Needing a severe kick in the head - seriously
Hi Everyone - Sorry I have been MIA for a while.
I lost my job a few months ago and have been struggling with the fact that I am SO far away from my goal weight at 13 months out. I haven't been doing what I need to do to take care of myself. I started smoking again... stopped working out regularly at the gym, not putting good food into my body on a daily basis. CRAP CRAP CRAP..
So the long and short of it is that I have felt too guilty to come back here since I am not walking the walk - or even talking the talk.
Still getting compliments from people I haven't seen for a while, and people I do see regularly make comments like "You've lost more weight haven't you?" and I just cringe.
I really TRULY do not want my weight loss journey to end here... I know I need to star****ching my protein more closely (or at all for that matter), get to the gym, drink more water and put the smokes in the trash. I bought patches, so that is a start.. on Sunday I slap one on. I KNOW these things..
I just hope it's not too late for me to get back on track..
Hugs to you all.. I've missed you
Stephanie
I lost my job a few months ago and have been struggling with the fact that I am SO far away from my goal weight at 13 months out. I haven't been doing what I need to do to take care of myself. I started smoking again... stopped working out regularly at the gym, not putting good food into my body on a daily basis. CRAP CRAP CRAP..
So the long and short of it is that I have felt too guilty to come back here since I am not walking the walk - or even talking the talk.
Still getting compliments from people I haven't seen for a while, and people I do see regularly make comments like "You've lost more weight haven't you?" and I just cringe.
I really TRULY do not want my weight loss journey to end here... I know I need to star****ching my protein more closely (or at all for that matter), get to the gym, drink more water and put the smokes in the trash. I bought patches, so that is a start.. on Sunday I slap one on. I KNOW these things..
I just hope it's not too late for me to get back on track..
Hugs to you all.. I've missed you
Stephanie
Dr. Benn gave me an incredible tool.. and I intend to make the most out of it!!
Hang in there, Stephanie. You can and will get back on track! That's an order!
Seriously, you said you are SO far away from goal, but looking at your numbers I can see just how far you have come. The last stretch is the hardest but slow and steady will win the race. Lest you think I am just a snot who thinks she knows it all, let me assure you that I also commited the cardinal sin of starting to smoke again. What is WRONG with me??? Chantix is going to be my new friend this week.
Best of luck, girlfriend, you can do this!
Tuna
Seriously, you said you are SO far away from goal, but looking at your numbers I can see just how far you have come. The last stretch is the hardest but slow and steady will win the race. Lest you think I am just a snot who thinks she knows it all, let me assure you that I also commited the cardinal sin of starting to smoke again. What is WRONG with me??? Chantix is going to be my new friend this week.
Best of luck, girlfriend, you can do this!
Tuna
TuneyJune 
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on 7/28/10 9:58 pm - Clear Lake, MN
on 7/28/10 9:58 pm - Clear Lake, MN
Steph,
No head kicks from me......But I have all the confidence that you can do it......Why? Because you've already done it.
We all tend to have bumps in the road, were not perfect, and that's what got us here in the first place....But now we have this wonderful tool, and it's there just waiting for us to use..... Get back to basics, protein, water, exercise....YOU CAN DO IT.....And look at those before pictures......
Hugs, Kelly
No head kicks from me......But I have all the confidence that you can do it......Why? Because you've already done it.
We all tend to have bumps in the road, were not perfect, and that's what got us here in the first place....But now we have this wonderful tool, and it's there just waiting for us to use..... Get back to basics, protein, water, exercise....YOU CAN DO IT.....And look at those before pictures......Hugs, Kelly
Hi - I can so relate as I am in the same boat. My vice was/is vodka. I have since dumped all the vodka and if I want to drink it has to be beer or wine which I can drink in moderation. The vodka was out of control and was really starting to scare me and affect me physically and mentally. My husband now switched to rum or whiskey which I don't like. The vodka was just so easy to drink with crystal lite. The cross addiction potential with the surgery is no joke. I am still surprised at what a psychological and lifestyle shift this surgery has caused and have mixed feelings about it. I wish I had known then what I know now so I could have made a more informed decision - don't know what that decision would have been, but I seriously would have considered the DS even if I had to fight for it. The DS lifestyle just would have matched me better (not the drinking but all the other aspects).
