1st day back was not good

I knew that I would not get a good reception when I returned to work today. I have been gone just a hair over 3 weeks. Should of only been gone 2 weeks but emergency surgery extended it one week. I guess I was just in shock over the lack of consideration that they showed.... you know? To realize that you work in a hostile work environment is one thing ...but to get slapped down after going through so much lately is just like getting kicked in the teeth while you are down. Their response to me this morning even surprised me. I was basically ignored by most of the ladies. Did not even get a nod, good morning, how are you doing? NOTHING. The proverbial cold shoulder. A few of the ladies that are nice did ask me how I was doing and they inquired throughout the day as they could see that I was in pain and limping badly. My main boss actually called me on the phone and did not ask even ONCE how I was or what had happend. She chewed me out.... actually raising her voice ... it was awful. I felt so low after that moment. I am going to have to try to find another job. I just cannot work with these people. They are toxic. I have worked for this place for well over 5 + years and I am treated like crap. I cannot go into more detail for fear of retribution so I will have to become anonymous for awhile. I will have to make adjustments to my profile as well. This just sucks.... I so don't want to go back there tomorrow.... just thinking of it has got me teary eyed and I am NEVER that way. Folks you just don't realize how hateful they were .... Sorry to post such a bummer message.... but I have noone to talk to ....DH is at work as he had to go as I was getting off of work.... I just feel so alone right now and being in pain just makes it worse... why do people have to be so frickin' hateful? Pixielf~

pixiefl how awful for you. I feel your pain and dont understand how people can treat other people like that. And then most of them think they are good people . I have no clue . I dont even know how you are back at work in the first place and probably shouldnt be anyway but here is more power to you that you can find another job soon and when you do go for it , dont worry about them just do it. I feel your pain as you write and I know that you arent a wimp so i know it must be awful. I am sending you big old hugs from the (still fat) mama and know that i will keep you in my prayers. (huggs) and Jan

Jan.... Here I sit.... getting ready to head to the shower so I can go into work. Words cannot adequately tell the story of how much I don't want to go. When I say that I normally don't act like this... I truly DON'T act like this... I usually shrug it off and just go on. This time I am having a hard time dealing with it. I had a very bad night last night. Even with the pain pills in me I laid there and watched every flippin' hour come on that clock. I finally drifted off to sleep somwhere just past 5 a.m. You are right about the "ladies" at that place. They think that they are ALL that... pious, etc. etc. etc.... when in fact they have elitist attitudes. Everything about them screams that they think they are so much better than everyone else.... Thank you for thinking about me and thank you for the hug.... it does mean so much! Pixielf~

Oh Elizabeth, I worried about you and this situation....the old women in my office would ALL get together on Fridays and go out to lunch and NEVER ask me...it was so hurtful.... I hope you can find something else and SOON...you don't need that kind of behavior around you.... We all love you here and hope the best... S

I had just typed a post answering you...hit the button and have no idea where it went to. I work in the SAME type of environment as you described. They are so like that and more. I walk near them and they stop talking... ALA third grade and I'm THAT girl... I can't stand them. They are lazy lazy people who want nothing more than to tear someone down to try to make themselves look better.... Thank you for thinking of me.... Pixielf~

My heart goes out to you. I know how you feel; I too once had a job where the people were like that. I hated going to work everyday. Then God blessed me, which at the time I did not see it as a blessing, and I lost that job. I found a new one the pay was not quite as good but everyone was so nice and kind. I know money is really nice to have and it's great to be able to pay the bills without having to pinch pennies, but their are some things that are just more important than money. I have also been so broke that I cried and prayed cause I didn't know how I was going to feed my baby after my husband got hurt and lost his job. But God made sure things worked out for us. Times were hard but we made it and we even grew closer. I guess what I am trying to say here is maybe you could find a new job where the people are not that way. It may be hard at first if you have to take a cut in pay, but in the long run it may be better, because maybe you may actually look forward to going to work instead of dreading it and making yourself sick over the actions of others who could care less about you or for that matter anyone other than themselves. You are in my prayers. If a new job is not an option maybe God will bring you at least one person who cares into your work place. God Keep and Bless You. Sky

Sky.... Right now I would entertain jobs that did pay less than this one... especially if there is room to grow and advance. I started this job over 5 years ago and told them that I needed at least 10.00 an hour. I was started at 8.00.... guess what? I'm still not up to 10.00 5 years later.... I could go on and on over the crap that one endures while working there but I'm not going to.... they are just toxic bitter people.... I so want another job... started looking yesterday and there is nothing out there.... NOTHING.... save for fast food joints and I cannot do even that right now with this knee.... but I will not give up honey... trust me. I have more self worth that will prevent me from letting them continue this treatment. Pixielf~

Hang in there girl and God will lead you on the right path. He will bless you with the right answer. That is sad when people act like that. And I know exactly what you are talking about. Being a supervisor, I try my hardest to show concern about others and let them know I care. Hope this situation improves for you. Colette

Colette... I can believe that YOU treat folks with kindness and consideration and compassion. NOT like I was treated..... My direct supervisor actually yellled at me! WTH????? I just cannot understand them any longer...... I don't want to deal with them any longer...... Thank you for thinking of me ...it means alot... Pixielf~

I would like to tell I feel the hurt with you. I also have been in that situation. I don't know exactly how you feel, but I know it hurts not to be treated like you are a person with self dignity. For them to treat you like this when you are already down, you don't feel like being there in the first place because it's to soon to back from having knee replacement surgery. I used to be a medical records coder and I used to have to code surgeries and I know that is not a surgery that is quick to get over, and then to be treated like they have treated you!!!! It's downright hostile, and your boss too!!!! Is there someone in the chain of command that you can trust and go to? to see if something can be done? Yes then I know that would make it worse for you. It just makes me so mad in this day and time in the 21st century people still have to put up with this kind of treatment from people, that to me when they treat people like this, they are no better than the barbarians of centuries past. Sorry I just had to get it out. I will be praying for you to get another job, an even better paying one! I know it's tough, but hang in there. God Bless You. Brenda