surgery

Patty
Please try and not feel so bad.You did your best,Misty has got to want this and she has got to do her part.If she isn't gonna follow rules there isnt nothing any of us can do; This site is loaded with info all she has to do is look for it.
You did your best.
Love and Hugs Deb

Patty, it's ok.  Please don't beat yourself up.  Sometimes these things happen.  You did the best you could but I understand.  You can't help but feel partly responsible since you were her angel.  But this isn't your fault.  Some people just don't understand the magnitude of this decision.  Please don't blame yourself.

(((((((Patty)))))))....we all love you.

Patty not your fault no way no how....  it is just that some people dont want to do what it is  that they are suppose to do.... it isnt magic as we all know and you arent resposible for anyone but you sweetie... i know it is hard when you have been someones angel but dont beat yourself up over it...we all love you take care of Patty. Jan

how did she pass the physc exam?

thinking that too Angie

Now do you all understand what I was talking about???????? This is one of the reasons that I posted that post....people that have this surgery have to understand that this is a life change!!! Why oh Why???
There are sooooo many people out there that WANT THIS and cant or have to beg plead and cry to have this done, and then you come across someone that goes and dont follow the rules of the game.
Im sorry if this sound harsh and mean, its just that Im having a hard time getting my own head around this....but at least Im trying not to undo anything and to do things right to get healthy. I know that Im callng the "kettle black" here....but I just think that she needs a swift kick and asked "what the hell you doing here" trying to kill yourself????
Please dont flame me on the board...If your going to do it than PM me please.
Love and Hugs to all.....

cor dont know why anyone would flame you sweetie lol
I think all of us agree with you....
love you girl , how are things going with you....big difference in the two of you...you are trying big time. Jan

Cor I'm not going to flame you at all.  I think most of what she's saying is BS.  I mean come on her post on her profile says Long Time Coming---if she was trying to get this surgery for a long time then she's done some type of research.  You can NOT have this surgery and not have been told at some point or another about the RULES!!!  All the hoops we have to jump through to get the surgery???  The testing the evaluations???  Someone somewhere sometime has said something to her about eating habits after surgery.  The WHOLE reason for this type of surgery is eating habits!!!  I think it's just an attention getter if you ask me.  I myself have wasted too many brain cells reading the crap and refuse to do it anymore.  Sorry if this offends any of you but think about it---how can you possibly go through all the pre work to have this surgery and NOT know what you're getting into???  As far as the mental part goes I know we all have our issues and I myself have some major ones but I know the rules of what I can and can't have and did get a binder and was told allllllllllllllllllll about the surgery before I ever had it.  WE ALL DID!!!  SO yeah I'm done.

~Angie

Thank you soooo much.....The post that I wrote yesterday stemed from her and another one on the main board......I just dont understand why people would do this to themself and then go and eat like they have knowing full well that they shouldnt or not suppose to yet!!!
I know what my problem is.....I am soooo afraid that I will not lose or will gain back that my head say dont eat.....It scares me that I will be one of the ones that go to the far end and end up sick, or anorexic(sp)
I dont want to have that happen....today I made up my mind not to worry about eatting and just do it....at least try to remember too at least.
But I know that I have you all to be there when Im screaming help!! I couldnt have ever found better friends than you all here on this board....I love you all and thanks for the understanding that you give me everyday....
Love and Hugs

Misty
 What are you thinking, do you think you can just do whatever you want, that you are the exception to the rules? I take real big offense to your post. There is no way I believe that you didn't know you couldn't have certain thing's. There is no way I believe you didn't get any information about what would happen afterward. There is not one single person who didn't have to go through testing, classes, and all kinds of craziness before surgery to make sure they knew what was going on or what was going to happen afterwords. Dr. H was not my doctor but I have plenty of friend's that had him, and know for a fact that they all knew what was going to happen. What was you doing the year you were waiting for your surgery? Seems to me that would have been the perfect time to research it. Where's the binder Dr. H. gave you? Have you opened it? There are reason's they give you the binder's and rules to go by.
 You said in your profile that you were having this surgery for your child, that's great, alot of us have that for a reason. How old is your daughter? Is she old enough to understand any of this. I couldn't imagine putting one of my daughter's through such hell as watching me suffer because I wanted pasta and sugar, or finding me dead because I couldn't follow simple rules. It's just crazy to me.
 Yes, I know I'm being mean and frankly if it helps you to get up and put your head on straight and do what your suppose to then good.
 You really need to help yourself, open your binder, call your doctor, listen to the people giving you advise, and grow up. There's not one person who can help you until you help yourself.
 I know this post is harsh and it sounds like I'm just being mean, but honestly if I didn't care I wouldn't even bother. So please do yourself (and your daughter) a favor and pull it together before it's to late.

 Love and Hugs