OT - Just need a safe place to vent...

I hate stupid people. 

I'm not talking about people who didn't get good grades in school or can't build robots or invent marvelous things.  I'm talking about people who take credit they don't deserve.  People who assume they know things they are actually clueless about, and are FAR too eager to share their self-righteous brilliance with the world in general.

I hate it when perfectly innocent, sweet, beautiful people accept horse**** treatment because they believe they don't deserve, therefore can't expect or demand, better.

i hate ignorant fools who try to portray themselves as knowlegable, when in fact they come off as embarrassing know-it-alls.

I hate that, as a mother, I can't point much of this out to my daughter, because she defends the pansy ass piece of shyt she currently calls her boyfriend. 

I hate that I can't bytch slap that young man from here to Kingdom come and back. 

I don't hate many people in life, but I hate him.  I feel like a hypocrite mentioning God in the same rant as the things I've just said, but I PRAY that His will leads my daughter down a road of self-awareness and empowerment - that she finds the strength and self-worth to break free of his emotional abuse and kick his sorry butt to the curb.

Sorry to waste time here, but I have to be much more cryptic on FB for fear of setting her off.  I just had to vent.

 I'm sorry to hear that Darla. She is a sweet girl and deserves better and the hard part is that it seems like a lot of us young big girls (and maybe any girls) go through those learning periods with guys... you sure know I had MINE... LESSON LEARNED... yet it took me going through that whole experience in order to benefit from it. 

I am so sorry that you feel helpless as a mother.... sometimes no matter what we do... the boys always shine a little brighter for girls... that is... until they see the true nature.

Love you and love her very much.

She'll figure it out in her own time and realize that she was stupid and will thank you for hating him some day. We were all ignorant and young at one time (I still am...heehee).

I hope you feel better :)

My sweet sweet Darla Lou,  I wish I was there to give you a big hug.  I wish I could take the pain away from both you and her..........I have 2 kids that went to state for Karate and we could put those 3 in a room together I am pretty sure you would like the outcome on that I have seen them in action and also their mom is super AWESOME at that as well and she is going through something like that with her best friend, and let me tell ya she would be the one...........  LOL.......

I hope you all the best sweetie and I hope B comes to her senses.................If you need to talk you know where to find me.....................

I wuv ya

 Oh man, that's a tough one.  But haven't most of us made poor dating choices and learned from them? Let's hope she will have a "light bulb" moment and "get it".  I don't envy you having to sit back and watch.  It's got to be horrifying!  I'm sooo sorry.

Rant away girlfriend, that's what we are here for.  Big hugs.  Maybe you'll get lucky and he'll move to the North Pole...... alone.

 (((Darla)))
I see the same things happening to a cousin of mine - and her BF went to PRISON for shenanigans he pulled! And she still defends the piece of crap. It is so hard because you can reason with her all you want, but she desires love so much and really doesn't understand this isn't love.

I will keep her in my prayers!

Hi Darla,

Sorry you are having to go through this with your daughter.  I can't remember how old she is but it sure sounds like a phase I started when I was 17 and in a relationship with a guy who treated me badly.   I'm not sure anything anybody told me would have made a difference.  Honestly wish I could tell you what changed me but I have no idea except life experiences and therapy.  I can only imagine its a tough place for a mother to be in.  Hang in there!

Darla...so sorry to hear about this. I am sending prayers up for Bailey that God will lead her in the right direction.

This is really a hard place to be in as a mom...damned if you do... damned if you don't. Give it time...I know that is hard to do because we love our children so much.

I just went through this with my 18 years old granddaughter...FINALLY  she saw the light...took long enough....now she is dating a wonderful young man who we all just love. He respects her and really treats her like a princess.

Prayers and hugs for you too....connie d

Ugh, I hate him too already!!HUGS!!....but can relate to your daughter. I have been in the same type of situation. Most of the time WE know it BAD for us but to spite you (our family and friends) we keep on going. Please continue to support her no matter what because when the time comes and she breaks free, she will know that you were right but better, she will have a better sense of what true love is.

Oh Darla-do I hear you!!  I rarely know a parent that doesn't relate anymore. 
When our girls were young, I had a dream that one of them would surely enter the convent and I'd be kind of a Mother Superior......fast forward a few years.  It was then I hoped for a drug free, disease free, unpregnant graduate!!
Breathe deep and take long hot baths my friend....they get through these years and eventually thank us!!