Dating

OMGOSH!  I'm 58, been divorced for 4+ years and have gone out for coffee a few times with some guys. [Not ONE of them could have an intelligent conversation! Sigh]

So  I've been emailing a guy for several weeks and finally went out on a 'date' Saturday night. The good news is we went to a MN Orch concert which I love since I'm a violin teacher. The bad news is, this guy is at least 400#, can hardly move around, stuck in his life of inaction - not only re: his health, but his job, too. The funny thing is he wanted to get the 'two-fer' meal whi*****ludes appetizer, full meal, dessert etc for 2 people. I said I didn't eat very much so I wouldn't be able to eat my half of the meal. HIs response was "Don't you like food????" That really amused me!
 
I was absoluley crazy by the end of the evening. I'm not interested in getting re-married. It would just be nice to have a companion to go out to concerts, theater or dinner, though.

Good thing I'm very happy and content with my life and who I am.  I enjoy my solitude, I enjoy my friends and family and I'm grateful for all I've received. And I'm grateful I've lost, as of today, 70#!!!!

Any of you have funny dating stories??

Blessings,

 No, I am one of those boring monogamous guys, but here is a link to a fun article about men that pay 20 grand to circumvent the dating scene, women get the same deal as the cover charge at many bars...in for free.

http://www.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,2059625,00. html?xid=newsletter-weekly

Great article! Not needing to spend  that  much $$! Luckily I'm content with wnere I am and who I am!

 I've heard of so many horror stories when it comes to dating after WLS that I was just mortified at the idea. I was quite content being alone...  sometimes we meet the strangest people haha. 

Ain't it the truth!!

Did anyone see Dr Phil yesterday/ He had a guest on that had WLS and lost like 103 pounds(she had weighed 300) and now she wanted her husband to be jealous of all the attention she was getting. HE had always complimented her before and loves her for who she is inside("after all I married her when she weighed 300). She just wanted him to compliment her like he always had. And he REALLY does think she is beautiful now. I just thought it was interesting. Dr Phil finally got it out of her that she did not know who she was anymore..she used to be the life of the party and boisterous and now she was quiet, standoffish and "mousey"...Just thought I would share that.
My husband compliments me and gives me looks now ..but we met when I was almost 250...9 years ago.(My second marriage ..his first..I had been a divorced single mom for 9 yrs before we met).and he has always been very supportive of me no matter what weight I was.

I am in a loving and supportive relationship, we have been together almost 9 years, he loved me as an overweight person, now he loves me as the "skinnier" version!

However - I will say - I LOVE when he pays me compliments!!!!  The other night we were heading to bowling, and I was walking out the door in front of him.  He bent down and said to me (I am 5 ft 1 and he is 6 ft 2 - so he has to bend down)   

Baby - those jeans make your ASS look DAMN good!!  Then gave me a kiss on the neck and off we went!  Needless to say, I wiggled that ass at him ALL night! 

I hope to NEVER have to go to the dating scene again, not sure how I would handle it.  BUT, we are having fun with our own dating scene, Dave and I!!! 

Just thought I would share.

 

Kelly

I have been divorced for 7 years now, and not dated at all during that time.  For most of it, I was obese and uncomfortable, and didn't feel attractive to men.  Now I feel much better--stronger, healthier, more attractive--but I can't seem to find anyone.  I think maybe I've lost the knack of letting someone know I'm interested?  I was married/monogamous for 25 years before my divorce, so I'm clearly out of practice!

Anyway, it's a good thing I am happy with my friends and family, happier with myself and comfortable doing things on my own.  But I agree with you--it would be nice to have a companion to do things with.

Nope, I'm happily single and don't have any time in my life or my home for anyone else. Happy happy happy with my life. 

Before losing weight I used to feel bad because men only complimented my personality - but I have to say - I'm not liking the look up and down thing as much as I thought I would.  It's actually kind of crass and insulting to be regarded like a pastry or something.

It's harder to decipher who is interested in you as a person vs. a piece of ass.

It's a never ending battle.  But I'm only alone/lonely because I choose to be.  My bedroom could have a revolving door on it now.. LOL