Is It Just Me???? Or do you or HAVE you felt this way before?

I am really wanting to know if anyone is feeling this way? I have lost 58 lbs, that is from liquid diet and all. I hear how great I look and I know I have lost weight because I went from a 26-28 and now I am in 20-22's. But, I still feel sooo fat and uncomfortable. I am feeling good about myself ( sometimes ) but alot of the time I am still feeling the same.. I know that the surgery doesnt help our heads or minds, but I still feel like I should be losing alot more then I have and that I am still so obese. I am not sure what weight I should be at 5'4? I was thinking I wanted to be more worried about being healthy and at a good size "FOR ME" not so focused on the weight.... Am I doing this right? Am I thinking right? I also feel that ppl tell me I look good, but they are just saying it to be nice because they know that I had the RNY...Has anyone ever felt this way? Am I totally wrong? I would rather someone not say anything to me about looking good then lie to me. I went to my support group yest and ppl were saying it but I wonder if some of them really & truly meant it? HELP!!! I am questioning myself and others.. I am not sure what is wrong with me.

Just set back and relax, you are doing great, you gotta have some time...and yes I know my feeling would get so confused, am I doing this right or that right..but it all came tog. just give it some time you will be fine..58 pds is awesome, Im sure you are looking different to people..so hang in there your doing good....vesta

No sweetie your are just as normal as the rest of us!!! I don't think there is anyone on he board that's not had the issue of still feeling the same....It takes a bit for the brain to get your emotions caught up with reality!!!
I have been overweight all my life and morbidly obese for at least 12 years....I am about 16 months out and down aprox 200lbs.....I feel tons better and know I do look different but I still catch myself thinking fat....Like surveying the seating when I walk in somewhere to see where my big but will fit so I can set down....Looking at 4-5x when I look at clothes and etc....I even catch myself feeling subconsious that people are staring at me and how fat I am....
I was at almost 500lbs for a long time and those are the feelings I had then and now it's hard to get away from those thoughts and worries.....
I promise your are feeling normal....the thoughts and feelings you are having now will improve as time passes....Your not that far out....give your self a break babe!!! I think you are doing great and hope you keep up the good work....
Will keep you in my payers......Luv & Hugs...Tammy~ammy

Lori, I totally feel the same way sometimes.   The 64 lbs that I've lost has been sense April, when I went to the seminar.  I know that I have lost ALOT of weight & when I look at pix, I can't believe the difference, but I still feel REALLY Fat!  especially when I see my floppy arms & legs.  I think it's going to take our heads alot longer to realize how much better we look.  I don't think people are saying things just to be nice.  I think that we've had such low self esteme for so long, it's hard for us to believe good things people say about us.  Believe me, I wouldn't say anything instead of lying & you're looking GREAT.  All I can see is your face, but I can tell a big difference in it & it's only gonna get better.  Look at you're before pix, then at current pix.  What a huge difference there is!  & it's only been 2 months!!!  Please don't doubt yourself.  You're doing WONDERFUL!!!  I'm 5'4" also & my goal is 130.  I don't know if I'll ever get there, but I'm really gonna try.  ~  Like you said, this surgery doesn't fix our heads, boy do I wi**** did!!!  lol  Mine could use a total overhaul.  lol  but, I really do believe that it's gonna take our heads along time to catch up.
YOUR DOING GREAT!!!!!!!  Love ya!!!!  (((HUGS)))) Angy

I know what you mean. I have loss 112 lbs. which is great. And everyone who knows that I have had the surgery always tell me how great I look. But I still can't help thinking that to people who don't know how much weight I have loss, that I am still fat.I just hate that feeling.My mom keeps telling me that I have done great and if I don't lose anymore I should be happy with what I have loss. Well I'm not, I didn't get this done to still be fat. You know what I mean. Ok I'm done complaining. We will think we are thin some day!LOL, Take Care and God Bless, Tammy V.

CONGRATS ON YOUR WEIGHT LOSS SO FAR AND KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK, YOU ARE NOT ALONE. I HAVE LOST ABOUT 40 LBS SINCE SURGERY. I NOTICE MY CLOTHES AND SOME OF MY SHOES ARE TOO BIG. I NOTICE I CAN WALK FURTHER WITHOUT PAIN AND GETTING SHORT OF BREATH. NOT TOO MANY PEOPLE KNOW I HAD THE SURGERY AND NO ONE SAYS ANYTHING ABOUT MY WEIGHT LOSS EXCEPT THE ONES WHO DO KNOW. SOME DAYS I FEEL LIKE, "O.K I'VE GONE FROM 296 TO 255, I'M NOT GOING TO LOSE ANYMORE, I'M JUST GONNA STOP RIGHT HERE AND ALL THIS WILL BE FOR NOTHING." I FEEL LIKE THAT EVERYDAY AND I STILL SEE 296 WHEN I LOOK IN THE MIRROR. SO DONT FEEL LIKE YOU ARE ALONE, I WAS "CRAZY" PRE-OP NOW, I'M "STARK RAVING MAD!!" DOESNT FIX OUR HEADS AT ALL WE LOSE THE PHYSICAL HANDICAPS AND GAIN MENTAL ONES.