I think it finally sank in to get back on track......I do good then reward myself with a treat HELLO DUMBASS.........  I tried on at least 4 different shirts and pants yesterday that I wore last year and they were to small.......I cried....... I wasn't gonna post this because I don't want to look like a failure, but I think I need to.......  It is so hard  UGGGG   My hubby is still doing good and has lost weight, I am so proud of him......I am gonna do this my goal is to get in my clothes that I wore last year........

By golly this sucks, no more excuses and no more treats for doing good.  I went to the thrift store yesterday and bought a few pairs of shorts and shirts to get me through........I was not to happy with myself............

Thanks for listening to me .............

Hang tough you guys , if you know you are not to have it DON"T try it.......

I found out if it works you can have it and that's a BAD BAD BAD idea........

Just like the other day for me. Are we unable to have sucess for ourselves. I do better when things are a challenge. I certainly have had my share af negative comments, but  I am not that good at handling personal compliments (even though they actually feel good.)
   Give me some real positive kudo's like my doctoer did and I figure it must be time for a reward. Next time I will try and make it a non-food reward. My pouch never felt so painful.

Marsha,

HUGS......

Have you called your Bariatric nurse yet? It REALLY did help me to go in and talk, listen, and get that motivation from her again, I wish I would have done it a long time ago.....

You have my contact info, I'm always here for you if you need or want to talk....We can do this.....Just keep reminding yourself why you did this, it wasn't to be a size 4, it was to be healthy....

Good luck, and don't beat yourself up, take it one day at a time, 1 pound at a time.....

Kelly

It's those damned old tapes in our heads!  I did good - I deserve a treat!  Only the treats we usually come up with are EVIL FOOD CHOICES! 

Lose a few pounds?  Feel proud and bullet proof?  A DQ BLIZZARD IS NOT THE REWARD YOU SEEK!!!

Make a list of little things you like or want but don't usually allow yourself to have - like a new pair of shoes or earrings or maybe a movie you want to see!  Set a goal for yourself before you "deserve" that reward - say, 'once I lose 10 pounds, I will ....'  or 'if I maintain today's weight for 2 weeks, I can...'  Give you something to shoot for! 

WE CAN ALL DO THIS!!!

Marsha.
You have to change the way you look at the weight gain. IT IS ONLY A TEMPORARY SETBACK OK.
We all snack ,so fill your house with healthy snacks and get rid of the bad stuff.
Do a daily walk, do stairs , park as far away from the store you can when you go shopping. All those little thing adds up. Get back to basic, you know what you got to do , but first STOP BEATING YOUR SELF UP. You are doing great, look how far you have come OK.
Best of luck to you, and keep us updated.

Oh Marsha!  Big hugs!  It's hard to get over "food rewards"  I find myself doing it with my kids.  Got a shot at the Dr?  Well, you can have a Happy Meal at Mickey D's.  At least I don't make them clean their plates!

My new reward sometimes is a pedicure or facial for big milestones.  I decided to do something 'nice" instead of delicious!  Ya know?

Don't not post because that is what this is supposed to be about.  I need to see that my struggles are "normal" and I'm not doing it alone.  So you did the right thing.  Let's face it, if this were easy, would any of us be here?  I don't think so!

Keep on keeping on ok?

Love Tess 

instead of treats, you could give yourself a pedicure from the model college or eyewax like I do. you feel good about it and it makes you look good too!! :)

Marsha...you aren't alone with this....many of us are struggling. All we can do it keep trying and do the best we can. Set small goals....baby steps...don't get too overwhelmed....it doesn't help!

Love you....hugs...connie d

Marsh, YOU can do THIS!!

I just zipped through my files and found this reminder list- maybe post it someplace in clear view.

I have went up 5 pounds and freak out, some people think I am crazy to worry about "just five pounds" WTH! That five pounds is huge for me
Best of luck on the junk food deamon rewards! I will be pullin for you
Kelly/tink

Opps here is the partical list LOL

Mini–Goals Rewards

Set small goals that can be achieved in 1 or 2 weeks.

Reward Range: Free up to $10

 

Deposit $10 into the “Big Goal Reward" Fund to use later

Movie Tickets

Spend time with friends

Adopt a pet

New cookbook

New candles

Candlelit bubble bath

Lazy guilt-free day

Be a kid for an afternoon. Go fly a kite, buy a bunch of balloons and give them away as you go, get a yo-yo and practice all those silly stunts again. Go swing on the playground or slide down the slide.

New lipstick or makeup

Day at the Beach

Road trip, sight-seeing

Spa treatments at home

Goodwill shopping spree / new clothes

Daylong photography excursion

Spend the day playing at your hobby

Buy a copy of your favorite magazine

Order a “Skinny Latte" from Starbucks and spend the day relaxing with a book or laptop at the café`

Buy movie or music from iTunes

 

Mid-Level Goals Rewards

Set mid-level goals that can be achieved in a month or two.

Reward Range: $10 - $40

 

Deposit $40 into the “Big Goal Reward" Fund to use later

Workout clothes Running shoes

A massage

A manicure/pedicure

A book, CD or DVD

Dumbbells, medicine ball or resistance bands

Heart-rate monitor watch

Teeth whitening

New item of clothing

Subscribe to a fitness magazine

Spruce up a room in the house w/ paint

Craft supplies

Jewelry

Take a class

Get your car professionally cleaned

Take a "personal" day from work

Adopt a pet

Sexy lingerie

Glamour Shots

Flower arrangement

Perfume / Cologne

Buy a hammock, set it up and spend the day lazing in the sun (this price is old Hammocks are now at least 65.00

Go camping!

New purse

Candles or home décor`

Day at the beach

Marsha,

Don't feel alone I did the same thing yesterday...it's hard when it is 80 degrees and you have no shorts to wear.  

I am at the point where I am going all the way back to the beginning and starting over...I am going back to the liquid diet in the hopes that I will be able to re-shrink my stomach and get it used to not eating anything I want any time I want.  I also have learned that I need to re-train the fullness cue between my mind and stomach and the no liquids.

I know that we can do this it just takes admitting that we fell and not being ashamed so that we can get up and keep on the journey.

With hope and encouragement,

NicoleLynn