Approved and Scared ****less...
I'm happy that I got over the insurance hurdle, but now it's all real. I'm going to have a major, life changing surgery.
I'm so scared..I want to cry.
The date is not set in stone yet, but it might be as soon as October 15th.
I'm scared and I feel rushed. I need to get my will in order and other things. What things should I all do to prepare for the big day? Do you have any advice or suggestions?
Thank Zeus I have an appointment on Friday with my counselor...I have generalized anxiety disorder and since hearing that I've been approved today, my anxiety is running wayyyyy high....
And I do not know how to tell my dad and stepmom about my surgery. I am afraid of their reaction and I don't know how to bring it up. I want them to be there for my surgery so I don't have to sit in the lobby and cry alone...
Sooooo many worries!
I'm so scared..I want to cry.
The date is not set in stone yet, but it might be as soon as October 15th.I'm scared and I feel rushed. I need to get my will in order and other things. What things should I all do to prepare for the big day? Do you have any advice or suggestions?
Thank Zeus I have an appointment on Friday with my counselor...I have generalized anxiety disorder and since hearing that I've been approved today, my anxiety is running wayyyyy high....
And I do not know how to tell my dad and stepmom about my surgery. I am afraid of their reaction and I don't know how to bring it up. I want them to be there for my surgery so I don't have to sit in the lobby and cry alone...
Sooooo many worries!
We're almost surgery twins!!! I'm a little scared too but it'll SOOOOO be worth it!!
Don't worry too much if you can help it!!! I'm 2 yrs out. I had the same worries going into the surgery. You need to trust that your dr. is ready for you. This event in no doubt is life changing. But life changing for the good. I know deep down in my heart if I wouldn't have gone through with this my last 2 yrs would have been aweful!! life decisions are what it all about!!! Make one for you!!!!! You deserve it!!
Normal, Yep you are pretty normal. We are all Focus on the positives and the anxiety will abate.
As far as telling the folks, present yourself as an adult making adult decisions. I would focus on your awareness of your current state, your desire to change your life in a positive direction and your determination to see it through to success. Don't dwell on the negative factors.
As far as telling the folks, present yourself as an adult making adult decisions. I would focus on your awareness of your current state, your desire to change your life in a positive direction and your determination to see it through to success. Don't dwell on the negative factors.
I didn't tell many people beforehand - as a matter of fact, I didn't even tell my mom until I was in the middle of my 10-day pre-op liquid diet. My weight was no secret, my diabetes and BP were known to my family and just a few friends.
I went to my mom's apartment on some other false pretense, and she said to me - "should we go out to get a bite to eat?"
My reply - well, mom, it's funny you should mention that. I can't eat dinner with you. I've been spending the last several months researching how weight loss surgery works. I applied to the Park Nicollet program, went through all the tests and assessments they require, and was approved for the surgery by my insurance company. I'm in the middle of a 10-day liquid pre-op diet, and am having my surgery on Friday.
That was a lot for that poor old woman to digest (she was 82 at the time). But I sat there, let it sink in, and answered all her questions. I was educated and prepared - and when she realized that, she was completely supportive. She has been my biggest cheerleader ever since, even putting herself on one of the local weightloss center programs when I was about 5 months out because I was 'so inspiring' to her! (Seriously? She's about 5'2" and weighed maybe 160, tops. When I'm in my 80's, I'm gonna eat whatever the hell I want! But she did lose about 30, so good for her!)
I'm now almost 3 and a half years post-op, down about 165 (depending on the day), and she STILL can't stop commenting about how great I look, how LITTLE my butt is! (It isn't, really, but compared to before? I guess I can't argue.)
What I'm saying is - if YOU feel a solid understanding of WHY you're doing this, HOW it will help you lose weight, HOW it will affect your relationship with food for the rest of your life - well, how can anyone argue your efforts to get healthy? (some will, but HOPEFULLY your dad and stepmom will be HAPPY for you!!!)
Good luck!!!
I went to my mom's apartment on some other false pretense, and she said to me - "should we go out to get a bite to eat?"
My reply - well, mom, it's funny you should mention that. I can't eat dinner with you. I've been spending the last several months researching how weight loss surgery works. I applied to the Park Nicollet program, went through all the tests and assessments they require, and was approved for the surgery by my insurance company. I'm in the middle of a 10-day liquid pre-op diet, and am having my surgery on Friday.
That was a lot for that poor old woman to digest (she was 82 at the time). But I sat there, let it sink in, and answered all her questions. I was educated and prepared - and when she realized that, she was completely supportive. She has been my biggest cheerleader ever since, even putting herself on one of the local weightloss center programs when I was about 5 months out because I was 'so inspiring' to her! (Seriously? She's about 5'2" and weighed maybe 160, tops. When I'm in my 80's, I'm gonna eat whatever the hell I want! But she did lose about 30, so good for her!)
