I just really need to vent...

I've lost almost 50lbs and there is no one that can say it's not noticeable by now. My grandma knew I lost 50lbs before I even came over today but she hadn't seen me since I was 300+ lbs.

I spent an hour or so there. I bought new pants 2 days ago and they have not been tailored yet (too long)... so she mentions it once... then twice... and by the end of the hour... she is yelling at me telling me that she is ashamed to have me walking the halls of her apartment because "What will people say?!!" about my disgracefully long pants!!! WTF?!

All I am thinking is.... I've lost 50 ******G pounds!! Can't you say ONE NICE THING?! No! She keeps badgering me until I run into the bathroom crying. My mom tries to explain to her that she is being rude...but no... she insists that it is her duty to tell me how shameful I am. She stands outside the bathroom door and continues to yell at me about my LONG PANTS!!!!!!

I ran out of the bathroom, grabbed my stuff and ran out....

I understand culture and not being able to give compliments, but I'M SORRY!! THIS WAS JUST PLAIN MEAN!!

It's amazing how people are never satisfied....you can never please them... EVER!! I am so angry at her I want to punch something...

Thank you for letting me vent... I really needed to.

Elena.....vent away honey!!  I feel so bad for you. That is not what you needed to hear right now. She was obviously obsessing about the lenght of those pants and just not even looking closely at you.

You are doing an awesome job....look how far you have come so far.
You looked so beautiful today...your hair is really great too!!

Try to forgive her...she is just older and the longer pants has at some point in her life has been a real issue with her.

Try to enjoy the rest of your day.

Love you sweetie....gentle hugs.....connie d

Thanks for letting me vent... I really don't mean to be a downer... I just felt so sad after coming into work crying.... i just really needed to get a little support, that's all.

elena..
i know how you feel and it sucks big time. my family is japanese so almost the same culture problems.

your are so beautiful.. inside and out. i am sorry your grandma wasn't able to see past your "long pants".. but we all know what an amazing job you are doing.

keep up the great work

I am glad you understand the culture thing. It's just..... pants? What the heck? I was so puzzled... what a dumb thing to get all crazy about....dear God.

IM sorry but culture isnt an excuse for rudeness... if she was Dutch, German or Asia.. rude is rude period.

I understand this is your family and they are important but for an adult to make another cry is bullying even if it is "family"

You dont deserve that....

Im sorry

Yeah, I agree. That's why I stormed out. I usually take it ..but this time I just felt like.... COME ON!! Are you KIDDING ME??!!! So yeah.... hopefully my rage will settle down by tomorrow.

PS
Also when we lose our confidence and ability to take **** seems to increase and decrease!  We stand up for ourselves more..
Hang in there... she wont change so change your interactions with her and just say.  I like my pants PERIOD

Elena,

I thought you looked awesome today.....And your WL does show......Culture or not that was rude and enough is enough. You did the right thing on leaving, maybe she'll get the hint that if she acts that way you won't take it and leave......

Kelly

That's what I hope... I felt bad...but as you said, enough was enough.