Upset

Well, I guess it's starting.  All the talk I've heard in WLS support that your friends, etc. would start saying things once you've lost a lot of weight. Today, my "friends"/coworkers and I were talking about tattoos and I was showing one I might like.  The one coworker says "look at you thinking you are all that prancing around."  I said prancing?  And they proceeded to make fun of the way I walk and said I never walked that way before I lost the weight.  It was humiliating.  I went to the bathroom and cried.  I am sure they thought they were being funny and didn't mean harm, but it hurt and I felt like "Oh, so this is what you really think about me?  Have you all been saying this behind my back?"   It really is ridiculous to have to deal with this kind of crap. I sometimes wish they never knew me when I was fat because they'd not judge me and know I'm still the same person.  Because I am. Funny how my male coworkers think I'm the same.  It's just the female ones who act like this.  I would never make fun of anyone who had such a huge accomplishment in their life but for some reason, when someone loses weight its okay. Doesn't help that I'm PMSing.   Carry on - just had to vent to people who understand. (((Hugs))) Michelle

Listen...that is pure envy and jealousy.   Dont give bitc es like that the time of day.  Its comments like that and the " Your too thin" that hurt... not good enough before not good enough after. Smile inside knowing its envy and nothing more and make it your goal to lose more and shove it down thier throats.  Ooo does that sound mean? Tough.. Your a beautiful person M... dont you forget it!!!!!!!!!!1 Hugs you

Thanks Linda.  Your too sweet.  I knew you'd get it.  I want to have that attitude you have.  This is just real new to me.  I really thought I wouldn't expect this from my coworkers because many of them are friends too but I guess I was wrong.  There is one in particular who makes comments like "you are letting your surgery change you" or when I said recently "I didn't just have surgery and poof the weight came off real easy - I have had to work hard for this!" ....she just rolled her eyes at me as if "yeah right".   You should have seen how they were imitating my supposed "different walk".  They were putting their hands up and shaking their butt as if they were a snooty princess at a deputante ball.  I'm sorry, but I KNOW I do not walk like that.   You gals saw me.  Sheesh! I will definitely be talking about this in my counseling session tomorrow. lol Thanks again - you are a doll! (((Hugs))) Michelle

Yup I get it... and I take full pride when people act that way towards me... because I know its deep seeded jealousy.  Why else would a person be mean...before you were the fat girl..no competition they always felt better about themselves around you, well now you have changed they dynamics with them and its threatening. Keep your chin up and laugh... you are looking wonderful!

Seriously Linda, looking at your avatar was some good medicine...that about darn cracked me up seeing your cute face on that furry little kitten! lmao!!!  Love it! Thanks for your great advice - I can't tell you how much it means to me! (((Hugs))) Michelle

(((((MICHELLE))))) Honey, I am SO sorry you had to deal with that today! What a real bummer! Why do we girls have to be so catty about stuff?! geesh I guess I don't see it on here as much as in the "outside" world, but it is around us in many ways. Maybe we need to take lessons from the men and just be more relaxed. You have ALWAYS dressed beautifully from all the pics I've ever seen of you and I've seen you walk. Why they'd be saying that now makes no sense because I didn't think you walked like you were on the red carpet. And even if you did, I'd support that walk because it's your walk from obesity!!! YGG! We love ya!

Thanks Amy!  I really appreciate your sweet words. :) I really don't understand why women are like this either.  It just hurt that they are my "friends'  I would not ever do this to a friend.  A friend celebrates each other's accomplishments, not make fun of them and taunt them.   Thanks again! (((Hugs))) Michelle

Considering that it came from females, I would say they are jealous of how HOT you are!!  Doesn't make it right.  Hang in there hon!  This is just one of the "bumps" in the WLS journey. HUGS/LOVES

Thanks Sandie!   Some people suck don't they?  lol  You have warned of this happening but I don't think you can ever be quite prepared when it starts - especially from "friends".   Thanks for the encouragement!  xoxo M.

Can you say..................jealous?