~Tammy H, Krissy B & Susan T~
Hi Ladies~ 
First of all-I think all 3 of you are wonderful. I am so glad to be able to meet people and become friends! It used to be so hard for me, pre-op, because I felt really alone and like no one understood what I was going through. I was always the fattest person pretty much wherever I went-and I hated to be around a size 3 person when they would go-OH, I AM SO FAT...I would think-woman-your whole body isnt as big as my boob-LOL!! I feel very blessed to have found this site-and some of the best friends a person could ask for! I am so glad to have met all of you, although Tammy is the only one I have met face to face-God willing, we will ALL meet one day!!
Tammy-Please stop being so hard on yourself. If you have a NOT so good diet day-get back on the wagon the next day and start over! You are doing everything right and have had a lot of what is called "trigger points" lately to deal with! Its alright girl-just try not to un-do all of the good you have already done-25# is awesome and I KNOW you can do it-you will be having surgery in NO TIME....I want you to call me when you feel like your having a day when you just dont have the strength ok? Thats what I am here for!! Kind of like AA....I will help talk you out of it-or just encourage you, cause I know how important surgery is....BUT...I also know the mental aspect is probably the hardest part of all of it-and I love you and I want to see you succeed. You are already such a beautiful woman-I am so excited to see what the next year will bring!!! I am lifting you in prayer, Tammy....I want you to remember how hard you have worked and give yourself credit where its deserved. I always did that too-never thought I was doing good enough or hadnt done this or that-never concentrated on the GOOD, like I lost this much weight, cut out ALL sugar, no carbs etc etc...IT IS IMPORTANT to be good to yourself-and I know...its sometimes easier said than done, but we all had to start somewhere-and that 25# is gone forever AND is 25# you dont have to worry about losing AFTER surgery and so you will lose even more after!!! WOO HOO~!!!!!
Krissy-Boy do I remember feeling like you do right now. I stop and read the posts and emails from you girls-and its like I am typing the words. Write it all down in a journal and then just pray about it!! You have already made the decision and you will do just fine, really. I am not trying to talk you out of the lap band-there are several who have had it and been very successful-there must have been a reason you chose RNY-do you think the lapband would be better for you? Talk to me-let me know what your thinking....But, honey-you have come this far-I am praying you have peace of mind. If you ever need to talk to me-you have my #, call me-ok? I will help in ANY way I can!! I want you to know its perfectly normal.....and want you to know that I am here for you should you need a sounding board. Sherr and Mel can tell you-there were times I wigged out-and they had to listen to a lot of rambling....but-thats what friends are for, and since they had been through it-they knew exactly where I was coming from!!! Oh, and I like the name you gave me-wings....its kind of funny-cause I never told you that I was getting a tattoo of a pair of angel wings on my shoulder with my rebirth date on it!!
Susan-I am so happy to have met you, to be able to talk to you-and to have another friend. We have sooo mu*****ommon and I want you to know that I am excited for you. I cant wait to see what happens with the doctor-and with everything else you have going on-I believe some of the other stuff will go away after surgery-you would be amazed!! I had HBP and was borderline diabetic-my PCP was going to put me on meds before my surgery and I asked if we could wait-and now-everything is perfect, all numbers, all labs....has been since December-and I had surgery the end of November....you will see- you will start feeling better. Thanks for all your kind words too-guess you find out when you get on line here, that you arent alone and a lot of other people share the same experiences.
All 3 of you have touched my heart. I pray for you each day-no matter where you are in the journey-because you are ALL at different stages-I remember ALL of those feelings and fears, excitement, being anxious, etc etc...I want you ALL to know, if you need to vent or whatever, I am here for you. I went through some very serious depression before my surgery, for over a year....and I felt very alone...like no one understood me or where I was at in my life etc-and I felt like I wasnt living. I couldnt even stand to make my family dinner-or play with my kids outside, I couldnt sit in a booth, I couldnt wear a seatbelt in any car-I would shop at Catherines and even some of their biggest clothes didnt fit me! I had trouble with personal hygeine and taking a shower would wipe me out....I went to my seminar in July of 06-but never believed I could have my surgery. My insurance co. denied me 4 times.....I was overwhelmed. I was too fat to have my knees replaced-and was told I would be in a wheelchair IF I didnt get the weight off and get things taken care of....Well, I went to the seminar-I quit sugar, I quit carbs.....I did everything I was suppose to do-and I had to lose weight before I could have the WLS.....I got to see my surgeon on Aug 29th, had to go through SEVERAL tests....and FINALLY got to have surgery the end of November...so whats it been? 4 months...I lost 44# before surgery and I have lost 80# since-total of 124# and my life has changed drastically. Not only can I stand to make ALL of dinner-I clear all dishes, I clean the kitchen, I can clean my house-I can fit in ANY booth, FIT all seatbelts, take a shower-AND shave my legs in the shower-WOW!!! I can take care of my hygeine issues-and I can play with my kids outside, play soccer etc...and hey, the sex aint bad either-LOL!!! I feel like the person I always wanted to be on the inside can now come outside and play and I LOVE LIFE...I am telling you this because....what I went through....I told myself that I WANTED to help ANY ONE I met who maybe had those same feelings as me...if they wanted me-I would be there for them. I feel very strongly about helping others in their journeys should they want it-and I look forward to sharing your journeys with you!!!
