Whats not happening MONDAY JUNE 23, 2008

I am very disappointed that we are not having a meeting tonight. Everytime we skip a month it just puts me back a little. I need the support of the group. I dont understand, is it the location, is it the time, is it the day. Everyone seemed to be involved in the group when we had good attendance. Maybe now that people are losing they are too busy with their own lives and dont have time for a support group.  Please respond, I know that a lot of people read these and read the one about our meeting that we were supposed to have tonite.  I am scared for myself that if I dont commit myself to a support group that I will not stay with it. It helped me to hear from those who have tackled problems and what they did to do it.  Am I just being selfish. I dont have any other group of people who know what I am going through. It's not just enough to get on here and read what others are saying. PLEASE TALK TO ME PEOPLE. ARE WE GOING TO END UP CANCELING THE GROUP BECAUSE NO ONE WANTS TO ATTEND. I NEED TO KNOW BECAUSE I NEED THE SUPPORT OF MY FELLOW LOSERS.  THANKS, THELMA

That is sad Thelma because it is a known fact that the people that attend a monthly support group stick with their diets and way of living better and have greater weight loss. There is no such thing as getting too busy with your life that you dont have time for it. I drive almost 2 hours to be at my monthly support meeting so that is no excuse to me either. I feel like there is a lack of committment from them as far as a new life is concerned and feel like they wont make it on the long run .  

Thelma,     Thanks for posting.  Lets see what response we get  on here.  We will see how many people wish to continue  next month.  We will keep our plans of a potluck for next month.  We will decide at Julys meeting if we continue or we decide to move to a different location.  Thanks, Colette

I know for a fact that when you dont go to a support group you wont make it as easy.  I havnt had a support group to go to because where I live there is none for 3 or so hours and then Im not sure and I have done terrible with losing weight after surgery,  Im very disspointed in myself because I know I could of done better and I did do great at first but then my old ways slowly kicked in and before I knew it I had gained some weight back so I know a support group really IS IMPORTANT, thats why when we go to the seminars for the WLS they HIGHLY recommend you attend a monthly suport group, I know at least Dr H. does,  I did attended a weigh****ches type group at a church here in town but it was mostly a gossip session each week so I quit going.  This is the very reason I am moving to Cedarcreek, MO so I can be closer to the Springfield Support group,  losing this weight means my life and I am bound and determined one way or another to get my entire life back.  I'll keep your support group in my prayers that people will commit to it.

Andrew 

For me I don't like to drive at night alone so, I don't attend. I also understand alot of people work so day wouldn't work for them. You really can not make everyone happy.  It would be nice to work something out.

Dear Thelma,

I sure dont live close enough to you to attend your meetings-but I wish I did. I live in a populated area as well-and have heard of different meetings in our area-but when trying to check into them-they arent there. The nearest one to me that I know of-is Springfield. I cant always get there, due to transportation or health issues-stuff like that-

I feel like you do-I feel so much better about my journey AND myself when I do get to make it to one of the support group meetings, because everyone pretty much understands where I am coming from. I will keep you, Colette and your group in my prayers-that it all works out and you get the support you want and need. I know people get busy when they start losing and being more active-and then some forget about our group, our site or what have you-but there are people, like me-who WILL NEVER forget and I will not just walk away or ever get too busy to remember where I came from, how I felt-or get too busy to help others. Your doing a great thing-keep your chin up!!! Love, Janet

A special thankyou to all the above people *****sponded to our post.  Colette