Struggles

So I'm one month out and down from 256 to 222. So just about 35 pounds. I went to my in laws cabin for the weekend and it was great. Caught some sun, did some jet skiing and of course enjoyed a bonfire. I guess being a month out I haven't done a lot of postings because I feel that I have bit of a negative attitude that I've been experiencing. But then I decided if I feel this I'm SURE others do. And I want others to know they aren't alone. That's just my hesitation in posting this.

With that one of my struggles this weekend was wanting to drink POP! I had given pop up months before my surgery and was fine with it. Maybe because a lot of people had pop but for some reason I wanted a taste so bad. I have a wonderful husband whom I shared this with and he said no way would he let me. I really don't think I would have but having him as a buffer is nice..... each week a new struggle to overcome. BUT....I'm okay with that.... not everyday is going to be wonderful, that makes the wonderful days all that much sweeter. It's like if we never had blizzards or stormy days we wouldn't love the wonderful ones we are given.

 

Just my thoughts :)
Sarah

Sarah,

I struggle with the POP thing every weekend.  We are a social neighborhood and so there is always somewhere to go for dinner and drinks etc.  I'm okay with not drinking, never was a big drinker but pop has always been my biggest weakness.  My husband also acts as my buffer as well as all the people whom we are with.  They all try to offer suggestions to get past it but sometimes it's just the urge....I would have to admit I have taken a sip of soda to get by but I feel guilty when I do it.  I know I don't need it but my head tells me otherwise.  I'll keep putting up the fight if you do.

Robyn

So normal!  We each have struggles to overcome.  Take one baby step at a time.  Alot of this is the head thing......YOU CAN DO IT!

Every day will be a day of decisions -- forever.  The decisions you make will determine your journey and your success.  Every one of us knows what we were told to do and not to do -- it is your decision on whether or not you decide to do differently.

Try not to think of what you feel you don't or can't have (like pop) ~~~~ keep looking forward to what you are going to gain -- a long and healthy lifestyle.  (Glass half full or glass half empty.) 

Good for you sharing with your hubby and listening to him.  And good for him for not letting you.

You're doing a good job -- you've already made a lot of healthy choices because you're losing the weight.  Give yourself a pat on the back for that!!!

Hey there stranger it is hard at first but it gets better.  After you don't have it and then try it it is NASTY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!   I tried I tiny sip of my hubby's cuz I was outta my drink and it fizzed so bad in my mouth and tasted like syrup.  It was so gross.....  Hang in there sweetie it does get better......  Many hugs to you!!!

Sarah - I don't really have any better advice than the other women have given you, but I want to say that I understand where you're coming from.  There have been some times where I've really focused on what I can't/shouldn't have than what I can/do have.  I think that it's part of the grieving process and I think, at least for me, that it is a very normal part of early recovery because we don't have too many WOW moments to focus on yet and sometimes it can be hard to see the benefits of why we're doing all of this.  It seems to be getting better for me daily and when I do feel down I give myself permission to feel that way - it doesn't help me to beat myself up for feeling down as well.

Does your surgery center say that you can never have pop again?  I also gave up pop before surgery, but I've been allowed to have pop since day 1 (not recommended until week 6 unless you let it go flat).  I've been lucky in that I mostly don't want it - the other weekend, in a situation similar to the one that you were in this past weekend, I wanted some pop and so I tried it.  Blech.  It tasted so nasty that I only took 2 little sips and dumped the rest.  The artificial sweeter in the CL is so strong and now that I am used to it the pop tasted bitter.  I bought a different flavor last week at the grocery store that I kind of want to try - but I tell myself that I have to drink 80oz. water first and then if I am still thirsty I can try the pop - after I get in the 80oz. water I'm not thirsty for the pop so it sits unopened in the fridge.  You should follow the advise of your surgery center, but for me, the less that I can say, "I can't have that." the better off that I am and the less interested that I am in "having that".

Hang in there.  PM me if you want about these things.  I'd hate to think that you're feeling bad but don't want to appear too negative on the boards.  I'll be happy to listen to you.

You are doing great!  I was into Diet Coke before surgery.  I have been 8 months without it and now I use it if I get something caught.  It tastes awful now, but sure can dislodge that food that's stuck.  Great tip by Carol N.

Bonnie

The first 3 months after surgery are HARD. On this board you mostly hear the good stories and not so much of the bad, but it basically sucks until about 3 months out. You're grieving the loss of food as your coping mechanism and commercials and other people eating all around you don't help. It's much much harder than you think its going to be.

Sarah,

This post is perfect for today.  I am having a crappy day eating and thinking wise. 

Not sure if its hormones or just the extra stress at home right now but my attitude sucks!

I haven't really been tempted to drink pop.  Food on the other hand.  GRRR!  We celebrated my birthday this weekend and I had a tiny like 2 bites of cake.  And then there was my Grandmas home ade bun I ate.   Your weight loss is amazing!   I am still teatering around 27 lbs. 

I am jealous! 

Keep in touch.

Jess