Today's Deep Thought
~ Acceptance. It is the true thing everyone longs for. The one thing everyone craves. To walk in a room and to be greeted by everyone with hugs and smiles. And in that small passing moment, you truly know you're loved, needed, and accepted. ~ Rena Harmon
How true...
How true...
Imperfect does not = unsuccessful
How scary true is that? As obese people, acceptance was something for which we sacrificed much of our inner selves. Because society, in general, did NOT accept us the way we were. Much as that sucks, maybe it was a blessing in disguise? Because it made many of us WANT to be "better" people - more acceptable, thinner, NORMAL. So we sought WLS - and for the majority of us, we have reached (or will reach) that "normal" state of being. Of no longer serving as a target for the snide comments of strangers. Of doing whatever we could to make others happy, just so we could be accepted. Of having HEALTH.
I think having been obese taught me to recognize the value of true, unconditional love and friendship. I can sense a judgemental person when I meet them. I choose not to get close to people like that. Having been obese has brought me to a place in life where I now have more dear, sincere, loving friends than ever before - and to be honest, I was never seriously lacking in the friend department. I have many that I've had for as long as 40 years! But the kinship of others who have shared the same painful journey I was on for the first 45 years of my life is - well, there just isn't a word to cover it.
It makes me sad to see people who struggle with acceptance - of themselves, and from others they've developed relationships with. We can't blame the people we've allowed into our lives, and bent over backwards for, in the name of acceptance - in a way, we are to blame for their being spoiled. But hopefully, in our newfound acceptance of ourselves, we can teach them to appreciate us for who we ARE, not just the extremely giving person we've chosen to be with them in the past. We have value. We are worthy of respect. We are acceptable.
I think having been obese taught me to recognize the value of true, unconditional love and friendship. I can sense a judgemental person when I meet them. I choose not to get close to people like that. Having been obese has brought me to a place in life where I now have more dear, sincere, loving friends than ever before - and to be honest, I was never seriously lacking in the friend department. I have many that I've had for as long as 40 years! But the kinship of others who have shared the same painful journey I was on for the first 45 years of my life is - well, there just isn't a word to cover it.
It makes me sad to see people who struggle with acceptance - of themselves, and from others they've developed relationships with. We can't blame the people we've allowed into our lives, and bent over backwards for, in the name of acceptance - in a way, we are to blame for their being spoiled. But hopefully, in our newfound acceptance of ourselves, we can teach them to appreciate us for who we ARE, not just the extremely giving person we've chosen to be with them in the past. We have value. We are worthy of respect. We are acceptable.
Imperfect does not = unsuccessful
This was a perfect thread for me to read as I start another day here in Mexico. I don´t know that I will ever truly find the acceptance that I am looking for- but that is my own issue.
Darla- your insights made so much sense to me, the acceptance of my "new body" is very slow and I still feel that people are constantly judging me by my weight and fitness capabilitites. Who know, maybe someday I will get over that!! Thank goodness for therapists!
Reenie
Darla- your insights made so much sense to me, the acceptance of my "new body" is very slow and I still feel that people are constantly judging me by my weight and fitness capabilitites. Who know, maybe someday I will get over that!! Thank goodness for therapists!
Reenie
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