Narrow minded folks....

I don't have the time to elaborate much... but suffice to say I was a bit peeved yesterday. ... for those who don't know me well I have chosen NOT to let folks know about my surgery due to their negativity and attitudes regarding WLS in general (LONG LONG STORY and none of it good at all)... The ONLY people that know are those that I choose to inform and they are good and trusted friends. ...well in true fashion these people showed their A#$@ yesterday. This is just a bit of what was overheard in a convo. (not eavesdropping mind you as they were 3 feet from me!)....... " I ought to have my stomach stapled and then I could finally loose this fat..."... " but then if I ate like I normally do I would die as my stomach would explode.... you know the staples bust right out if you eat too much..." OTHER HARPIES COMMENT.... " well I think that THAT surgery is just for folks that are lazy fat slobs that can't make themselves take care of things... you know I had a friend who knew someone who died......" Back to other person.... " yes my aunt had the surgery and boy does she look awful... yada yada yada...." BACK TO KNOW IT ALL HARPIE... "... oh yes... I know all about it... you can only eat a teaspoon of food at a time for the rest of your life... you loose all your hair and are sickly ALL the time... and if you don't die from it right away you WILL die from it sooner or later as it is unnatural... the things that it does to your body... and all of this just because people are lazy fat slobs..." OK.... this is just a sampling of the mindset that I deal with being around these people.... wonderful huh? Don't even suggest to try to educate them... it is a long long story but they have a witchhunt mindset about it and I don't feel like dealing with them. Of coures these are the same folks that are so freaking jealous of MY weight loss that it isn't funny.... .....they can just bite me!.... Don't folks like this just burn your biscuits? Elizabeth~

Yep they do. I havent told anyone outside of family and a coulple of really really good friends. either. I just dont want to deal with them. Once i have surgery will be a different story, maybe i will tell them and maybe not. You know it is a shame there isnt a surgey for stupid too. Jan

Elizabeth, They are just jealous. They are more likely to die from fat and stupid, before someone dies from WLS. I think you should just smile at them knowingly and say how absolutely great you feel now that you have lost all of that NASTY FAT you were carrying around. Hah!! Living well is the best revenge. Linda P.S. I have told just about anybody who would stand still for 10 seconds that I had the surgery. None of them have dared to be mean like this to my face, especially since I have lost so much weight. Maybe I'm scarier than you are!!

My guess is that your coworkers assume that you had the surgery, kind of like the Star Jones thing. You didn't tell them you had surgery, yet you lost weight very fast and spent time away from work. The fact that you did this "in secrecy" probably makes them angry, and OF COURSE they're going to spout off negative comments. They are misinformed, and their attitudes have been formed accordingly. Ignore them...no sense in getting upset or angry about people who are clueless and jealous.

I made the mistake of telling a lady that I knew that I was getting the bypass. She had the Lap Band, and now she has been talking to my sister in law and anyone else that she can about how my hair will fall out (I have really long hair and don't plan on cutting it, will deal with the hairloss if it comes). Anyway she got ticked off at my sister in law because my sister in law told her that she was happy for me and that I researched the surgery and knew all the dangers of it. So I know how you feel dealing with ignorant people. When I see this lady I will be saying something to her myself. I know she is just jealous because she had her Band over 3 years ago and is still heavy because she doesn't follow doctor's orders and she eats ice cream everyday, she told me that herself. She knows I will succeed with my weight loss. Can't wait to see her then.

Thanks for all the replies folks..... These ladies are pieces of work I'll tell you... they have the cliquish hen party thing working bigtime. They HAVE to be talking trash about someone all the time... most of the time it is focused on folks who are making changes in their life (whether weight loss related or otherwise) and basically being successful. These ladies not only AREN'T successful but they lack the willpower or gumption to get tough and do what it takes to be successful. So instead of being happy for those around them that ARE making the changes for the better they seek to rip em' apart. When I had my surgery I was only out for my regularly scheduled 2 weeks per year vacation. That was it. Other than being in the hospital 3 days last spring for an incomplete obstruction that cleared (THANK YOU LORD!)... I have had a completely unremarkable journey WLS wise. I eat well.. I eat all manners of foods (that are good for you!) and I am neither sickly, bald or wrinkled or otherwise in bad shape. Sooooooo that blows their theories right out of the water.... These are the SAME ladies that are doing the hush hush whispered talk of taking Hoodia but gosh you would think that they had a Meth problem of something... they don't even want anyone to know that they are ordering and taking Hoodia... for goodness sakes... it isn't bad.... *LOL*... they are a riot..... I so much wanted to inform them and "learn" them the basics of what WLS is all about but I knew that it would be a waste of my breath as well as my time... they are totally flippin' clueless.... Thanks for listening to me rant though!... Elizabeth~