UGH - Struggling with things
Hey Kel:
First of all, I know you are struggling with figuring out who you are, but DON'T let what others say have an affect on you finding yourself. Those who can't handle who you have become are not your true friend, but interim friends who will pass through. Your true friends and family will stand by you through thick and thin! I too have experienced the loss of friends who cannot cope with the change and who have I have become, BUT look at the friendships that have formed because of WLS! You now have friends who you can talk to about things you couldn't speak to the other about; this is a wonderful thing.
Stay true to yourself and your 'friends' will stay true to you or move on. Their loss, not yours!
Love Ya!
First of all, I know you are struggling with figuring out who you are, but DON'T let what others say have an affect on you finding yourself. Those who can't handle who you have become are not your true friend, but interim friends who will pass through. Your true friends and family will stand by you through thick and thin! I too have experienced the loss of friends who cannot cope with the change and who have I have become, BUT look at the friendships that have formed because of WLS! You now have friends who you can talk to about things you couldn't speak to the other about; this is a wonderful thing.
Stay true to yourself and your 'friends' will stay true to you or move on. Their loss, not yours!
Love Ya!
Holy **** Woman!
Sounds to me like you are doing a very good job of getting things into perspective all on your own. You are recognizing the problem, the root cause and reaching out for help to find a solution. BRAVO to you!
In a way, I think all of us are struggling to figure out who we are as we shed the weight, the armor, the barriers etc. While I can't identify with the sexual abuse - I definitely had my share of psychological abuse in my childhood and in my marriage, both of which have left more scars than I apparently realized existed.
For what it's worth, I'm here if you ever need to vent/chat/commiserate. You are an amazingly strong woman.
I wish you peace, love and happiness.
Stephanie
p.s.
"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Jeremiah 29:11
Sounds to me like you are doing a very good job of getting things into perspective all on your own. You are recognizing the problem, the root cause and reaching out for help to find a solution. BRAVO to you!
In a way, I think all of us are struggling to figure out who we are as we shed the weight, the armor, the barriers etc. While I can't identify with the sexual abuse - I definitely had my share of psychological abuse in my childhood and in my marriage, both of which have left more scars than I apparently realized existed.
For what it's worth, I'm here if you ever need to vent/chat/commiserate. You are an amazingly strong woman.
I wish you peace, love and happiness.
Stephanie
p.s.
"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Jeremiah 29:11
Dr. Benn gave me an incredible tool.. and I intend to make the most out of it!!
Kelly,
First of all I adore you for posting this. I too was molested as a child, but by an uncle. When we being this journey of WLS, it bring forward many, many things....our past included. I would suggest that you go back to a therapist and resolve your feelings....NOT that you should ignore them, but come to peace with your past. It is something that I have learned the hard way. Sometimes....as overweight or obese people, we repress a lot of things....former abuses included. I did it too. I did not seek couseling and I am almost 4 years out. I have just on my owe, just recently come to terms with it.
Another thing with losing the weight comes losing the reasons you felt the need to hide...There are many, many people out there who have felt and experienced the same as you. I was lucky...but still have bouts of....repression. But I want you to know you are NOT alone. You should seek couseling. They can help you resolve these issues as you are ready.
I'm not perfect...heck...no one is. But as a formerly abused child, I urge you to go to counseling and more importantly get support...we all here are supporting you. Not a single one of us will ever judge you.
Peace and love to you.
Paula
First of all I adore you for posting this. I too was molested as a child, but by an uncle. When we being this journey of WLS, it bring forward many, many things....our past included. I would suggest that you go back to a therapist and resolve your feelings....NOT that you should ignore them, but come to peace with your past. It is something that I have learned the hard way. Sometimes....as overweight or obese people, we repress a lot of things....former abuses included. I did it too. I did not seek couseling and I am almost 4 years out. I have just on my owe, just recently come to terms with it.
Another thing with losing the weight comes losing the reasons you felt the need to hide...There are many, many people out there who have felt and experienced the same as you. I was lucky...but still have bouts of....repression. But I want you to know you are NOT alone. You should seek couseling. They can help you resolve these issues as you are ready.
I'm not perfect...heck...no one is. But as a formerly abused child, I urge you to go to counseling and more importantly get support...we all here are supporting you. Not a single one of us will ever judge you.
Peace and love to you.
Paula
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