I woke up this morning and jumped out of bed...
...And there stood my nervousness or is it all in my head? I took my pills and tried to call my mom, but alas no answer and so I sat mum. I'm reaching out today, in that same old fashioned way, to plead for some soothing, some friendship and just plain smoozing. So if'n you're ready and can offer some relaxin' gems, spill them all my way to solve my problems!
Ok, in plain English
I need a group hug.
I'm out of work (layed off), I'm tired from the physical therapy yesterday for preop, I want to be with people but I'm stuck at home with no where to go.
All of my friends out there....let's get together! I need a break from these four walls and now with the preop instructions I'm getting I feel a *****astised. Isn't that weird? I need to hike up some discipline...like pulling up my boots...but the problem is ... I just feel a bit "picked on".
Wow, it sounds like I am feeling sorry for myself!!! Somebody get me out of here! LOL
I'm sure you all have felt something like this. If you have...will you tell me?
Ok, in plain English
I need a group hug.I'm out of work (layed off), I'm tired from the physical therapy yesterday for preop, I want to be with people but I'm stuck at home with no where to go.
All of my friends out there....let's get together! I need a break from these four walls and now with the preop instructions I'm getting I feel a *****astised. Isn't that weird? I need to hike up some discipline...like pulling up my boots...but the problem is ... I just feel a bit "picked on".
Wow, it sounds like I am feeling sorry for myself!!! Somebody get me out of here! LOL
I'm sure you all have felt something like this. If you have...will you tell me?
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Teresa - who could say they've NEVER felt sorry for themselves? We have all been there/done that! I think the fact that you see it and know it for what it is puts you ahead of the game.
Being unemployed is a stress by itself. I also find I do much better with some structure. When I was unemployed years ago, I had to establish my own structure to function better. I would get up and make sure I had my breakfast and shower by a certain time. Then I'd do my paperwork and kept a journal of what I had done. It kept me more on target. As far as getting out of the four walls - you know what to do! You came here to find even more ways. You go, Girl!!
All the best as you sort this out, Teresa. You're doing just what you need to do!
Mary
"Do not let what you cannot do interfere with what you CAN do." John Wooden
I'm down 120 pounds - thanks to RNY! Working on the next 25. Then I'll tackle more...
"Do not let what you cannot do interfere with what you CAN do." John Wooden
I'm down 120 pounds - thanks to RNY! Working on the next 25. Then I'll tackle more...
(((((((Teresa)))))))))) Hugs from me. I replied to a thread on the bariatric buddy page, the response fits here to. So here comes my soap box answer. You are among friends here at OH. So glad you posted your delima.
Whew girl. I applaud you.
You just laid out the beginnings of a great sermon. The mental image I had........ There are three parts to a wine glass, the foot, the stem and the bowl. We need to start with a firm support for the base. This support is your support system. Make a mental image of the commercial for that special ma tress where the girl bounces around and the wine glass remains upright. Your support circle is that special mattress. Keeping your glass balanced. Your friends here at OH are part of that mattress.
Next we need to strengthen the foot (base). The base will need help by removing some of the topside load of crap that we have put into our bodies. So think about what is needed for our health. One stable base structure is the triangle. Let's look at out triangle of food, exercise and rest. We need good nutritious food to fuel our bodies. Protein, fluids, vitamins, veggies, fruits. We also need strong healthy bones and muscles. Exercise, cardiovascular and strengthening. We need balance between activity and rest. Get your 8 hours of sleep each night. This balances out a good solid base.
The stem of the glass is centered. That is our mental well being. If your 'stem' is not centered, seek out counsel for mental stability. Be it a mental health worker, clergy, a good friend who will "tell it to you as it is", your friends here at OH.
Now for the fun stuff in the bowl of our wine glass. The balance between stress and fun. Work, family, friends, faith, pets, artistic outlets, reading, the list gets endless. I started the list with work, that does not mean that work is the top of the list. We each need to prioritize our needs.
To summarize the image and keep your glass stable. Your support circle is that special mattress. Keeping your glass balanced. Your food, exercise and rest are the foot or base of your glass. Your mental outlook is the stem of the glass. If these are in place, you can and should fill the bowl of the glass with things that mean the most family, health, friends, hobbies, faith, the list goes on. Personalize the list to your own needs. Fill the bowl with all good things and there will not be room for bad things, those bad things will no longer be priorities and will just slip right over the rim and seep out of your life.
What can we do to jump start the glass theory. We can stop the bad habits and start to develop good ones. It takes about three weeks of doing something before it becomes habit. I can do nearly anything I set my mind to for three weeks, how about you? Can you follow the pre-op diet set out by your physician? Yes. Can you stop smoking? Yes. Can you give up caffeine and sodas? Yes. Can you start small things in an exercise plan? Yes. Can you clean your cupboards of junk food? Yes. At least have one that is designated the good snack area. The questions..... you fill in what you need to do. The answers are yours to focus on. We are here to support you as you make the needed changes in your life.
The end. Getting off my soap box before this becomes a book
Whew girl. I applaud you.
You just laid out the beginnings of a great sermon. The mental image I had........ There are three parts to a wine glass, the foot, the stem and the bowl. We need to start with a firm support for the base. This support is your support system. Make a mental image of the commercial for that special ma tress where the girl bounces around and the wine glass remains upright. Your support circle is that special mattress. Keeping your glass balanced. Your friends here at OH are part of that mattress.
Next we need to strengthen the foot (base). The base will need help by removing some of the topside load of crap that we have put into our bodies. So think about what is needed for our health. One stable base structure is the triangle. Let's look at out triangle of food, exercise and rest. We need good nutritious food to fuel our bodies. Protein, fluids, vitamins, veggies, fruits. We also need strong healthy bones and muscles. Exercise, cardiovascular and strengthening. We need balance between activity and rest. Get your 8 hours of sleep each night. This balances out a good solid base.
The stem of the glass is centered. That is our mental well being. If your 'stem' is not centered, seek out counsel for mental stability. Be it a mental health worker, clergy, a good friend who will "tell it to you as it is", your friends here at OH.
Now for the fun stuff in the bowl of our wine glass. The balance between stress and fun. Work, family, friends, faith, pets, artistic outlets, reading, the list gets endless. I started the list with work, that does not mean that work is the top of the list. We each need to prioritize our needs.
To summarize the image and keep your glass stable. Your support circle is that special mattress. Keeping your glass balanced. Your food, exercise and rest are the foot or base of your glass. Your mental outlook is the stem of the glass. If these are in place, you can and should fill the bowl of the glass with things that mean the most family, health, friends, hobbies, faith, the list goes on. Personalize the list to your own needs. Fill the bowl with all good things and there will not be room for bad things, those bad things will no longer be priorities and will just slip right over the rim and seep out of your life.
What can we do to jump start the glass theory. We can stop the bad habits and start to develop good ones. It takes about three weeks of doing something before it becomes habit. I can do nearly anything I set my mind to for three weeks, how about you? Can you follow the pre-op diet set out by your physician? Yes. Can you stop smoking? Yes. Can you give up caffeine and sodas? Yes. Can you start small things in an exercise plan? Yes. Can you clean your cupboards of junk food? Yes. At least have one that is designated the good snack area. The questions..... you fill in what you need to do. The answers are yours to focus on. We are here to support you as you make the needed changes in your life.
The end. Getting off my soap box before this becomes a book
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