Awkward, not sure why

We had a party for my brother today and my cousin who had WLS over a year ago was there.  I have been wanting to sit down and talk with her about what program she went through, how much she has lost, her experiences, but when we finally were sitting together talking I couldn't seem to bring myself to ask her any of it.  There was this tension there like it was off limits.  I don't know if part of it was because people were commenting on my weightloss all day and no one said anything about her or if it is because she and I have never been close.  I also wanted to tell her about this board, but I just couldn't bring myself to talk about it with her.  It seems as though she was more the private type about her surgery because it was not talked about at all except that she had the surgery. 

Odd...but I guess you maybe read the signals and did the right thing. Some people would just rather not talk about it....either way... I don't think it did any harm.

Sorry you had to feel that way.  Each person is different.  I don't know really what to say....... I am just gald you are on here and are able to talk about it.......Take care honey and Hugs to you.....

Since she had her wls over a year ago, she may have stopped losing or has slowed way down or even gained a few pounds back.  She may have been jealous of your attention, you being the new one losing so dramatically, and her now maintaining or something like that.  I don't know if she's at goal or not or how much she lost. You paid attention to the signs she was giving you and you honored her nonverbal request to "not go there".  Good for you for that.  Maybe next time you see her she'll be more inclined to visit. Debi

Strange how that happens, huh?  I'm sorry you felt yourself in that position!  It could be she felt jealous of the attention that you are now getting that she herself once got and is no longer.  You are such a wonderfully intuitive person congrats on not putting her on the spot. That is in part why I love this board so much!  We can talk! *hugs*

I know what you are talking about! The best thing to say to start off the conversation would be to say your looking great. If she takes the lead then go from there. If not leave it alone some are just not looking for support.

Hello Nicole....I think you handled that just right. She had her surgery before you and obviously didn't want to talk about it or she would have brought it up. Some people just don't like to talk about their journey.  I also agree that she could have felt alittle jealous because of all the attention you got.  Congrats on all your WOW moments!! Love and hugs sweetie.......connie d