We Need Help!!!!
Brenda...
First off, kudos to you for admitting that this is a problem. So many of us have struggled (and still are) with the exact same thing and accountablility (and prayers!) seem to help us get through tough times like this. Another thing, you are not alone and you aren't going to be judged. Just some help from all of us who have gone through the same thing. Bless your heart.
From my experience (experience, not perfection) I have noticed I can eat a lot when I eat 'slider' foods. Foods that are easy to get through the pouch. I have researched that the pouch can stretch slightly but not completely out of shape unless the surgery failed (which I doubt since you have a good surgeon). Think of a balloon with a hole at the top and bottom. No way for it to completely stretch out of shape unless one of the holes get plugged up. I suspect you are able to eat a lot of processed or simple carbs which slide on through your pouch where as dense or fibrous foods & carbs would actually fill your pouch for a while. Sometimes a good protein bar that's not too high in carbs (if you are on a carb limit) will really fill you up since it is dense. If you choose to journal and get back to basics (5 day pouch test is a great option to reset your mindset) you will be surprised how fast you can get back on track.
I agree with Barb that you need to set some rules about snacks for the kiddos. We all know that the choices of sugar loaded snacks are bad for everybody. You need to take charge for yourself so you don't feel so defeated. The feeling of defeat will pull you down to where you just don't care and give up. (And guess who wins? It certainly isn't you...cause the enemy would love to have you defeated, therefore powerless in this area.) Don't give up, look how hard you worked to get where you are.
If you are not put at ease by the changes you make, by all means contact your surgeon and talk to him. He should be able to listen to you and determine if indeed your pouch isn't functioning properly. But make the changes you need to make, first. Clean out the foods that are bad for you and reset your mind. You know what to do, you are just going to have to love yourself enough to do it. You are worth it. And we all love you, too.
Peggy.
PS - I didn't start dumping until I was almost 2.5 years out. Shocked the heck out of me the first time I did it!
First off, kudos to you for admitting that this is a problem. So many of us have struggled (and still are) with the exact same thing and accountablility (and prayers!) seem to help us get through tough times like this. Another thing, you are not alone and you aren't going to be judged. Just some help from all of us who have gone through the same thing. Bless your heart.
From my experience (experience, not perfection) I have noticed I can eat a lot when I eat 'slider' foods. Foods that are easy to get through the pouch. I have researched that the pouch can stretch slightly but not completely out of shape unless the surgery failed (which I doubt since you have a good surgeon). Think of a balloon with a hole at the top and bottom. No way for it to completely stretch out of shape unless one of the holes get plugged up. I suspect you are able to eat a lot of processed or simple carbs which slide on through your pouch where as dense or fibrous foods & carbs would actually fill your pouch for a while. Sometimes a good protein bar that's not too high in carbs (if you are on a carb limit) will really fill you up since it is dense. If you choose to journal and get back to basics (5 day pouch test is a great option to reset your mindset) you will be surprised how fast you can get back on track.
I agree with Barb that you need to set some rules about snacks for the kiddos. We all know that the choices of sugar loaded snacks are bad for everybody. You need to take charge for yourself so you don't feel so defeated. The feeling of defeat will pull you down to where you just don't care and give up. (And guess who wins? It certainly isn't you...cause the enemy would love to have you defeated, therefore powerless in this area.) Don't give up, look how hard you worked to get where you are.
If you are not put at ease by the changes you make, by all means contact your surgeon and talk to him. He should be able to listen to you and determine if indeed your pouch isn't functioning properly. But make the changes you need to make, first. Clean out the foods that are bad for you and reset your mind. You know what to do, you are just going to have to love yourself enough to do it. You are worth it. And we all love you, too.
Peggy.
PS - I didn't start dumping until I was almost 2.5 years out. Shocked the heck out of me the first time I did it!
Peggy thank you for responding to me.
I am not sure what slider foods are?
I will try the protein bars.
What is processed or simple carbs? I haven't figured that out.
I do pray that everything is good with my pouch.
I never feel hunger I know it is just mindless eating.
I am going to have to except responsibly for my eating.
That's what got me to the point of the RNY.
Brenda & Dennis
I am not sure what slider foods are?
I will try the protein bars.
What is processed or simple carbs? I haven't figured that out.
I do pray that everything is good with my pouch.
I never feel hunger I know it is just mindless eating.
I am going to have to except responsibly for my eating.
That's what got me to the point of the RNY.
Brenda & Dennis
Life is too short to wake up with regrets.
So love the people who treat you right..
Forget about the one's who don't.
Believe everything happens for a reason.
If you get a second chance, grab it with both hands.
If it changes your life, let it.
Nobody said life would be easy,
they just promised it would be worth it.
Brenda...
Mindless eating seems to be a lot of my issues too. So I completely understand. I sometimes catch myself standing in front of the fridge 'just looking'. And you've started accepting responsibility, you asked for support. First step taken.
Slider foods (to me) are the processed carbs that go down easy. Anything with white flour or sugar (crackers, kids cereals, pretzels, white potatoes, some of the sweeter fruit). Complex carbs are more of the whole wheat and fiber fruits & veggies. Apples & raw carrots are examples of complex but I only recently began to eat them and I'm 3 years out. And if I'm not careful, raw carrots get stuck. I really do better if I stay away from most carbs and carefully watch the ones I do eat. I can't do no carbs at all, even tho a lot can. I just don't feel well when I eat completely carbless. So if you do choose them, choose them well. Stick with your plan.
I really think you may need to get Dennis checked, just for your (& his) peace of mind. He may get dehydrated if he can't get more water in. Watch him carefully and keep us posted. We are all praying for you both.
Peggy
Mindless eating seems to be a lot of my issues too. So I completely understand. I sometimes catch myself standing in front of the fridge 'just looking'. And you've started accepting responsibility, you asked for support. First step taken.
Slider foods (to me) are the processed carbs that go down easy. Anything with white flour or sugar (crackers, kids cereals, pretzels, white potatoes, some of the sweeter fruit). Complex carbs are more of the whole wheat and fiber fruits & veggies. Apples & raw carrots are examples of complex but I only recently began to eat them and I'm 3 years out. And if I'm not careful, raw carrots get stuck. I really do better if I stay away from most carbs and carefully watch the ones I do eat. I can't do no carbs at all, even tho a lot can. I just don't feel well when I eat completely carbless. So if you do choose them, choose them well. Stick with your plan.
I really think you may need to get Dennis checked, just for your (& his) peace of mind. He may get dehydrated if he can't get more water in. Watch him carefully and keep us posted. We are all praying for you both.
Peggy
I think that you should call your doctor right away regarding Dennis not being able to keep anything down. There are a couple things that could be a problem. He could have an obstruction that is either caused by a food ball or he could have scar tissue growing around the opening of the stomach that will not let the food in or out. The problem with this of course is that he can become dehydrated and malnurished and have some major problems. I know it is a long way to the doctor but they may be able to refer you to someone closer. (maybe a GI specialist). Hope all goes well with you.
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