Does Your Spouse Resent Time Spent on OH?

Does your spouse/SO resent the time you spend on OH and/or your participation in support group meetings and related social events.  Mine does and it is really grating on me today.

RP

I am not married, but I do have a best friend that I live with and have been friends with for 10 years. I always thought he would get frustrated because I wasn't around as much... but surprisingly (probably because he is a gem of a human being)... he took it well!

I guess it's kind of like our food habits. We were so used to having the WHOLE pie before. Now we only get a slice. Well, they were so used to having the whole pie too.. or rather, all of your time... and now they are only getting maybe 3/4th of that pie. 

We all figured that there would have to be adjustments after this drastic step... but it's hard for partners and friends to really predict what part of you they will miss... the softness of your belly, the time spent on the couch... or whatever else.

My husband doesn't get it.  He did think everyone was great on Sat night.  But still doesn't get why I need to see my people so often.
I love my OH friends! 

Yes, he's glad I'm getting out more and that I have more friends.  But he also resents time spent away from him.  Guess that's for him to figure out.

I guess I may be a lucky one. My SO supports me in whatever I do. I also support him. He LOVES the time I spend away from the house-ok, it is for his own selfish reasons. While I am gone, He gets to freely play his bagpipes! Yes, He is a bag piper and those things are very LOUD in the house. He plays them outside and the people next door thought a herd of cats were dying LOL

I don't know what my reaction would be if he got pissy about me spending time with friends,going to support meetings or such.
I hope everything settles down for you Rick
Kelly/tink

So bagpipes = a herd of dying cats???

     I'm sorry, that there's FUNNY!!!  I don't care WHO you are!!! 

(Unless, of course,  you're Scottish... then, I AM sorry!!!)

Come live it! Not so funny then LOL, I do come up with some dilly of sayings at times. The only thing worse then living next door to a bagpiper is.............(stick with me here) Living next door to a bagpiper who is in his 2nd year of lessons! ROFLMAO
Kelly

We have definitely had our moments, but it has more to do with each of us having things we want to get done.  On Saturday mornings when I go to coffee, he is itching to get going on projects and if I am gone until 1 pm he gets impatient.  I have realized that I have to moderate the time I am away from home and family for whatever the reason.  If I have a haircut on monday night, a massage on tuesday night, PNC support group on wednesday night, etc etc, that's not really fair to him.  He stays home with the kids during the week and needs time for himself and time with me.

We have learned to talk about the week ahead and what each of us wants to do.  That way we can try to compromise.  My DH understands my need for support unique to what my WLS friends can give.

It is all a balancing act and it isn't all about our WLS (even though it seems like it is to us!! LOL).

Since I am usually on OH at work and not much at home, this is a non issue so far. However, after I had my twins, I was heavily involved in a mother of multiples club for about 2 years. That was the source of many arguments in our relationship durring that time. My husband hated everything about it. I think he was just a bit jealous there wasn't a Dads of multiples group. He just saw it as me going out and having fun, him staying home with the kids, not really a source of support. Also, it was filled with a tremendous amount of drama. I did quit last year because of all the drama and haven't looked back. And, my husband is much better. He really has nothing to complain about.