Once I started drinking alcohol my weight loss stopped completely, even when I exercised, ate the right amount and did everything else right. What a lesson this has been! Strange that cigarettes wasn't the vice I returned to - I guess probably because my kids would kill me.
I have also heard that Chantix works well. I smoked for 10 years and used the patch, gum and Zyban. It finally just took me saying enough is enough and throwing them out. I got down to 2 or 3 a day from a pack but that last bit was hard to quit. I guess Chantix really makes them taste horrid and you don't want to smoke them. Zyban just kind of made me "forget" to smoke but didn't make them taste bad.
Well, anyway, I just wanted to you know that I can totally relate to the self sabatage, cross addiction, not getting to goal, etc that you are feeling. It is kind of nice to see that I am not the only one that didn't have a "sparkles and rainbows" experience.
Amelia
Once I started drinking alcohol my weight loss stopped completely, even when I exercised, ate the right amount and did everything else right. What a lesson this has been! Strange that cigarettes wasn't the vice I returned to - I guess probably because my kids would kill me.
I have also heard that Chantix works well. I smoked for 10 years and used the patch, gum and Zyban. It finally just took me saying enough is enough and throwing them out. I got down to 2 or 3 a day from a pack but that last bit was hard to quit. I guess Chantix really makes them taste horrid and you don't want to smoke them. Zyban just kind of made me "forget" to smoke but didn't make them taste bad.
Well, anyway, I just wanted to you know that I can totally relate to the self sabatage, cross addiction, not getting to goal, etc that you are feeling. It is kind of nice to see that I am not the only one that didn't have a "sparkles and rainbows" experience.
Amelia
Anyone who insinuates they've had no issues along the way is more than likely lying. To themselves, more than anyone. YES, the initial weight loss can be pretty darn easy - our tools are doing 80% of the work, our heads only 20%. We're fired up because we see the weight melting off, so our motivation level stays pretty high.
Then we get further out, the weight loss slows down (AS IT MUST!), and we try some things we would have been better off without. Life happens, which means stress happens, and we've got a lot of old tapes playing in our heads - "F*** it, I'm having a Twinkie." As has been said plenty around here, they operate on our stomachs, not our heads.
So, we're faced with the reality that if we TRULY want to be successful with our WLS - FOR THE REST OF OUR LIVES - the work does a flip-flop. It's now 80% effort, and only 20% tool. (THESE PERCENTAGES ARE RANDOM, NOT MEDICALLY PROVEN, JUST GO WITH IT.)
The BEAUTY of this whole WLS lifestyle is that - WE STILL HAVE OUR TOOL! We just have to put forth a dedicated effort to HONOR it, to treat it with RESPECT, and to maintain our determination to do what's RIGHT - for ourselves, our bodies, our health. We KNOW what we need to do, because we recognize when we're doing the WRONG things.
Make a vow to yourself to do whatever it takes to eliminate the negative things from your life that pull you down, so that you have room for the POSITIVE things that will lift you back up again!
Amen.
P.S. - I'm no saint, I have to read this a few times myself.
P.P.S. - Read your signature line.
Then we get further out, the weight loss slows down (AS IT MUST!), and we try some things we would have been better off without. Life happens, which means stress happens, and we've got a lot of old tapes playing in our heads - "F*** it, I'm having a Twinkie." As has been said plenty around here, they operate on our stomachs, not our heads.
So, we're faced with the reality that if we TRULY want to be successful with our WLS - FOR THE REST OF OUR LIVES - the work does a flip-flop. It's now 80% effort, and only 20% tool. (THESE PERCENTAGES ARE RANDOM, NOT MEDICALLY PROVEN, JUST GO WITH IT.)
The BEAUTY of this whole WLS lifestyle is that - WE STILL HAVE OUR TOOL! We just have to put forth a dedicated effort to HONOR it, to treat it with RESPECT, and to maintain our determination to do what's RIGHT - for ourselves, our bodies, our health. We KNOW what we need to do, because we recognize when we're doing the WRONG things.
