What's up with some people? Cranky rant

Ok, I'm kind of cranky tonight. I just needed to vent. I really don't hate people. I'm grateful for my blessings each day. But it's the end of a bad week and I've reached the end of my limited supply of patience.

I have a few platonic guy friends who are now looking at me in a different way. It angers me that they know me pretty well and like hanging out and talking with me but I wasn't datable until now. They want to take me out; they say things that make me feel uncomfortable because we were always just friends and nothing hinted at anything more. I feel kind of betrayed.

And what's up with people (ok women) who are so excited you are losing weight until you get near their size or thinner? Suddenly, they tell you you are losing weight too fast or you just aren't being very healthy or you look too thin. Ooh, they are sooooo worried that you may be wasting away. Good lord, I'm 162 lbs and five foot five. I'm about as close to being too thin as I am to being too rich.

And I'm still trying to perfect my look of disgusted horror for those people who say "you look so much better now." I'm sure they aren't meaning it like that but please...I thought I was a pretty cute fat chick, especially after I left my (now ex) husband. 

And what's up with a world where I wear a 12 (and sometimes a size 10) and some men still tell me that I'm not "height weight proportionate"  or that I'm overweight. I do realize that I'm 20 lbs from my goal and 12 lbs from having a normal BMI but really, come on. What world are these guys living in...is there a Playboy Channel alternate reality that they are living in? I know these guys obviously have issues and I'm glad to avoid them but aaaaaaargh!

Now if only i could get these guys together with my women friends/family/coworkers who say I'm too thin. I want to be in the audience for that debate.

Any people others would like to get something off their chest about?

Sometimes life hands you lemons - make lemonade, girl!!!

Don't let anyone define you or steal your thunder! You know you are healthier. You know you are rockin' your WLS. You know you feel much better. You know you look better (I'm sorry, I could like nice SMO with the best of 'em but did I truly feel good? NO!).

So next time someone says anything, and I'm taking this from another member, just say "thank you, my doctor and I agree that I am doing just fine". That'll leave them dumbfounded. Or come up with some quirky line of your own.

I've still got to figure out a comeback when people say "wow, love the new haircut" and I know didn't get a new cut...it's only because I've lost 90 freeeeekin' pounds! LOL! Anyone have a comeback for that one?

Love the new Avatar!!!!! Keep up the great work!!!!   HOT HOT HOT

"Love the new haircut."    

Oh, my hair isn't new, but the cheek bones are!  

People that don't know you that well may wonder if you mean you've had plastic surgery after a reply like that.

"Thank You; its a wig?"

People say the dumbest things sometimes........  They should really stop and think before they speak.......you are doing AMAZING and don't let anyone bring ya down........ I will open a can woopazz if ya need to........ hang in there and keep up the great work!!!!!!

I'd be upset by guy friends suddenly interested in dating to. So far I haven't had anyone ask me if I'm done losing or say I'm getting too thin. I'm sure that day will come, undoubtedly from my sister who has always been smaller than me. I have a sneaky suspicion I'll wind up smaller than her, which will drive her nuts.  She's constantly asking me how much more I've lost and she's so particular about knowing how much since surgery, like the 16 I lost the 2 months before doesn't count.  ACK!

Oooh don't even get me started, ha ha. Gladly I have some good friends who haven't gotten jealous yet (but I'm still not down to their size yet).. but it bugs me when guy**** on me that would NEVER HAVE before. I just think... "Oh, so NOW you'll give me the time of day you asshole!" I know, it's horrible... but that's how I feel sometime.

The good thing is that I have stretch marks, loose skin and scars... those work as "asshole repellents." If a guy won't date me because of those, I know he's an asshole! :-)

That's a great point about the stretch marks, etc. I will think of them as that from now on. That's one thing I really hate about dating...getting nekkid in front of someone new for the first time. And if my loose skin and other "beauty marks" scare them away, good riddance!