I Lost A Close Friend.....
I remember when I started this journey I was told that I might lose some friends and I have. I know that everything happens for a reason, but it hurts that I have been there for my friend but she told me that all I ever talk about is my weightloss . My marriage is a happy one. I am hurt that she isnt supporting me with my weightloss. I thought with her being a big girl too she knows how it hurts being big. I guess she is mad about me doing something for me and for my kids. She doesnt like to hear about how much weight I have lost. I have tried to be there for her and her personal dilmmas and it really hurts me that I thought we were friends for almost 10 yrs. I am really hurt that I lost this friend, it really hurts that I dont really have any friends that are supporting me in my new life. I guess as we get older we lose the quantity of friends it is more about the quality of friends. I dont have alot of true friends but it is okay. It bothers me to have lost this friendship but I know not all friendships are meant to last for whatever reason. I know that everything happens for a reason. We have raised our kids together and it hurts for her to be so candid about not wanting to hear about my weightloss and my life. I really dont have much else going on but my marriage, my weightloss and getting ready to return to school in January. I try to be there for my friends and associates. I just wanted to tell you whats going on and there will be some friends that will leave your side either out of jealousy or envy but either way you have to do what makes you happy and is best for you and your family. I really just needed to vent. I hope noone else loses a good friend like I have, but I should of seen it coming. I hope everyone has a Merry XMAS!!! And a WONDERFUL New Years!!!!
Hi Ya...I do know how you feel...only I lost a good friend not over this surgery...but over the election!! Can you imagine that!! It does hurt when you lose someone that has been your rock, through all the tough and good, all because of difference of opinions, which by the way dont make it right and dont make it wrong either. We should be able to move on and agree to disagree right? Well that's sometimes not the case with some people.
Just always remember that WHAT GOES AROUND, WILL COME AROUND AND BITE YOU IN THE ASS EVERY TIME!!!!
So on that note...It's her LOSS...not yours. You didn't do anything wrong but ask for a little support and a little excitement when you had lost weight, and support when you were down. One the same note...its going to be hard...but keep your chin up and she will soon see the wrong that she has done to you. Until then...keep coming here and post with the rest of us...let us know whats going on in your life, because WE DO care about you and your successes and your downs....You will always have friends here....!!!!!
Have a Merry Christmas and A Awesome New YOU...oops...I mean Year...lol
Love and Hugs...
Just always remember that WHAT GOES AROUND, WILL COME AROUND AND BITE YOU IN THE ASS EVERY TIME!!!!
So on that note...It's her LOSS...not yours. You didn't do anything wrong but ask for a little support and a little excitement when you had lost weight, and support when you were down. One the same note...its going to be hard...but keep your chin up and she will soon see the wrong that she has done to you. Until then...keep coming here and post with the rest of us...let us know whats going on in your life, because WE DO care about you and your successes and your downs....You will always have friends here....!!!!!
Have a Merry Christmas and A Awesome New YOU...oops...I mean Year...lol
Love and Hugs...
Cor
Too bad and I know it hurts, but she wasn't a true friend. I have 2 friends that are so proud of me. One is heavy but she still encourages me and wants to hear about me. I try not to talk about my weight loss in a group because I'm sure some don't really care. I find that co-workers that want to lose weight but don't make the effort don't say anything. I'm doing this for me so I don't care what others think.
A co-worker had lapband about 3 years ago and she was successful in the beginning and did talk about what she ate, any problems she had and all the weight she lost. Unfortunately, she didn't learn to eat healthy and put most of the weight back on. At every luncheon she went into detail about how little she could eat and it got annoying. If we have a lunch, I eat what I can but don't talk about it.
Think about how much healthier you are and don't let her attitude affect you.
Have a great Christmas and wonderful New Year!
A co-worker had lapband about 3 years ago and she was successful in the beginning and did talk about what she ate, any problems she had and all the weight she lost. Unfortunately, she didn't learn to eat healthy and put most of the weight back on. At every luncheon she went into detail about how little she could eat and it got annoying. If we have a lunch, I eat what I can but don't talk about it.
Think about how much healthier you are and don't let her attitude affect you.
Have a great Christmas and wonderful New Year!
~Jo~
RNY: July 8, 2008
Dr. John Price
Kansas City, MO
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