I know it is painful, I had to do something similar with a very very close family member, who after awhile and no contact began to feel bad and apologised. I am not saying that will happen with your sister, but maybe it will. God bless your husband, he sounds like mine, mine loves and supports me and ended up putting his foot down on the contact and got so angry when I got upset, it's just that they feel helpless when we are hurt.  good luck and alway's come back when you need to, most if not all of us have some terrible issues in our family that contributed to our need to have surgery to lose the weight. family can be wonderful but for as good as they can be, they can suck just as much!!!

Thank you Susy
But i have tried over and over to make us work as sisters. I have told her i love her no matter how she feels about me. I have asked her time and time again to just leave me alone. She lives in her own world and has to make everyone as miserable as she is,She choses her life.I do not have to be a part of it. I changed my number because of  her calling me all the time telling me how i was dead to her and how low i am. But now since she cant call the mail is starting. Her therapist if she even has one needs to hear both sides of the story i am sure she would sing a different tune if she did.

OK Card just went POOF up in flames.Gail torched it for me.So Nomore Cindy, Nonmore Stress and any others that come will be burnt straight out of the mailbox.I dont have to listen to her and i'm not going too.

WAY TO GO GAIL!!!!!    By the way,  yes, this is the place to put this. We are always here for each other!!!

put the letters "return to sender" that way she won't keep wasting the postage. If that doesn't work report the harrassment by mail to the postmaster, i'm sure you could put a stop to it that route, I'm hoping she really does have a therapist, but I kinda doubt it, no therapist would say what she said he-she did , then again I guess there are crackpots in every profession! love ya, susan