Needing some advice!!!

Hi all!! It has been awhile since I have been here and I am sorry about that. I have been going thru some things and I need some advice. Well some updates.. I am 7 1/2 months post op now and I have lost 110 lbs. I am feeling great and I have started working again. There is where most of my time goes now. Well I have recently found out that my best friend thinks I haven't been around to see her is because I have become stuck-up after my surgery. I have not become stuck-up I am just busy now with work and my family. I call her when I can and I try to invite her to events with me and she refuses. I am not ashamed of my new life nor do I want to defend it either. I don't like to be in the shadows anymore, nor do I like to be ignored. I guess I am just wondering what should I do? Has anyone else had to deal with a simular problem like this?

Dear Angie- First-let me say CONGRATS to you on your weight loss AND your new lease on life-you sound like you are doing so much better now-huh? You look great! Im sorry thats happening with your friend-I sure have been there-with 3 of them. Lets just say that sometimes our "friends" dont understand...sometimes they dont like the changes in us-and lets face it-it DOES change us. I know you are the same friend-but YOU have changed-and that can be intimidated to others who only saw us when we were miserable and down on ourselves. Im not saying anything against your friend...Maybe she just doesnt know how to take the changes in you now-or she is jelous-and that DOES happen a lot more often than you know. I would make time to talk to her and be straight up-and if she thinks you are now stuck up because of your new lease on life-then so be it-but you dont need someone tearing you down when you have worked so hard to get to where you are at. A TRUE friend would WANT to spend time with you-and if she refuses-its her loss-not yours-you will find new friends, and ones that will lift you up-not tear you up- Good luck to you-and I hope everything works out-let us know-ok? Janet

Angie...Hi...And welcome back....I am still pretty new to the board so I have not heard of you. But I agree with Janet....I still have not had my surgery but everyone around me is very supportive and is ready for me to burst out of my shell and become full of life again!!! If the friendship is important to you then I would take the time to set down with her and talk and find out what it is she is having a problem with.....If she is a true friend she will except you as you are and be tickled that you are doing so well for your self now.... I hope things work out well for the two of you.....God Bless...Hugs....Tammy H.