Goals and desire

Just wondering now that your loosing weight or have lost your weight, What are your goals or desires?

For me I finally feel I deserve to do something for me.....I've hired a personal trainer, he comes to my house the 31st.....My plan is to really work on my arms, I want them defined and muscular.....My motivation has been kicked into high gear lately, and I'm ready to take a new step in my WL journey.....

Kelly

Good for you, Kelly!  How are you feeling?  Good luck with the personal trainer!

My goals and desires are still centering around the weight loss, since I am so new on my journey.  I am very happy with how it's going so far--I feel great, except I still don't have my energy and stamina back. 

I want to get strong and fit enough to do the things I have been unable to do--go hiking, ride a horse again, get a bike, go camping more.  I want to be able to go in and out of my camper door without turning sideways.  :-)  I want to NOT be an old lady before I am fifty.  There are too many wonderful things in life to do, and I have been letting fat keep me from doing them.  Well, NO MORE!

I'm feeling good....I had one test today and will have one more Friday, then see my Doctor next Wednesday to go over the results....So far no more heaviness in the chest feeling.....

The energy will come....If for some reason it doesn't, have them check your B1, mine was low and I was always tired, had to go in for B1 injections......(Not B12)

All your goals sound AWEOME....I love hiking now.....I know what you mean on the OLD LADY part.....

I love these kind of responces.....I can just feel your excitement....YAY you.....Kelly

I'm coming to the end of my weight loss journey and I'm a little lost to be honest.  I'm happy with the way I feel and I'm happy with how I look (well except for the extra skin but the only other person who sees that is my hubby and he doesn't mind!).  To be honest if I didn't lose any more weight I would be content with who I've become, but I almost don't know what step to take next and what to do next to start the maintaining part. 

I feel like if I'm going to self sabotage myself this is when I'm going to do it and I'm almost waiting for the other foot to fall at this point.  What did you do when you got towards the end of the weight loss to prevent the self sabotage?

Samantha,

I deal with that on a daily basis......I just started to read a book on self sabotage, it's called Fattitudes by Jeffery Wilbert and Norean Wilbert...

For me surgery fixed my WL, but not all the mental stuff.....I go to a counselor and have been working on ME and what I really want out of life.....For me I always did for others, never anything for myself....So for me this journey has been difficult in the maintenance stage.....Last year was my hardest year ever, and after some things happened, I never thought I deserved this tool, etc.....So I started to self sabotage....I now realize that I do deserve happiness and this tool, and I'm doing as much as I can to better myself and stay on track.....I will never be perfect, I will have things I shouldn't, but in very small quantities.....

I now am looking forward to seeing just what I can all do, Can I work hard and gain definition in my arms? Can I stay motivated? Will I achieve the look I want? I don't know those answers yet, But I'm going to try my hardest.....Because for once, It's for ME.......

The 1st year is such a "Honeymoon" stage......Then reality sets in....Exercise is key, calories in and calories out is key.....The weight just doesn't continue to fall off, you have to work hard just to maintain, let alone lose a few......

I have learned that you constantly need goals.....Or you lose the motivation, and then 5,10,15 pounds pack on.....

As far as self sabotage, your asking the wrong person, But I have learned a lot in the past year.....Just remind yourself why you did this, and that you don't want to go back that person that was so unhappy/unhealthy......Keep having goals......And look at the before pictures......And remember we all go through this, you have support here.....Go to coffee get togethers, support groups.....They have helped me tremendously.....

Good luck, I hope I helped a little.....Kelly

That does help...more than a little too!

I guess the part that is most frustrating to me is that I'm almost expecting myself to fail.  i do have an appointment for tomorrow to meet with my therapist so I'm hoping it will help. 

Also, I know the way i am currently thinking is not how I should be thinking or expecting and that if I continue with this way of thinking then I WILL fail.  I know that I need to change the thought pattern, but I guess what I'm lacking right now is HOW do I change the way I'm thinking and HOW do I make myself realize that I am worth what I have worked so hard to accomplish.  I know that's not an answer anyone can answer for me, nor do I expect one.

I've said it once and I'll say it again...man this head stuff SUCKS BIG TIME!!

Hugs......Glad I could help some.....

I think we expect ourselves to fail because we always did in the past, if that makes sense? I did so many diets and failed....Lost 40 gained 60.....It's drilled in our heads that were gonna fail.....

Glad to hear you have a therapist.....They really do help...

That's always the magic question.....How to change our thought patterns....

Yep it does suck.....And I'm glad I finally realize I deserve this.....You will too.....

Kelly said    "The 1st year is such a "Honeymoon" stage......Then reality sets in...." 

           My honeymoon was only about four months. I have lost a lot of weight, but I am only losing about 1-2 lbs per week now when I am on my best (no grazing) behavior. If I deviate or go to carbs it stops entirely.
           I think this really points to the real and WHOLE lifestyle change. Wish I liked exercise and that "work" counted as much as cardio exercise.

I had my 1 year check-up yesterday, and the Dr was happy with my progerss.  Made my weight goal & then some.  I'm thinking I'd like to try a triathlon next summer.  I don't think I could get enough training in this year yet....but haven't checked into dates yet.  I don't have a bike that I could use now, either.  I will also have to learn to swim.  I took lessons as a kid, but never did much with swimming because I was always overweight.  I may even buy a swimsuit before the summer is done...guess I better hurry because they're gonna be off the rack pretty soon.

Samantha F.  and anyone else this may apply to:  As far as trying to stay motivated and try to make the best choices, I can say that for me it's better to have goals to work toward.  I've been planning on doing a 5k with a friend, but we haven't picked a date.  That makes it harder for me to stay motivated and on track.  I've figured out that I need to have something with a date on it and then stay focused.  (I've done one, and there was a set date, so it was easier to focus.)  

I don't always make the best food choices, but when I don't, I know that I can correct it.   I also know that the choices I make now are WAY better than they used to be.  My suggestion for anyone would be to find other goals that are S.M.A.R.T.  (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, Timely)  They can be small things, like bike rides, runs, walks, hikes, kayaking, boating, canoeing, swimming, whatever...  .I would choose activites that will help you stay healthy.  Maybe you have "rewards" that you give yourself when you reach a goal.  I would suggest something that isn't related to food.  Maybe it's a new shirt, a manicure, pedicure, something that you've have your eye on at a store, whatever.

rjsams:  It hasn't been very long since surgery for you, so just know that more energy will come.

I'd love to hear more goals people have, too.