I'm so nervous...
Don"t be so down on your self. You shouldn't feel bad, the fact that you went to his seminar shows that you want to better yourself and your health. Yes you have to think about your child, but at the same time having the proceedure done would help you have a better relationship with him. regardless you need to think long and hard about this and do alot of research about it and make absolutely sure this is what you want to do. Attending the seminar doesn't mean you have committed to anything, it just means that you are exploring your options on bettering your health. I hope this helps you some and you are in my prayers. Also you should know that you can always contact any of us and we will respond the best we can. Hugs, Layla 
Amanda....I am so sorry you are having such a struggle with making up your mind on the WLS. But I know what you are going thru. I put mine off for a good while because of my mother and my older daughter. They were terrified about me havng the surgery.
Of couse it is true that things can happen. They tell you that up front...But the surgeries have come a long ways over the years. The death rate now is really low.
Your weight must be effecting your life in some ways or you would not be even considering the surgery.
By the time I fianally went to the doctor to get my process started I weighed 474lbs!!! I could not believe I had let my self get to that point!!!! But I knew I had to do something.....I had gotten to where I could no****ch my grand daughter alone becasue I couldn't drum up the energy to keep up with her anymore, I could not do dishes or cook with out setting down several times. I had trouble getting in and out of vehicles, couldn't set in hardly any chairs in doctor offices and such and the list goes on and on and on!
I was not happy living that way!!! I had to do something to do so I could get back to the old happy & energetic Tammy.
So I have made the choice to go on with it, not only for my self but for my family as well. I want to be able to enjoy what life I have with them and not setting back and watching them...
And besides with being over weight your at risk of so many things that could take your life as well.....
The choice to start this journey has to be yours and yours alone....If your not ready just yet then think about it some more....Take time to not only think but to talk to different people and get on your computer and look up all the info you can find on WLS. Then if the time is right you can always start then. It's a worthy journey but not an easy one.....So get your self prepared mentally before you start.
I wish you all the best with your decision....I will be praying for you that God be with you with what ever choice you do make and give you the strenght you need and the peace of mind you need.
Hope to hear more from you...Have a wonderful weekend, God Bless..Hugs..Tammy H.
Dear Amanda,
Oh sweety, I am so sorry you are feeling this way. I too, felt just like that when I researched the WLS before I attended the seminar with MO Bariatrics. I researched for several months before making up my mind to do it. This is the hardest decision that you will ever make (was for me anyway) I hope that you will sit down and write down the pros and cons and the things you cant do anymore-the things you want to be able to do and cant-and then the co-mo's that you have-and really think about it.
I have 4 children, a loving husband who is my soul mate, and everything to live for-but I wasnt living and I was missing out on our family life-as well as my married life-because of my weight! It was holding me prisoner in my body-and I HATED myself and my body-and I was so depressed because of my situation that for over 2 years I didnt care if I woke up in the morning, because I was dead on the inside. So, for me, the choice was easy to make-because without the surgery, it was just a matter of time before I died anyway-and without the surgery, I didnt stand a snowballs chance in hell of EVER having the life I have now-thats for sure.
I had my RNY on 11/29/06 and as of today have lost 146#. I am enjoying my life now, I am having fun with my family and keeping up with them and taking care of them and I look forward to each and every day I have with them. Were there risks? YES....BUT, for me-the choice was simple. I dont recommend this surgery for someone who isnt 100 percent certain they want it. IT IS NOT the easy way out like I have heard so many people say, but I think you will find that MOST people on this site will say that their life has been enhanced and has gotten so much better now that they are healthier.
This is scary too-I really like the person I am becomming. I hated myself too when I went to the seminar. I hated who I had become and felt so weak to have let myself get so freaking fat-and hated that I let myself and my children down and that because of my decision to have the surgery, if something did happen, my loved ones would hurt, but I talked to them and they were all behind me-scared at times for me, but behind me all the way....my only regret now-is that I didnt do this 10-20 years ago~
Amanda, I will pray that you will have a peace of mind about what you decide and if you need to vent or talk, please just post-if you choose NOT to have the surgery, we will still be here for you-and stand behind you in any decision you make, you have to make the right decision for you-and this isnt for everyone.....I pray that you will find peace in your decision and that you will be okay with yourself-sweety, cut yourself some slack-dont be mad-be happy that you do care enough to know that you need to get the weight off-no matter how you do it-right? Take care-and Happy Mothers Day, Love, Janet
Thank you for being so nice. I want this surgery so bad but when I came out of the seminar I thought this is crazy! I mean he wants to give you all the info, but it is scary. I would love to be able to do more with my son. I have no energy which stinks. I have my consultation with Dr Wagner on Tuesday. I am so embarressed to go out anywhere and think that everyone is embarressed to be around me. Thanks for being so supportive.
Dear Amanda: This is Dr. Hornbostel. Your situation is no different than if you were over age 55, and had cancer of the colon. Yes, you would kick yourself for not having had the colonoscopy that Katie Couric had recommended when you turned 50. But, you can't go back and have a "do-over". You have to live with where you are now. If you are experiencing significant medical problems related to your weight, such as high blood pressure, diabetes, sleep apnea, blood clots, cancer risk, reflux esophagitis, or arthritis in your back/hips/knees, you have a medical problem called "morbid obesity". The solution to this problem is surgical. It is the only treatment recognized by the federal government as effective for this problem. There are risks inherent with any surgical procedure, but there are severe risks to untreated morbid obesity as well. The risk of premature death from morbid obesity exceeds that of surgery for morbid obesity by a factor of 4:1! If you understand the severity of your medical risks from morbid obesity, the situation is clear. If you have not yet reached the point where you are seeking help for your medical problems, then I would encourage you NOT to seek surgery for your weight problems. You need to pursue this only after you have reached the understanding that your weight problems are going to rob your family of at least 25 years of QUALITY life with them. Best wishes! Sincerely, Phillip M. Hornbostel, M.D.
Hi Amanda,
You being nervous and concerned means you are really thinking things out and that is good. I just read what Dr. Hornbostel replied, and I agree. Life expectancy was an important factor in my decison. I think it is terrific that Dr. H. takes the time to read and respond. He is a terrific Dr. and sincerely cares about people.
I will pray that you can sort things out and just remember, it's your choice. Please keep us posted what your decision will be. There is absolutely no judgement on this board, just great support.
God Bless!
Charlotte
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