OH FAMILEY PLEASE HELP ME!!

Benny: I am newer to the OH board, but I have been following your posts for about a month now. I agree with the other posters that you need to do this surgery now, while you can. I am going to have the lap band surgery sometime next month. My insurance won't cover it and I will be a self pay. I have prayed and prayed and done my research for a couple of years, just like you. I have to say that if we don't take the chance of having surgery now, our comorbidities caused by this excess weight could kill us sooner or later. I'd rather take the chance and do something about this now, while I still (at age 41) have a life to live. When I had completed all of my preop testing last week, I was terrified, because I knew the next step was to meet the dietician and anesthesiologist and then do the surgery. I have pondered should I do this? Do I really think it will help me? What if I die on the table? Or develop complications from surgery? I think these feelings are so common and there would be something wrong with us if we DIDN'T have these feelings. I am so proud of you for how far you've come, and I think you would totally regret NOT having the surgery. Listen to your family and friends, pray on it some more and the answer will come to you. God bless you, Benny! :) Lisa

Benny, I have to add my 2 cents worth. I think it's normal for you to be worried and scared about surgery coming up. And it is a life-changing surgery, no more of those old bad eating habits that we've grown to love and enjoy. However, it means there will be a life ahead for us, not hidden away in a room, not beating ourselves up because we don't like what we see in the mirror. You are a beautiful child of God and He wants you to live your life to the fullest in His honor. I think we all would love to see you healthier and happier and so would your family. It's normal for your Mom to be scared, she's your Mom. But this surgery is for you and for your future and if you want it after having worked years to get it you should do it and I know your Mom will be there for you totally. That's how Moms are!!! Don't cancel your surgery, is my request for you. Let go of the fear and let all of us here be strong for you. This board is full of loving people who will be praying for you constantly and God tells us that where two or more are gathered in prayer in agreement He will honor their prayers. You have too much life ahead of you to live it fat and unhealthy. Go for it, Benny, you can do it. We love you Lana

Thanks to you all ,I called margie at Dr Hornbostels office to give me more time and she said sure so im still getting the surgery just not next month its too soon for me, im not ready.i need to get more money saved and i need more time to loose the weight they want me to loose .i think i have lost prob 10 lbs im gonna go weigh today at the hospital fright scales . whew its humiliating lol but gotta know how much i have to loose i need to loose 30 more lbs so margie is going to be gone for a week then she is gonna call me and resceduall my surgery for december wich i think little over 4 months will give me pleanty time to pray and loose weight and save money for motel gas ect.. as far as going back to work , im not going till after i get surgery because who knows if their ins will pay for surgery , i know without a doubt i want the wls but it came so fast after trying 4 years to get it and all the sudden i was accepted from so many turndowns and already had a date it overwhelmed me , so i just need more time to get myself ready and my familey. I WANT TO SAY THANK YOU TO ALL YOU AND THANKS FOR THE LOVE AND SUPORT. LOVE YOU LOVE BEN