Love you guys. Take care and have a great weekend....Love, Janet 
First of all-I think all 3 of you are wonderful. I am so glad to be able to meet people and become friends! It used to be so hard for me, pre-op, because I felt really alone and like no one understood what I was going through. I was always the fattest person pretty much wherever I went-and I hated to be around a size 3 person when they would go-OH, I AM SO FAT...I would think-woman-your whole body isnt as big as my boob-LOL!! I feel very blessed to have found this site-and some of the best friends a person could ask for! I am so glad to have met all of you, although Tammy is the only one I have met face to face-God willing, we will ALL meet one day!!
Tammy-Please stop being so hard on yourself. If you have a NOT so good diet day-get back on the wagon the next day and start over! You are doing everything right and have had a lot of what is called "trigger points" lately to deal with! Its alright girl-just try not to un-do all of the good you have already done-25# is awesome and I KNOW you can do it-you will be having surgery in NO TIME....I want you to call me when you feel like your having a day when you just dont have the strength ok? Thats what I am here for!! Kind of like AA....I will help talk you out of it-or just encourage you, cause I know how important surgery is....BUT...I also know the mental aspect is probably the hardest part of all of it-and I love you and I want to see you succeed. You are already such a beautiful woman-I am so excited to see what the next year will bring!!! I am lifting you in prayer, Tammy....I want you to remember how hard you have worked and give yourself credit where its deserved. I always did that too-never thought I was doing good enough or hadnt done this or that-never concentrated on the GOOD, like I lost this much weight, cut out ALL sugar, no carbs etc etc...IT IS IMPORTANT to be good to yourself-and I know...its sometimes easier said than done, but we all had to start somewhere-and that 25# is gone forever AND is 25# you dont have to worry about losing AFTER surgery and so you will lose even more after!!! WOO HOO~!!!!!
Krissy-Boy do I remember feeling like you do right now. I stop and read the posts and emails from you girls-and its like I am typing the words. Write it all down in a journal and then just pray about it!! You have already made the decision and you will do just fine, really. I am not trying to talk you out of the lap band-there are several who have had it and been very successful-there must have been a reason you chose RNY-do you think the lapband would be better for you? Talk to me-let me know what your thinking....But, honey-you have come this far-I am praying you have peace of mind. If you ever need to talk to me-you have my #, call me-ok? I will help in ANY way I can!! I want you to know its perfectly normal.....and want you to know that I am here for you should you need a sounding board. Sherr and Mel can tell you-there were times I wigged out-and they had to listen to a lot of rambling....but-thats what friends are for, and since they had been through it-they knew exactly where I was coming from!!! Oh, and I like the name you gave me-wings....its kind of funny-cause I never told you that I was getting a tattoo of a pair of angel wings on my shoulder with my rebirth date on it!!
Susan-I am so happy to have met you, to be able to talk to you-and to have another friend. We have sooo mu*****ommon and I want you to know that I am excited for you. I cant wait to see what happens with the doctor-and with everything else you have going on-I believe some of the other stuff will go away after surgery-you would be amazed!! I had HBP and was borderline diabetic-my PCP was going to put me on meds before my surgery and I asked if we could wait-and now-everything is perfect, all numbers, all labs....has been since December-and I had surgery the end of November....you will see- you will start feeling better. Thanks for all your kind words too-guess you find out when you get on line here, that you arent alone and a lot of other people share the same experiences.
