A little worried and uptight....

Hello out there Missouri. I am new to the forum part of this site. I have been checking this one out for some time now and have noticed that Dr. Hornbostel's name has been on a lot of people's profiles. I will be heading back to Sedalia on Tuesday for my pre-op testing and then back again on the 30th for my surgery on the morning of Dec. 1. I am excited on what this surgery will mean to me, but I am scared. I think it is more the diet after the fact than the actual surgery. I had an emergency c-section a few years back and if I can handle that, I am sure I can handle this. I am not sure why I am feeling so uptight. I have been preparing for this surgery since this time last year. I have done so much research and have seen a few of my friends go through this. How have any of you dealt with the after effects of this surgery? How have you conquered the aspect of "not being able to eat"? Am I over-reacting? I have read so many profiles and everyone's stories are different. I know I will not have the same "story" as others, but it will be helpful to have something to compare it to. Now don't get me wrong, I am also nervous about the surgery, but I keep telling myself it will be about a 2 hour long uninterupted nap. I have faith in Dr. Hornbostel, I am just having a hard time believing in myself....

first off congradulations on your upcomoing surgery and Dr. Hornbostel is the best in my book. I know i had trouble believing in myself too . I just knew i wouldnt be able to follow the rules but guess what you can. You have plenty of time after surgery to get use to it because you arent hungry anyway and it is really hard to make yourself get in what you are suppose to get in. It is sort of like dieting in reverse. lol Hang in there girl and we will be praying for you on the first. Keep posting and there are lots of people out there that can tell you all sorts of things . I am just 3 months out and feel absolutly great. Jan

Thank you Jan. I, too, love Dr. Hornbostel. I have been working with him this last year for my approval. I was denied last year because my insurance said I was 4 lbs. under their requirement! Can you believe that?!?!? So I followed all my regualr PCM's advice on weight loss and ended up gaining 21 lbs. So now, I qaulified. Do you miss the food? Are there certain things you can't eat? Are there things that make you sick? And the sugar doesn't count because thats a "gimmie". I still have so many questions that are still left unanswered, but most of those will be answered tomorrow at my pre-op. If I still have any left, be sure they will be posted on here! I guess the closer it gets, the more nervous I am....

Hi Kat, Welcome to the board.I am pre-op with my consult in March with Dr H. I am only a few minutes from Sedalia so I have you on my calendar. Hope to be able to check up on you while you are there. Congrats and don't worry I think any of us who have had a weight problem feel the same way at least once in a while. JULIA

Hello Julia, Thank you for the welcome. It would be wonderful if you could come and see me when I am in the hospital. The only support that I will have with me when I am there is my husband. I have friends that are supporting me, but they are all "long distance" friends. Other than my neighbor, I have no one back home either. That is one reason I sought out the message boards. I have been reading them for a few days and everyone seems to be so nice and "united". It is nice to know that there are people out there that do understand. I am hopeful that I will fall into the pace of things on this forum.....

Hello Kat, Dont feel bad about these feelings you are having. I think they must be normal, I know that I am havng the exact same feelings and they have been nothering me so bad that I have been considering backing out. Some of my family are totally against this surgery and they keep reaffirming my fears saying that I love to eat- How am I not going to be able to eat- Its got me really scared, not of the surgery, but about the afterwards. Its something I am trying to work out myself right now, so I know exactly where you are coming from. I see your from FLW. Have you been able to find a good support group in our area? I think that maybe that will really help. I am from Rolla and I havent been able to find a group yet. I didnt email the lady listed under the support group for our area, but she hasnt emailed me back, so Im thinking that shes no longer active. Maybe we need to start up one??

That would be GREAT for you all to start a group up there! GO FOR IT! Groups are soooooo helpful and keep ya on track and accountable. I had the lack of support as well, but I was determined and STILL am 2 1/2 yrs out. It's NOT always easy but you CAN do it if you REALLY want it!!! It's a very personal choice and I LOVED to eat pre-op and STILL love to eat. I have to chew alot of GUM! lol I have this oral fixation thing! I swear!!!! If I don't have something in my mouth, I'm in trouble. Maybe I need an adult sized pacifier?!?! LOL You really have to think about WHY you eat/ate and realize how to conquer that post-op. Alot of emotional journeying is ahead!!! I'm still going through it. Wouldn't change it for hte world though. I have a second chance at life and am so glad I listened to ME this time, I did what I KNEW I needed to do, cause those diets weren't the answer.....WLS was what it took for me to have some control in my life again. It's GOOD to feel comfortable with the little things in life, not to be the largest mom in the classroom at school functions, not to feel like your spouse doesn't want to walk WITH you cause of how you look (I felt that way, not saying he did), to go on a family bike ride, to buy clothes in ANY store you want! All LITTLE things, but when your OBESE they are HUGE things, cause you WANT it to be different. It can be different!! Just have the confidence in yourself and give yourself some credit to make this choice for YOU, it's no one else's choice......IT'S YOURS!!! : ) And down the road, those folks in your life who aren't supportive now, may either be EXTREMELY proud and supportive or they may struggle with the NEW you, cause you will be a NEW you, we all go through a change, how could we not. More confidence does wonders!!!! It's amazing and it's scarey for those who love us sometimes. We all have unique experiences with this. Hugs Tami