My wow moment and my holy **** moment. (LONG)

You my friend have NOTHING to be jealous about (nothing against JaySal) it's just that YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL - gorgeous in fact - you just can't see it (or believe it) for yourself!  Loves you!

I agree with Punky here you little stinker!  We will be cute, hot, gorgeous together - especially after your all healed up and that too my friend will ALL BE WORTH IT!

I don't know you, but I LOVE the courage and self-confidence you displayed. You SOOOO deserve MORE. I am very proud of you for getting out before things got worse and possibly dangerous.

Yay for you!
Sue

Thanks Sue - I too am so thankful that we don't have children, that we don't have a ton of assets and that I decided enough was enough when I'm young enough to start over!

I'm new here, and we don't know eachother, but GOOD for you!  You sound so confident and at ease with your decision.  I'm sorry you had to put up with so much for so long, but it's over.  Now just look forward, good things will come your way.  You deserve it 

Awe thanks!  I am confident that this was the right decision for me.  I'm sorry too that I put up with it for so long however am walking away knowing that A - I did everything I could to save my marriage, B - I am guilt free throughout our marriage and walking away and C - I am a better person and much stronger for having gone through this marriage.  So all will be well!
Thank you for your kind words!
Sal

Sal,

I am fairly new to the MN board, but I wanted to tell you how courageous you are.  You've realized how important YOU are and how valuable YOU are.  I'm positive that you will never allow someone to disrespect you again.

I'm sending you Be Strong vibes for the months ahead of you.  It sounds like your husband might be a jerk through the divorce procedure.  Take it a day at a time and never lose your focus on what's important for you.

Thank you so much!  So far he's being fairly decent about this so I'm hoping that that will continue.  He's a lost little puppy and is feeling the huge effects of a guilt.  So he's being decent which will help this process out for sure.
Sal

Wow, that is quite a week!

I am so happy for you that you realized you are worth so much more than that!  I think a lot of people these days will divorce without putting much effort into saving a marriage, but then there are those people who try and try and try and give way too much of themselves to someone who uses and abuses them.  Congratulations on loving yourself enough to save yourself from an unhealthy situation!  You are such a strong woman, beautiful inside and out.   Please be very careful, though- with the extent of the verbal and emotional abuse, he may very well become violent once it sinks in that you truly mean to leave.  If you ever need someone to talk to, meet for coffee, whatever, I'm here, I'm also in the SW metro.  Take care of yourself, gorgeous!

You are too sweet!  And I get it about the violence and have taken measures to protect myself each time I am near me - so no worries there!  You made me blush!  Thank you so much!
Sal