Pre-surgery freak out

I've read enough posts on here to know that what I'm going through is perfectly normal.  Somehow, that doesn't seem to help.  I keep getting weepy and it is seriously annoying.  When people ask me if I'm nervous about the surgery, I've consistently answered "no".  I didn't feel nervous.  But suddenly I'm thinking about my seven year old son, my three year old daughter, and my incredibly amazing husband and I'm now freaking out.  I KNOW this is the right decision for me.  I have been contemplating and researching this surgery for THREE years. 

Someone please just slap me and tell me to get over it already.

Think about your seven-year-old and your three-year-old and your amazing husband and think about how WONDERFUL of a mother and wife you will have the chance to be when you get your HEALTH back. Think about running around with them, going on rides... dressing up the way you want to for your husband, going on vacations comfortably with him, etc., etc. Think about all those things.

I asked my doc before surgery if it's OK if I cry. He said lots of people do it. But when I got there, so much was going on... blood work, prep, etc, that I just took a "let's do this!" approach. When it came time for my parents and friends to say "goodbye" before surgery, I said, "See ya in a few hours! No worries! Love you all and I can't wait for my new life with you." I thought that over and over so that I didn't cry... and trust me, I'm a cry baby.

What also works is to write out a big old list of all the reasons you are doing this surgery and keep your eyes on it when fear creeps in.

You'll do great! No worries!

My wise GP said to me.  Think of it this way.  At the end of your life you don't want any regrets.  You don't want to be laying there saying "Oh I wish I would have had that WLS.  It's a big step, but a step toward a healther life.

 Surgery isn't the right decision for some people, but have faith in your research and your surgeon and his program...and think about the future, how much healthier you will be for your family.

It's a big step, but one that so few people regret.

good luck!

The 18th will be here before you know it. Try not to focus on the "what ifs" if that's what you're doing and focus on all the good things that will come for you post op.   If you're emotional, that's ok.  Better to cry and let it out than let those emotions fester. You'll be ok, really you will.  

---SMACK!!!---  Get over it!!!

I felt just like you. I was so pesimistic I wrote my kids post-dated emails telling them I loved them. I was so nervous cried in pre-op! Now I feel so foolish!

You'll do great and your kids will love you for making this sacrifice to add years to your life and meet your great grandkids.

You're normal.  I was the same way.  Made sure I had a will up-to-date, and wrote letters to my kids and hubby - a good friend held on to them for me.  Gave 'em back to me when I had obviously survived!  If you think it might help you feel better, do that.  But be prepared for the avalanche of tears writing such letters will cause, it's unbelievably emotional!  Although I've got to think that's a rather healthy thing, too.  LET IT OUT, BABY!

You'll be fine. I'll be having surgery on Tuesday as well - not WLS, but a different issue.  I'll be updating OH tomorrow after I meet with the surgeon.

Sending up prayers for peace and a textbook smooth surgery for you!

*SLAP*

I am sending you a BIG OLE HUG!!!!!!!!!!!  You will be just fine and it will be over before you know it.  Keep us updated!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thanks for all of the hugs, words of encouragement, and of course, the slaps .  I did fine yesterday and am feeling better about everything.

It is so funny that some of you mentioned writing letters or emails to your children/spouses.  I almost did that.  I'm a plan ahead kind of girl, so I guess it just felt like something I should do.  But I've decided against it.  It's not going to be necessary, because I am going to be just fine.

I leave tomorrow morning for my surgery and I'm SO EXCITED to begin this new life.  I told my husband last night that some people on the mb talk about getting their life back.  Well, I'm getting a new life.  I've NEVER been at a normal weight.  I was wearing a size 18 when I graduated from high school.  It is going to be unbelievable!!!

Thanks, again!  I am so glad I found this place.  I'm hoping to meet up with some of you at a coffee in the near future.