He never gives more then you can carry

When one door closes keep walking till you find an open window.  I truely believe this. My surgery is just a little more then 2 weeks away.  Monday I am to start my liquid diet and stop taking my birthcontrol pills and increase my pre op vitamins to post op levels.  I have made my will and am filliing out my advance directive.  Have all kinds of broths and soups I can eat.  I am packing my bag for the hospital.  I am all ready.  So I should be all set.  Ready to be on the losers bench and start my new life.  But speaking of new lifes....................... Then the hard thing happens.  My husband of 12 and I have decided to seperate and eventually get a divorce.  All this just 2 weeks before surgery.  It weighs on me heavily.  I am very emotional, but I cry easily.  We have agreed to do this as mutally and friendly as possible.  We have a young 8 year old son we need to make sure this doesn't mess up.  We have told him and he is dealing amazingly well and I think it's cause we are making an effort not to be emotional infront of him and let him see us working out the business of seperating like good parents. So right after surgery, like within a week or so, I will be moving out and taking our son with me.   The details of the whys and how come are hard to deal with but I deal.  Please keep me in your prayers.  As I need as much support as possible.  So I will go forward into my new life completely and totally new.  I look forward to my future and what it might hold. I know He will not let me fail!

Belanna iwill most assureadly keep you in my prayers , you have a lot on your plate right now with the surgery and then the seperation. I am glad that you are making it as calm as you can for your son. I hope only thebest for you thru all of this. If you need anyone to talk to we are as close as your computer keyboard.  We are all here for you.....Loveand blessings. Jan

Dear Bel, Im so sorry to hear this. I know that this period in life is so hard all on its own, without the extra to deal with. I will be keeping you and your son in my prayers. I give you a lot of credit, because its so hard to deal with that situation without being angry and ugly-you are being a trooper-and I would like to commend you for putting your son first-and trust me, it makes a big difference in how a child deals with this situation! He is going to come out of this just fine, because his parents are being civil and decent. You should know that this is going to be the best way for him. Its not always going to feel good for you, but your being a great mom by realizing that your son should come first and you are putting him first!! Please let us know if there is anything we can do for you here. You have our prayers, definitely. IF you would like to talk-please email me or PM me, my email is [email protected] and I will email you my phone number. Please dont go through this alone. IF you NEED ANYTHING, let us know-the liquid diet and pre-op time can be so trying without worrying about moving, seperating and all of that. I am here if you want or need me. Love and Prayers to you-STAY STRONG...YOU WILL SUCCEED AND YOU WILL PREVAIL....Janet

{{{{Bel}}}}  Goodness girl - I'm so sorry.  I'll be praying for you!!

I know about those doors closing and those windows opening. To God goes all the glory. I am praying for you. I have similar things going on as well and i am so much better for it. And be encouraged it will get better one way or the other. Be blessed and i will pray for you and your son also.

Thank you all for your kind words and support!  I know I will make it through I have been through worse then this and survived.   Thank you all so much!

Aww Sweetie thats a lot to deal with right before surgery. I'm amazed at how at peace you seem to be about it all. You will be in my thoughts and prayers for a safe surgery. Best of luck to you :)

I will keep you in my thoughts.  We have been doing a lot of deep thinking around here and reminding ourselves that God does things for a reason.  We are still waiting for him to share his plan for us with everything he is putting us through lately but I believe he has to be up to something.   Be strong and follow your pre-op plan.  We are waiting here on the loser's bench.   Jennifer