Post op emotions

So, i'm post op by one week now and i feel a little of depression coming on.  My problem is i have always been a strong single mother and i thought because the boys were older that it would be easier for me to got through this healing process. I've never been one to depend on anyone and it kinda bothers me that i have to rely on other right now. My oldest son doesnt live at home and the youngest one is 16 and has a job.  My baby has done everything he could to help me.  He even sleep in the living room with me for right now, to be sure i don't need for anything. The thing is i come from a huge family, but they all live two hours away.  My sisters were here from mon -friday and i love them for that, but what was i thinking to do this so far from "home" with no one to help me?  For some reason i feel like i should recoup and moved back to where i know my support system is.  I know i will probably rethink all this once my body heals, but right now i am a emotional wreck.  I even go so far as to say to myself "why did you have surgery on a body that wasn't requesting surgery". 

I just need help snapping out of this.  It may be from being in this house so long without fresh air..

Help Lisa

Lisa what you are feeling is pretty normal , it is called buyers remorse. most all of us went thru it and like you said what in the world was i thinking by having a surgery when my body wasnt wanting surgery. It will pass  are you getting up and walking ....get outside on these beautiful days and each day walk 5 minutes longer than you did the day before...OK? be sure you are getting in your protein and water. You should be feeling pretty well by now and if not you need to be calling your surgeon and telling him ok?
please stay on the board with us , we can help you on here get out of the depression. follow all your doctors insturctions to the letter ok?

I'm feeling ok , other than the emotional things.  Its so lonely in this house when my son is at work.

These are very common feelings, it gets better, for me this was my feeling also but it gets better and talk to your doctor about it if  you keep feeling this way..

when you start moving around allot and getting out around people, and  those scales start dropping, it will be much better.

Go to a support group, this always helped me.
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keep talking to us we are here for you, I am 16 mos post, you are in my prayers, its gonna be ok...love ya....vesta

It sounds like you have more of a support system than you know, a 16 yr. old son who sleeps in the living room with you is a pretty nice son , all of my sisters and mom live 2000 miles away in Oregon, my mom came up for a week or so after my surgery but when she left I felt alot like you do, my son is 17 and in school all day and my hubby works from 7 until 7 at night 6 day's a week most times.Don't be upset if you don't lose alot right away, it takes a couple weeks to expell all the water you retain from the hosp. after 2-3 weeks you'll probably lose 1/2 - 1 lb a day, you'll feel so much better once that scale starts moving down. I am not a big fan of walking...or excersize in general to tell the truth, but I have lost about 90 lb.s in less than 6 mo's, basically, to be honest, without trying. When I got on the scale the first day and saw I was UNDER 300 lb.s , I was so happy!! The biggest thing you can do for yourself right now is get in your protein, drink your sugar free liquids, and take your vitamins!!! if you aren't getting the protein and vit's you need , malnutrition can make you feel depressed. Keep on posting here, ask all the question you want, we have all been there, or are planning on being there and that is what this forum is for. Good luck hon, you WILL feel better soon!!

I really which i could have a protein drink right now but i haven't gotten that far yet.  I get those on Thur if all goes well.  I will have it sitting in my car waiting on me.

Lisa, even if you're not a fan of walking, do it anyway...they told me to walk from day one and it did make me feel better...

I had Dr d and his instructions were to walk at least a 1/2 mile for the first few days and then up it..I was walking 1mile a day after about 3 days home. It stirs something in you and does make you feel better. Right now is perfect weather for it too...Keep your chin up and keep coming back on here for all the support you will need.

But do find a local group to go to. You will need the love and help from others who have gone thru this.

Like everyone else said, when the pounds start coming off, it will all seem worth it.

I have had a 25 year battle with depression.  Here are some wyas that help me make it thru the rough times:

1.  Put make-up on every day --sometimes it's two in the afternoon b4 I can get this done but it seemes to help to look like I am together even when     I' m not. 

2.  Make a gratitude list, add to it daily.  Sounds trite, but it does help.

3.  Get dressed and make the bed.  You'll be much less likely to get back in it if it is made.

4. As they all said, walk.

If i do those things I consider it a successful day (another thing to add to my gratitude list.

I hope your depression imroves as your nutrition improves from the protein drinks.  

Stay in touch

Hugs,

Deb