Identity crisis

who is this person I see emerging from the fat that has encased my face for so long?? anyone else suffer from this? I know  I am older but I dont see the me I was before I gained all this weight...I hardly know the  person looking back at me now.  is this normal? going to get to see my nephews and neice sometime this week....they havent seen me since Aug when we buried my gran. and their father hasnt seen me since last Christmas....should be interresting.  I noticed that my walking is better...not so much of the drunk  staggering now. the weight of the tummy section does keep me hunched over some... but thats getting better also. I had another question but nope it went away before I came to post.  thanks! nutti

 

Nutti, I know what you are feeling.  I have lost 48 pounds since June when I started this trip.  I have lost 17 since surgery on the 7th.  I see my face changing.  I have always even as a child had a round face, now it's narrowing and it's odd to see.   Now that I'm seperated and soon to be divorced, I wonder if I should be looking to date someone who would have like and respected the Big me or someone who would only date the new me?   I never thought this would be an issue for me...but I guess it is.

I hope you like the new you, you see emerging!

Nutti i think we all feel this way when we start seeing that different person than we have looked at for so long going away. no it isnt us when we were younger this is a new and improved person that we havent met yet. She is pretty special and it is really important that you take some time and get to know her.  the imbalance will get better, My husband laughed at me and was always there to grab me .said i walked like a drunk for awhile. It takes us a while to get our center of balance again. It will happen tho. and seems most everyone develops pain in their backs under one or the other shoulder blades from the slumping we do.  Good thing tho i have gained an inch in height so it helps in figuring my BMI now lol.  good luck on getting to know the new lady you see in your mirror.

Nutti I know how you feel because I too don't seem to know the person looking back at me in the mirror. When we were bigger we also didn't know ourselves because we never really looked in the mirror I can remember being so ashamed to look in the mirror. I would fix my hair and look from the eyebrows up. I didn't want to look myself in the eye. NOW I have embraced this new person. She is so courageous and the hell she has went through to get where she is today deserve a look in the eye. Embrace the new you and know that you DESERVE this!!! It has been a long time coming. Our bodies and image take a while to catch up with the rapid weight loss. At the same time NEVER forget who you are or where you came from. Congrats on the punds lost and congrats on the many more pounds to come. Remember embrace it and enjoy. Also Jan is right the pain under my left shoulder blade is excruciating.  But if he can brings us to it, he will bring us through it. Hugs

Wow, I NEVER thought about that pain that comes in my shoulder as being my posture changing.  It is not so bad now but a few months ago it REALLY hurt.   See, learn something new all the time!   Jennifer

What you are experiencing is sooo normal!  I am 2 1/2 out from surgery, and even now when I look in the mirror, sometimes I see the before me.  When I see a photo of the new me, once in a while I feel like I'm looking at another person.  This will pass in time. Patty