What is your emotional goal?

We all have weight goals.... size goals...etc. But I'm curious.... what is your EMOTIONAL goal after WLS? How do you want to feel when all is said and done??


Me?

I want to feel proud. I have realized that I want more and more... the more I lose, the more I want perfection. When I lose 100lbs, all I can think is that I'm not at goal yet. I get to size 12 and all I can think is that I'm not at a size 8. I hope at the end of this journey... I will learn to be proud of what I have achieved, no matter how imperfect I may be.

You know Elena, I'm not sure I can answer it yet. What you've stated above definitely rings in my ears, too. However, I'm always working on ME and as long as my emotional health is good and I'm feeling healthy, I think I'll be good with that. Emotional health plays such a huge part of our over all well-being. It's hard to know.

But I guess overall, I just want to know that I took a big risk and that it was all worth it...and that I never forget 'cuz I sure as heck don't want to go back! KWIM? 

My emotional goal???? There are more than one, so here goes...  To look in the mirror, see the physical changes as they really are, To get rid of this emotional head hunger and not be stuffing my face all the time. And to be satisfied that I did what I needed to do for ME and only ME, found that number that, when following the rules, my body likes to be at. To be able to walk to the closet and grab a pair of jeans without looking at the size, put them out and know I look and feel good.

Karen

Emotionally I am pretty healthy. But I just want to emotionally be happy that I did something for myself for a change. And that I have the power to change myself physically and emotionally.. and that I put myself first instead of others. I want to rid myself of the problems of others and just deal with myself and create my own happiness for a change, instead of letting others problems cast a black rain cloud over me.

I'm the person in my family who bandages all the hurt and fights and "messyness" that occurs between family members. Emotionally I want to finally be able to say no to that and let other people deal with their own monsters for a change instead of carrying the emotional burdeon that is there issue, not mine. I end up transferring their issues to me and creating unwanted stress in myself. And I know stress causes all sorts of physical issues including weight gain or inhibiting weightloss.

So I guess thats mine.. although I'm right with you and want to make sure I feel proud of what I did for myself.

I want to be able to accept my victories and learn not to neat myself up for my failues... which most of the time are just PRECEIVED failures and not REAL FAILRES! 

I want my outside to match my inside.  There is a healthy and active person trapped inside this body.  I've worked hard on growing emotionally.  I found myself in a place where I was ready to work on the physical aspect of my life.  I'm proud of where I've come from and impatient to reach my goal...a healthier me.

 I second that. I want to be just as beautiful on the outside as I know I am on the inside. And I want the self confidence that I know I don't have right now. Just to feel comfortable in my own skin. 

Emotionally?  I want to reach a place where I feel "I'm THERE" with my weight - not that I'll ever be DONE, but I want to feel like I got where I belong!  I'm crazy happy with where I am now compared to 2+ years ago, but I don't feel like I'm "THERE" yet!

And when I get "THERE", I want to be FINE with the scrotum skin and bat wings, and the "knobs" in my belly from previous surgeries (AKA, the "muffin top").  It'll NEVER be flat, I know that.  I just want to learn to be FINE with what's left of me!

Awe Elena I love your posts.

For me my emotional goal is to realize that I AM WORTH IT!  To always remember this when the temptations arise.
That I am worth a healthy body and to feel good.
To realize that God has given me the gift of this body that I have treated so poorly over the years and to treat it with the utmost respect in all aspects physical and emotional.
To realize that I am NOT defined in my own eyes or the eyes of others by the girl who is/was fat, to the girl who had surgery to help her lose the weight.  That I AM simply a great person who has so much to give to the world.
To look in the mirror and feel/think of myself as a beautiful creature from head to toe - not just neck up ;)

Sal

Funny you should ask . . . I was just thinking about this on Sunday.  I want the head hunger to be better under control.  But seriously???  I want to hear a compliment (like "hey, you're really looking good!") and have my initial gut level reaction be "Well yeah.  I KNOW that.  So what?"  Not outloud, but truly feel and believe it.   It sounds almost conceited.  And maybe it is.  But I want to be able to truly own my new self image that much. 
Oh, and . . . thanks for asking.