OMG, I was not prepared for this!

My libido has gone into overdrive!  I mean, I feel like a teenager again, maybe even more than then.  Even my dreams these last few weeks have been very erotic and, um, "complete."  Normal?  Will this continue for long?  Will I be blessed and have it stay with me for the next 50 years?  Can I ask a personal question?  Do people find that sex gets better after weight loss.  I know we can do more, and be more "active," but to sensations change at all?  Are we consistently more hormonally ready?  I would welcome PM's regarding these questions, if you aren't comfortable sharing on a public forum. I need this online dating business to start producing for me! 

First I have to say bravo!!!! Takes some character to put a post out like this. Plus I am sure there are others out there will the same questions......so it is good for the lurkers to.

I can ONLY speak from my personal experience but.. here it is.

Even tho I went thru menopause, ( talk about an emotional roller coaster... I believe my surgrey kicked in my menopause a little quicker...so had the mood and emotional swings of menopause, and the normal ones of weight loss surgrey) and had to get rid of some emotional dead weight....(i.e. my #190 lb instant weight loss in April) I to have found my "labido" kicked up like nobody's business.....it's hard to compare it to my younger years....as I was pretty messed up then... but can honestly say it is the highest it has been IN YEARS!!!

That said....and again.. this is just my experience..and possible explanation as to the why's.
Yes... sex is better now... way better. I put it to a couple of different things.. First I beleive it is in the way we perceive ourselves as women.....Hard to feel intimate when you feel so very unattractive and undesireable. As we have lost the weight, we feel better about ourselves, hence we feel more attractive.. when we feel more attractive...we feel more desired, and desireable. Our self perceptions play a major roll in our sexual selves.

Second: as far as the actual act goes....I beleive it is more pleasureable because physically... we don't have as much "padding" around crucial nerve endings, so there for... able to physically feel more pleasure.

These are just my opinions.....I hope I didn't offend anyone about my open answers.

Hope this answers some of yours... and the good news.. it will still get better as you lose more...

Have a great and wonderful day!!!!!

Takes courage to respond to a post such as this.  I know some people may be offended by this, and maybe some other posts I have made, but I'm here to learn and share, and I'm trying to be at least a little delicate about things.  But my thoughts are that this is my reality, and I'm sure it's the reality of many other people on this site, so why not talk about it.  Thanks for sharing!

Hi sweetie...yes...my libido is on high!! And that is all I have to say about that!! (((HUGS)))  connie d

Thanks for responding Connie!  So many changes in such a short time!

I noticed on the forum list that there is a board too specifically pertaining to sex after surgery. I haven't gone to it though.

Yeah, I've been to that forum a few times, I just didn't quite feel like it was giving me the info I was looking for.  I haven't been there in a while though, maybe I'll check it out again.

Christi - all I'm going to say is thanks for posting this & my husband is very excited for me to have surgery. LMAO!

Christi, Mine kicked up into overdrive and then dived.  So, I'm not sure what to tell you.  I'm so up and down, hopefully I'll even out - on the upside!