dating... and being asked out to dinner.. how to explain surgery?
Know what you want... trust your intuition and think about when the right time is. It could be the first date or the 4th... or if the date doesn't go well, then none of their business. Hehe Just go with the flow...
Looking verrry good, Stacy. You'll rock the date!
When I was 3 weeks out I had lunch with a group of gals that had watched me eat for years. I had a cup of soup and half sandwich, ate about a quarter of it, and took the rest home. The thing is that no one said a word about it. I did have a few sips of water, which may have helped wash some down, but that was my only "cheat". I didn't dare have a drink and still don't, but have done OK in restaurants by making wise food choices. You'll do fine.
Have a great time, regardless of what you decide to divulge!
Tuneyjune
When I was 3 weeks out I had lunch with a group of gals that had watched me eat for years. I had a cup of soup and half sandwich, ate about a quarter of it, and took the rest home. The thing is that no one said a word about it. I did have a few sips of water, which may have helped wash some down, but that was my only "cheat". I didn't dare have a drink and still don't, but have done OK in restaurants by making wise food choices. You'll do fine.
Have a great time, regardless of what you decide to divulge!
Tuneyjune
TuneyJune 
Congratulations on your new life! Being a bariatric patient myself, my "official" answer to you is to recommend that you wait until about the 5th date to tell the other person about your weight loss journey. If they are the right person for you, they shouldn't look at your decision to become a "Surgically Altered Freak" like the rest of us as anything but a positive. If they hesitate, I recommend that you give them Alan's definition of Insanity: Trying something (like dieting alone) to lose weight and failing. Then trying THE EXACT SAME THING again and expecting a different result!!! 
Having given you my "serious" answer, let me give you my sarcastic answer. I recommend that you say nothing and when they see your old "Pre-Op" pictures... just follow in the foot steps of folks like the Reverend Al Sharpton and tell them that you did it all on your own!
In case you don't know what I am talking about, check out this link: http://www.realhealthmag.com/articles/1968_11356.shtml
Back to a serious note on this topic, a woman from my support group in Seattle told her entire family (we mean brothers, sisters, aunts, uncles and parents) that she lost her 150 pounds by eating better and workng out, because she knew that they would all "rank on her" for having to resort to surgery to lose weight, and I also think she wanted to exact some sort of revenge on them for exahlting her previous life's failures while ******g and moaning her successes.
I am glad that my family wouldn't do that to me!
-Alan
Having given you my "serious" answer, let me give you my sarcastic answer. I recommend that you say nothing and when they see your old "Pre-Op" pictures... just follow in the foot steps of folks like the Reverend Al Sharpton and tell them that you did it all on your own!
In case you don't know what I am talking about, check out this link: http://www.realhealthmag.com/articles/1968_11356.shtml
Back to a serious note on this topic, a woman from my support group in Seattle told her entire family (we mean brothers, sisters, aunts, uncles and parents) that she lost her 150 pounds by eating better and workng out, because she knew that they would all "rank on her" for having to resort to surgery to lose weight, and I also think she wanted to exact some sort of revenge on them for exahlting her previous life's failures while ******g and moaning her successes.
I am glad that my family wouldn't do that to me! -Alan
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