Surgery

I have decided not to have wls surgery now. For some personal reasons and i want to try my best to loose on my own, I have been in my room for 6 years never leave , well MY brothers ,, i have 3 and all older the oldest is 42 and the one next to me is 39 im 30 , I thought they and people and friends that i had lots, i blew them all off because i thought the way i looked was horrifying , but all three of my brothers well almost al my familey set me down said they loved me and they want me to have wls if thats what i want , i know i need it for my health but my health has just now been goin bad this last year but its changeing because i have been cutting down on eating but not really diets just not extra plates if you know what im mean lol but anyway , I had got it in my head everyone looked at me like i looked at me and hated me and shund me but in al reality im the one that shouved people away from me but now i truley know they love me for who i am what i look like and ect, I had no ideal they were worried about me they all said if i dont get out of my cave (room) house lol they were going to come drage me out .. with them all saying that it opend my eyes that i do need to care for myself for the ones that love me and not me , cause if it was up to me i would of sat here and died bedcause i thought no one liked , loved me now i know all does no matter what i look like, so im going to do my best to do this on my own my brothers 2 of them has home gyms they are going to come get me help me work out and walk at my pace and im going to go to a diatitin , ect so im going to call and see if maybe i can put wls on hold and try to do this myself , i have a great Job offer and i want to work so bad . my back is getting better and the job is sitting watching cameras pays good and insurance is good aswell. i will come here often , i want to see how everyones life is going with their new life love you all and thank you for your comfort! love benny

Benny I think that is great, you are young that you can try again maybe even several times if necessary. Wls isnt for everyone. Your brothers and family do care about you , we all know that. The weight loss has to be for Benny tho and not everyone else. Im glad that brothers are going to help you with the exercising. The wls will be there when and if you decide that is what you want in the future. The job sound great. Sitting and watching cameras???? what do you have to do to get a job like that? You better keep in touch with us. We will want to know how you are doing. I was dissapointed about you not coming to the meeting last night and you know you can still come to them. weight loss is weight loss and there might be some good tips for you at them too. We love you and hope the decission is yours and not your families but even if it is like i said the wls will always be there. Jan

Benny I wish you nothing but happiness and success. I would rather you say "Hold off on WLS let me try this my way" Then to go thro with WLS and not be totally prepared or ready for it. Like Jan said WLS is not for everyone. Please dont leave us totally because we have all come to love and care for you very much. And no matter what way you decided to lose it. It's still losing weight and being healthier. And we all need the encourgement we can get. You got my number DONT lose it call me and PLEASE keep in touch. God Bless You Melissa

I just want to let you all know that WLS is just on hold for now , I taled with a personal trainer and he and his wife was nice but is too hi dollar for me lol but maybe when I go to work! I have a dr appt for work release and personal trainer to make sure its ok for me to do extrasises and ect , its the 24th this month , but I will always love you all and remember I have this site marked , and I have your number stil melissa and also jan its at a casino watching secerity camras love you all love benny!!

Benny, Good for you. You should do whatever makes you happy and satisfied and having loving supportive family is great. And, after you have a job and good insurance if you decide to have WLS it will still be available. The main thing is to do what YOU want. Don't forsake us, we do love you and will want to know about the job and everything that is going on in your life. Try just to think about eathing healthier, even if you don't lose a lot of weight your body will appreciate the balanced diet. And you'll feel better and have more energy. I know, I'm trying to do that and although I'm not really losing weight I feel more peppy. Love and hugs and don't forget all of us. Lana

Benny I pray that everything will turn out the way you want it. It's wonderful to know that your family has not written you off. Hang in there you can do it if you want it bad enough. Sometimes I think we have to take a long look at ourselves and how we are going through life. I know after my son committed suicide I withdrew within and just about lost the rest of my family. God brought me through it and I know if you will totally turn it over to him your life will get so much better and your weight loss and ever so important keeping it off will happen. We don't want to just go through life we want to LIVE LIFE!!! God Bless You. Brenda