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I'm starting to come to this conclusion! lol (((Hugs))) Michelle

Michelle- That's HORRID about your co-workers !  I have a feeling some of mine are going to become jealous of me once I have RNY and look all HOT (cause I know I will)  I imagine with my new self confidence I will stand taller, speak louder and be more honest than I ever have, and people aren't going to like it.  Too bad!  Congrats on your success and don't let them get you down. I'm sure it's tough to hear, that people can be critical of you like that, I mean WHO are they?!  Anyway, at least now you're not running off to the bathroom to secretly pork down a pack of HO HOs bought in the vending machine, right? (OH ya, I've done that before- bad!)  Great that you have the board to come to, vent and get support.

lol thanks - and no, I'm not that person sneaking the vending machine food anymore (I used to buy a couple bucks worth at a time!  lol) You will be hot too, and when you start experiencing this crap, come here to vent because I tell ya, after reading all these responses, I sure feel better.  It feels great to talk to people who truly understand!  WLS support is so important! (((Hugs))) and good luck on  your journey too! Michelle

Hi Michelle    I am sorry to here that you had to go throught this.  I remember you in your Prom dress and  how beautiful you looked....  You have been beautiful through out your life.  I am so glad you found this surgery,  those girls dont know you not the real you, just keep going dont let them discourage you.

 

Jean

Thanks for the sweet words Aunt J!  It really means a lot!  :) It sure would have shushed them them to have someone who has REALLY known me my entire life (like you) before I got fat, while I was fat, and after I was fat....standing there when this was going down.  They couldn't have  had much to say then.  lol My male coworker George walked in when the one coworker was doing the hands up prance walk and he said "noooooo, she doesn't do that!!!"  I love George!  lol Love ya! M.

Michelle~I am sending you big hugs!  I am so sorry that your co-workers/"friends" are being this way, but I would have to concur with the others that they are just jealous now that you are the competition and before you were a non-threat!  I hope that you do not let this one incedent squash your spirit, joy, self-confidence and pride you have worked hard to get where you are at and you deserve to flaunt it!  BTW I don't think you walk the way they described, the green monster of jealousy distorts one's vision!  Love & Hugs! Nicole

Aww thanks Nicole!!!   I really am starting to see the jealousy monster come out, that's for sure! I came home and showed my hubby this "different walk" they were describing and he rolled his eyes, laughed and said "How stupid!"  He doesn't see the different walk thing at all and the man is with me every day.  But, he's one of my biggest fans and supporters so I guess that is to be expected.  lol Thanks again for your sweet words! (((Hugs))) Michelle

YUP jeaousy! The heck with them, how rude ~and you know what even if you were prancing you deserve every minute of it~ you have earned it. We all deserve to hold our heads high and strut our stuff!!!!!!!!

It is sad when people just can't celebrate your accomplishments and have to find ways to put you down, isn't it? Thanks for the encouragement Kris.  It means a lot!   (((Hugs))) Michelle

Here's one take  -   You could address these "friends" (either to their face or maybe in an email, if that would be easier, but there's a whole other set of  "protocol" involved there...) and tell them that their comments really hurt you.  That you are working harder than you have ever worked before to improve yourself INSIDE AND OUT, and you wish they could just be happy for you, not jealous or catty - because YOU are happy for you! Here's my other take -  You could turn on your inner b*tch - tell them YOU know you're the same person, only healthier and more confident.  Tell them they're acting like immature little school girls, and you're sorry they can't handle the jealousy they're apparently feeling.    Oh - and tell them that you can't HELP but walk a little lighter, now that you're no longer a "lard ass".  Then "prance" away - in an exaggeration of the prancing they demonstrated to you!

   Wow... what a dilemma!!!  Sending you lots of hugs, Michelle.  We love you for the person you ARE!