Not everybody will like you
All I can say is this is me, I find few people that really get to know me to find out if I am likeable or not.
(from the Hazelden Foundation--I receive daily inspirations, because 'recovery' is all-inclusive to so many aspects of our lives--particularly post-WLS)
Not Everybody Will Like You It is not necessarily a pleasant experience, but there will be times in our lives when we come across people who do not like us. As we know, like attracts like, so usually when they don’t like us it is because they are not like us. Rather than taking it personally, we can let them be who they are, accepting that each of us is allowed to have different perspectives and opinions. When we give others that freedom, we claim it for ourselves as well, releasing ourselves from the need for their approval so we can devote our energy toward more rewarding pursuits.
While approval from others is a nice feeling, when we come to depend on it we may lose our way on our own path. There are those who will not like us no matter what we do, but that doesn’t mean that there is anything wrong with us. Each of us has our own filters built from our experiences over time. They may see in us something that is merely a projection of their understanding, but we have no control over the interpretations of others. The best we can do is to hope that the role we play in the script of their lives is helpful to them, and follow our own inner guidance with integrity.
As we reap the benefits of walking our individual paths, we grow to appreciate the feeling of fully being ourselves. The need to have everyone like us will be replaced by the exhilaration of discovering that we are attracting like-minded individuals into our lives—people who like us because they understand and appreciate the truth of who we are. We free ourselves from trying to twist into shapes that will fit the spaces provided by others’ limited understanding and gain a new sense of freedom, allowing us to expand into becoming exactly who we’re meant to be. And in doing what we know to be right for us, we show others that they can do it too. Cocreating our lives with the universe and its energy of pure potential, we transcend limitations and empower ourselves to shine our unique light, fully and freely.
(from the Hazelden Foundation--I receive daily inspirations, because 'recovery' is all-inclusive to so many aspects of our lives--particularly post-WLS)
Not Everybody Will Like You It is not necessarily a pleasant experience, but there will be times in our lives when we come across people who do not like us. As we know, like attracts like, so usually when they don’t like us it is because they are not like us. Rather than taking it personally, we can let them be who they are, accepting that each of us is allowed to have different perspectives and opinions. When we give others that freedom, we claim it for ourselves as well, releasing ourselves from the need for their approval so we can devote our energy toward more rewarding pursuits.
While approval from others is a nice feeling, when we come to depend on it we may lose our way on our own path. There are those who will not like us no matter what we do, but that doesn’t mean that there is anything wrong with us. Each of us has our own filters built from our experiences over time. They may see in us something that is merely a projection of their understanding, but we have no control over the interpretations of others. The best we can do is to hope that the role we play in the script of their lives is helpful to them, and follow our own inner guidance with integrity.
As we reap the benefits of walking our individual paths, we grow to appreciate the feeling of fully being ourselves. The need to have everyone like us will be replaced by the exhilaration of discovering that we are attracting like-minded individuals into our lives—people who like us because they understand and appreciate the truth of who we are. We free ourselves from trying to twist into shapes that will fit the spaces provided by others’ limited understanding and gain a new sense of freedom, allowing us to expand into becoming exactly who we’re meant to be. And in doing what we know to be right for us, we show others that they can do it too. Cocreating our lives with the universe and its energy of pure potential, we transcend limitations and empower ourselves to shine our unique light, fully and freely.
Never let your memories be greater than your dreams.
Thanks for sharing that Patty, it's so true. Not everyone has everyone for a friend, we're all so different, yet we have one common denominator...we've had the surgery. I learned this lesson years ago when I was in a Big and Beautiful Woman group....yes, we were all fat, but we all had different personalities and not everyone got along with everyone else. When I lost the weight, I lost friends, or people who I thought were friends....ends up, we had nothing in common but being fat!
I don't have a lot of close friends, most are casual friends, who I truly enjoy seeing, but don't see or talk to all the time. As an introvert, I tend to have a close knit group of friends I feel comfortable with. If I get out of hand, I get out of my comfort zone.
But anyway, thank you for sharing.
Edi
I don't have a lot of close friends, most are casual friends, who I truly enjoy seeing, but don't see or talk to all the time. As an introvert, I tend to have a close knit group of friends I feel comfortable with. If I get out of hand, I get out of my comfort zone.
But anyway, thank you for sharing.
Edi
Highest: 349
Lowest: 175
Surgeon's Goal: 189
My Goal: A healtier happier me!!
2014 update...regained but haven't lost faith.
Edi, your comment speaks volumes! Yep, in youth we learn...with age we understand. Truly, with the OH common denomonator (WLS), it's too easy to 'go with the flow', then only to get stung by hollow external assertions. Yeeech, the sting of reliving eighth grade some days...stay cool you! Appreciative hugs, Patti
Never let your memories be greater than your dreams.
Right on, sistah! I've said it all in the most recent PM. Just gotta remember with 110 lbs gone, the skin sure is thin, and not just by sight! Have you the tiniest notion how much I love, love and appreciate you?! Hugs and all that other mushy girl-friend stuff we luv, Patti 
Never let your memories be greater than your dreams.
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