Holy @*&#&$ I HAVE A DATE!!?!?!?!?
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JAN COOK
Food - it's not all up to me. People eat without me making decisions about what they will eat all year long every day. So when I was worried about what me and Randy would do when he needed to eat but I was going to just get me a couple bites of something..... I'd feel mean thinking 'he's a grown man and can feed his self if he is hungry'.
Now I see that it's worked out just fine. We still go out to eat and do everything we did before. I just go along and order a childs plate or something, or we share a plate. It never occured to me before that we could order food for him and get a second plate for me to eat from his order.... I always thought I had to have my own order so I'd get enough to eat!
Emotionally, I think it makes Randy feel good to share his food with me. He's so proud of my new eating style and my success. He was worried about our eating, he gets home from work so late it has been our visiting time of the day for years and he wasn't wanting to give that up.
Never in a million years could you have told me I'd be satisified to eat at Famous Daves BBQ and be happy eating 1 little rib and a half bowl of Wilbur Beans...and be full! Actually I think I get full jus****ching Randy eat...ha! Mean while he has a date to go eat with at the places he enjoys. I have to watch eating at The Rib Crib in Branson though, I love their onion rings...I just have to have a couple of the small ones..... I know I don't need to mix a fried food in the mix - so I try and convince Randy he does not need them for HIS health....hahahahahaha
Brenda
Cassie L.Yeah, it's just going to be hard, trying to make my family realize it's not about the food. Unfortunately my family tends to revolve EVERYTHING around food, and my step mom was all ready to put everything including the pumpkin pie and gravy in a blender when I said I would only be able to eat liquids! *roll eyes* they just don't get it. I really should give them my "Weight loss surgery for dummies book" after I have surgery, because I'm pretty much done reading it, maybe then they would understand better.
They want to help, but they just don't understand.
Fortunately my step mom is an AWESOME seamstress and will take be able to take in my clothes as much as she can so that may be helpful, as far as alterations go.
I still haven't told my mom, that's another story all together.
I've been so nervous the last couple of days, and it's still 6 weeks away!
I went through the same thing. I didn't want to tell anyone about my surgery until it was time...I was worried enough without all their horror stories on top...then what if Insurance backed out on me...I had lots of reasons to keep this surgery decison to myself. But you know what? Everyone took it so well. My own Mom said, 'Well, I was wondering if you'd ever considered it'.... What a relief it was to have her so open about it. I felt like a ton of bricks was off my shoulders. But really, this is a personal decision, and we should inform our loved ones in our own due time and in our own way. If they do not take it well, it is their problem and you can not fix their problem. But trust me, my food pushing Mother wants nothing more than to have something I can eat when I come visit her, she about drives me nuts over 'now tell me, what can you eat...' in her mind I'm on a diet. I'm trying to teach her I"m not on a diet, I'm eating healthy and smaller amounts. It takes people aound you a while to see you eat normal, but not huge amounts of things and healthier options. I think people watch what I put on my plate..they should not, because I put all I want on my plate, then when I get to the table, I decide what I'm actually going to eat. This slows me down from just digging in and eating too fast. What looks so good in the bowl, lots f times does not look so hot on my plate and I don't eat it. The food that is left over, I thank my God that I can give it back to Him and not eat it. Before wls that was never a option, if it hit my plate, it went down my throat! I had to find a different mind set from wasteing food. So I think of it as giving that extra that I do not need to eat...back to God as a thank-you for my new self control. I may not be explaining this just right, but I bet most of you will understand what I'm trying to express.
Try to tell your Mom you want to share something with her, flatter her and let her know her opinion matters to you and you'd love to have her blessing and help. We always think we know what our Moms will think, or I do anyways....but often, I'm surprised just how much she puts me first when the rest of the world does not.....
I hope this helps you in some way.....it has took a lot of midhight thinking for me to arrive at these mind-sets.
Brenda