All 3 of you have touched my heart. I pray for you each day-no matter where you are in the journey-because you are ALL at different stages-I remember ALL of those feelings and fears, excitement, being anxious, etc etc...I want you ALL to know, if you need to vent or whatever, I am here for you. I went through some very serious depression before my surgery, for over a year....and I felt very alone...like no one understood me or where I was at in my life etc-and I felt like I wasnt living. I couldnt even stand to make my family dinner-or play with my kids outside, I couldnt sit in a booth, I couldnt wear a seatbelt in any car-I would shop at Catherines and even some of their biggest clothes didnt fit me! I had trouble with personal hygeine and taking a shower would wipe me out....I went to my seminar in July of 06-but never believed I could have my surgery. My insurance co. denied me 4 times.....I was overwhelmed. I was too fat to have my knees replaced-and was told I would be in a wheelchair IF I didnt get the weight off and get things taken care of....Well, I went to the seminar-I quit sugar, I quit carbs.....I did everything I was suppose to do-and I had to lose weight before I could have the WLS.....I got to see my surgeon on Aug 29th, had to go through SEVERAL tests....and FINALLY got to have surgery the end of November...so whats it been? 4 months...I lost 44# before surgery and I have lost 80# since-total of 124# and my life has changed drastically. Not only can I stand to make ALL of dinner-I clear all dishes, I clean the kitchen, I can clean my house-I can fit in ANY booth, FIT all seatbelts, take a shower-AND shave my legs in the shower-WOW!!! I can take care of my hygeine issues-and I can play with my kids outside, play soccer etc...and hey, the sex aint bad either-LOL!!! I feel like the person I always wanted to be on the inside can now come outside and play and I LOVE LIFE...I am telling you this because....what I went through....I told myself that I WANTED to help ANY ONE I met who maybe had those same feelings as me...if they wanted me-I would be there for them. I feel very strongly about helping others in their journeys should they want it-and I look forward to sharing your journeys with you!!!
Love you guys. Take care and have a great weekend....Love, Janet 
Oh Janet you are so sweet. Thank you for all the nice thing that you said!! There has been a couple of times when I was reading you letters I had to check and make sure it was from you and not to you from me, LOL. You are truely such a Godsend 
for me when I thought I was all alone in what (now I know Most of us) have gone thru. Thanks for being my friend. Love Susan
PS: I HOPE I HAVE THE COURAGE TO POST MY REAL PICTURE SOON.
for me when I thought I was all alone in what (now I know Most of us) have gone thru. Thanks for being my friend. Love Susan
PS: I HOPE I HAVE THE COURAGE TO POST MY REAL PICTURE SOON. 
Janet....Thank you soooooooo much.....It seems you always know when to drop in and give me a good talking to. This week my emotions have been so screwed up and I have felt so down. Not actually just over feeling like I have lost more by now....just felt down most of the week.....I'm crying so hard now after reading your post I almost can't see to type......I guess I needed a good cry or something to let it all out....The minit I started reading your post it just started pouring out!!!!
Thank you for always seeming to know when to know when to drop in and give me a good talking too. You have been so good to me thru this and I am so glad I have you at my side while I am dealing with all this. My family has been supportive and all and they are always giving me high fives on the weight I have lost and all but it means so much more when it comes from someone like you that knows where I am coming from. I have almost called you several times but I know you are so busy lately with all the things you got going on and I don't want to bother you at the wrong time...
I thank you sooo much for keeping me in your prayers....I strongly believe in prayer and I know you are doing it from the heart...THANK YOU!!!!!!
I do feel better now that I have had a good cry and I know these moments will pass and the days will get better....Maybe I will feel less stressed after my appt with Dr.Scott thursday!
I have to run for now....got a kid issue to deal with right quick....Hope you have a great weekend...I love you too and I am so thankful I met someone as thoughtful and caring as you are!!!!!! God Bless.....Hugs & Love....Tammy-Ammy
Tammy Ammy-
I am NEVER too busy to hear your voice or whats going on with you-NEVER NEVER NEVER!! You may have to listen to the little guy in the background, or whatever-BUT..YOU had BETTER call me when you need me-Ok? I will email you my number again and dont hesitate to use it! I mean it...you may have to leave a voice mail once in awhile, but I will get back to you.....I ALWAYS have time for my friends....and IF I am in the middle of something-I will say, let me call you back....I dont EVER want to find out you were having a lousy week and didnt call me or whatever cause you thought I was busy-you can ask anyone-my phone, it rings....and it plays the theme from cops.....haha...I love you so much and I dont want you to feel like you cant call. So-I will send ya an email, put my number in your phone-and call away girl-thats what I am here for.....How can I be a good angel when you dont let me know whats going on, silly woman!!! Now-smile-and cheer up-the dr. is going to be as impressed with you as we are!!! Love ya-Janet 
Wings
to me you are likened to the wings that sustains a bird in mid-air the strenght of the wings cause the bird to soar in the sky because of the encouragement you give me I could never say thank you enough today I went to soulard and got some vegatables and felt such a peace and I knew that someone are should I say ones had been lifting my name up to the lord....Janet I thank God for you ! Thank you for givimg me strenght
krissy
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