I'm now almost 3 and a half years post-op, down about 165 (depending on the day), and she STILL can't stop commenting about how great I look, how LITTLE my butt is! (It isn't, really, but compared to before? I guess I can't argue.)
What I'm saying is - if YOU feel a solid understanding of WHY you're doing this, HOW it will help you lose weight, HOW it will affect your relationship with food for the rest of your life - well, how can anyone argue your efforts to get healthy? (some will, but HOPEFULLY your dad and stepmom will be HAPPY for you!!!)
Good luck!!!
Imperfect does not = unsuccessful
Congrats on getting approved! I know you were worried you wouldn't be.
Being nervous about surgery is completely normal-it is a life changing event and it's scary not knowing what your life is going to be like after surgery.
As far as telling your dad and step mom I would just sit them down and tell them, then be prepared for 10 million and 1 questions about surgery and the risks and what not. You have done the research and you have the information you need to make this decision-don't short yourself on your ability to make the correct decisions for yourself. You can do this!
Being nervous about surgery is completely normal-it is a life changing event and it's scary not knowing what your life is going to be like after surgery.
As far as telling your dad and step mom I would just sit them down and tell them, then be prepared for 10 million and 1 questions about surgery and the risks and what not. You have done the research and you have the information you need to make this decision-don't short yourself on your ability to make the correct decisions for yourself. You can do this!
Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind-Dr. Seuss 
I'm having mine on Oct. 19th so I'm right there with you. I started the process in the begining of June and I can't believe that next month it's all going to be for real. We have to be strong, because our current path isn't working for us.
I have been lucky in that my family has been 100% behind me since the begining. Like everyone else has expressed, sit your Dad and StepMom down and just tell them that you are ready to do this and want this for yourself while you are young and that you need to get healthy to feel better about yourself. I bet things will go better than you thought.
It's scary, but it's going to be ok. Scratch that...its going to be FANTASTIC!
LB - CONGRATULATIONS!!! WOOT WOOT
That is AWESOME news! (and here you were all nervous about the insurance crap...hehee, BTDT)
How's your pre-surgery WL going?
There are a few of us DS'ers that are usually willing to come to the hospital the day of surgery. Just ask! We can answer your parents questions and help to ease your fears. It really is a good thing.
PM me with any questions.
As for the Will and stuff? It's just a Healthcare Directive now, so it's pretty easy and painless to draft up. A good idea for sure and you should leave a copy with your Dad the day of surgery so he knows what to expect in the case of an emergency. However, you are in great hands!
Stay positive girl. You are on your way. Remember this one thing, though. After surgery, take everything in 12 hour increments, or less if needed. Every 12 hours, life improves. Just take it slow. Chewable Pepto helped me on the nausea. Have a water bottle ready to keep sipping from. Have some creamed soups, broths, SF jello cups, etc. at home for when you feel like trying a little food. One new food at a time and easy does it.
That is AWESOME news! (and here you were all nervous about the insurance crap...hehee, BTDT)
How's your pre-surgery WL going?
There are a few of us DS'ers that are usually willing to come to the hospital the day of surgery. Just ask! We can answer your parents questions and help to ease your fears. It really is a good thing.
PM me with any questions.
As for the Will and stuff? It's just a Healthcare Directive now, so it's pretty easy and painless to draft up. A good idea for sure and you should leave a copy with your Dad the day of surgery so he knows what to expect in the case of an emergency. However, you are in great hands!
Stay positive girl. You are on your way. Remember this one thing, though. After surgery, take everything in 12 hour increments, or less if needed. Every 12 hours, life improves. Just take it slow. Chewable Pepto helped me on the nausea. Have a water bottle ready to keep sipping from. Have some creamed soups, broths, SF jello cups, etc. at home for when you feel like trying a little food. One new food at a time and easy does it.
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on 9/9/10 8:24 am - Clear Lake, MN
on 9/9/10 8:24 am - Clear Lake, MN
Leigh,
It's normal to be scared......
Prepare by having soup, jello, SF popscicles, that kind of stuff ready and waiting.....
Remember you have Sarah and myself as your angels, your not alone.....Speak to your Dad & step Mom from the heart, tell them why this is so important to you, ask for there support.....I hope it goes well....
Hugs, and I can always meet you for coffee or lunch anytime.....Kelly
It's normal to be scared......
Prepare by having soup, jello, SF popscicles, that kind of stuff ready and waiting.....
Remember you have Sarah and myself as your angels, your not alone.....Speak to your Dad & step Mom from the heart, tell them why this is so important to you, ask for there support.....I hope it goes well....
Hugs, and I can always meet you for coffee or lunch anytime.....Kelly
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