Make a vow to yourself to do whatever it takes to eliminate the negative things from your life that pull you down, so that you have room for the POSITIVE things that will lift you back up again!
Amen.
P.S. - I'm no saint, I have to read this a few times myself.
P.P.S. - Read your signature line.
Imperfect does not = unsuccessful
P.S. - I'm no saint, I have to read this a few times myself.
Really Darla? I had you right up there with Mother Theresa! Just kidding - you are right, we all have to keep learning and being honest with ourselves and each other. It does no good to only talk sparkles and rainbows because that isn't reality for many (or most) of us. On the other boards no one wants to hear it, so I am glad us MN people can be honest with each other. I honestly believe that I am better able to work through my issues because people are willing to share their issues as well. we are definitely a unique population and it is hard to find non-WLS who have any understanding of our challenges.
Really Darla? I had you right up there with Mother Theresa! Just kidding - you are right, we all have to keep learning and being honest with ourselves and each other. It does no good to only talk sparkles and rainbows because that isn't reality for many (or most) of us. On the other boards no one wants to hear it, so I am glad us MN people can be honest with each other. I honestly believe that I am better able to work through my issues because people are willing to share their issues as well. we are definitely a unique population and it is hard to find non-WLS who have any understanding of our challenges.
Hi Stephanie and welcome back.....good to see you again!
Yes....you are not alone in this....it is an ongoing battle for all of us....like everyone said....they didn't fix our head!!
I commend you for getting your life back in order....you have the desire and the determination to do this. You will succeed!!
Hugs...connie d
Yes....you are not alone in this....it is an ongoing battle for all of us....like everyone said....they didn't fix our head!!
I commend you for getting your life back in order....you have the desire and the determination to do this. You will succeed!!
Hugs...connie d
You've all said it so well. We are not different people inside, only outside! We still have the weight issues, but the powerful tool we have can help. Thanks for the reminder of that.
BTW, I'm no saint either...
Mary
"Do not let what you cannot do interfere with what you CAN do." John Wooden
I'm down 120 pounds - thanks to RNY! Working on the next 25. Then I'll tackle more...
"Do not let what you cannot do interfere with what you CAN do." John Wooden
I'm down 120 pounds - thanks to RNY! Working on the next 25. Then I'll tackle more...
Thank you so much everyone! I am going to make a point to get on line and check in more often.
I was thinking the other day how when I was a newbie I would have been amazed if you could promise me I would be where I am now after a year. I would have looked at my then pictures and my now pictures and would have been motivated.
So back on the horse with me - I've got a job to finish.
Love to you all!!
Steph
I was thinking the other day how when I was a newbie I would have been amazed if you could promise me I would be where I am now after a year. I would have looked at my then pictures and my now pictures and would have been motivated.
So back on the horse with me - I've got a job to finish.
Love to you all!!
Steph
Dr. Benn gave me an incredible tool.. and I intend to make the most out of it!!
Hi Stephanie,
OK, so you did well, got severely stress and exhibited some of the old habits. Hmmm seems pretty normal to me. I didn't even wait for 13 months, I was able to do it under five! I was doing well, yet put under stress, found the old habits came back BIG time!
The question is (and you already answered it) What about tomorrow. You will still be stressed, but in a different way. You have the new job to look forward to, you got kudos from high school freinds at the reunion and also at your celebration, So pick it up and go forward. You know you have a lot of great qualities about you, so don't undermine your own worth.
Make sure you include meeting with your WLS freinds at coffee! We are all struggleing in one way or another, challenged , yet changing and not willing to let go of the prize.
Paul
OK, so you did well, got severely stress and exhibited some of the old habits. Hmmm seems pretty normal to me. I didn't even wait for 13 months, I was able to do it under five! I was doing well, yet put under stress, found the old habits came back BIG time!
The question is (and you already answered it) What about tomorrow. You will still be stressed, but in a different way. You have the new job to look forward to, you got kudos from high school freinds at the reunion and also at your celebration, So pick it up and go forward. You know you have a lot of great qualities about you, so don't undermine your own worth.
Make sure you include meeting with your WLS freinds at coffee! We are all struggleing in one way or another, challenged , yet changing and not willing to let go of the prize.
Paul
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